February 4, 2010 8:04 AM Subscribe
How do you keep your sense of adventure when you sit in a cubicle and have to pick up the kids at 5 o'clock? I love my wife. I love my kids. I like the fact that my soul-sucking job allows me to use my brain while paying for piano lessons, vacations, and an educational trust. I am not looking to get rid of said wife, kids, or job. What I am looking for is a renewed sense of adventure within my current 'constraints'.
posted by kaizen to Religion & Philosophy (39 answers total) 101 users marked this as a favorite
When I was single anything was possibile. I think those possibilities kept me full of vigor. Even if I didn't go through with it, I could still entertain the thought of joining the peace corps, sleeping with the cute barista, or blowing a wad of money on a drum set. Instead, with consistency, I sit in traffic, sleep deprived, worrying about keeping my wife happy, kids safe, and job secure. I wonder if this is leading to a bit of mild depression and an existential crisis. Think of it as a mild case of American Beauty. I can't help to wonder if I was somewhat happier when I was single and had more freedom. I do realize that I am an adult now and stress and responsibility comes with the territory. I accept that. I also realize that things can't be that bad if I have the time to ponder like this.
My question is not about whether I should quit my job, and leave my wife and kids. Absolutely out of the question. My wife is awesome. My career is good. My question is about finding meaning, inspiration, adventure, and joie de vivre as a responsible, pragmatic, ladder climbing soccer dad.
I like my life, but I think I could love it with a different perspective or doing different things. How have you found balance while maxing out your 401k? What hobbies or activities help you feel like a hippie / rockstar again? From the outside looking in, most people would say my life is great. Inside, if I died tomorrow, my last words might be 'Meh!'