Help an athiest get married in a Lutheran church.
February 24, 2010 8:20 AM Subscribe
What actually happens when you go to see an ELCA Lutheran pastor for pre-marriage meetings? Will the fact that we're both non-believers come up and will it be an issue?
posted by kthxbi to Religion & Philosophy (14 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
According to the pastor (technically the pastor at my "home" church but she came to the church after I left for college and after I dropped off the face of the church's planet so I barely know her), normally she likes to meet 5-6 times with a couple before officiating a wedding. Because we're having a very long distance wedding, she said it would be ok if we only met with her once so that we can "do a marriage inventory and talk about things like what you would like me to do for the ceremony, etc". She seemed *very* willing to work with us and to assure me she is very flexible. My question is, since I have no idea what we'll actually be talking about, do you think our religious views (and lack thereof) will come up and will it be a problem? I'm perfectly comfortable discussing with her my views and why I don't believe, I'm just worried she'll back out of officiating and I'm looking to avoid that hassle.
So, for those of you who were also married by an ELCA pastor - what kinds of things should my fiancé and I expect to discuss with her? In case it matters, my parents still attend that church weekly and both know her well and have gone to her for counseling and advice. Also, my parents know about my views towards religion.