I want to live happily ever after.
January 16, 2010 11:37 PM Subscribe
I want to take up a questionable (but not illegal) profession to support myself through college. My boyfriend told me that if I do this, it's over. Is there a way to have my cake and eat it too?
posted by biochemist to education (44 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I did poorly my first semester in college. I got accepted elsewhere, got on medication, reduced my course load, etc. However, my family cut me off financially, which includes refusing to pay bills that they said they would in the past, so now I'm suddenly in $4400 debt. ($4000 of that being college-related)
I decided to get a job, but my track record with that (I've sent out about 30 applications three separate times since I graduated in '08, with no results) makes me think that isn't going to work. I'm also terrified that if I do get a job, I won't have enough time to devote to my studies and I'll fail again.
I did a few days worth of research and decided that if I could dance at a club, I could at least make enough to cover college costs and worry about the other stuff later.
My boyfriend made it clear that it's either stripping or him. Because of the gap in my schooling, "dump your high school boyfriend" doesn't work. We've been together long enough that we would both like to make things work, but we're at a standstill.
He would prefer that I stay home until I can save up enough for college. Because of a situation at home, I feel that would be (extremely) detrimental to my mental well-being. I would sooner break up with him and audition at the club than move back.
I've used up the school's financial aid, and I've been denied for private loans because I have no credit. I have no cosigner. I plan to apply for scholarships, but that still puts us back at the "what if it doesn't work" problem. Work-study wasn't on my aid report, but I applied anyway... still waiting to hear back.
My boyfriend has a family member who works at the bank and is going to try to get me a loan there, but unless she can pull some strings I'm not confident it'll work.
The boyfriend is already compromising on two things he said he wouldn't in the beginning, so the fact that he said "this or me" lets me know that this is a serious issue to him. So I don't think I can convince him to stay and also use my last-resort job. But I also want you to know that we're brainstorming together (we'll be reading this together too), so he didn't just say, "stripping or me, tough luck." He's pretty distraught, too.
If I'm denied, is there anything else I can do? It seems to be hard to have just yourself on the FAFSA. If there's some tips/tricks/etc I'm missing, I would be incredibly grateful.