Hosting the "guys' weekend"?
December 31, 2009 11:43 AM Subscribe
How can I help my husband host a successful "guys' weekend" at our house? What are the partner's typical obligations when friends of only spouse are visiting?
posted by yersinia to human relations (24 answers total)
My husband is having 5 close high-school friends over from various states to our house later this year. I'm told it's to be a typical guys' weekend of the sort they've had before at Vegas-- basically movies, sports, videogames, poker. Thing is, I (female) have never seen one of these things in action, and I'm confused about the extent of overlap with other, more familiar occasions, like having mutual friends or family over for a social visit. I'd really like to know what to expect, and what's expected of me (yes, I am a little neurotic about social stuff. why do you ask?).
For what it's worth, I'm on strictly friendly-acquaintance terms with each of the planned guests. And I've tried asking my husband, but he's not necessarily the most in-touch with social conventions and others' expectations, so some added perspectives would be nice.
So, some questions for anyone who's been there:
1. At these sorts of things, how much interaction is expected between Guys and Family (me + kid)? Am I supposed to hang about the living room constantly and chat with them, the way I would with regular friends, or do I just go about my business? We have a separate basement space where they'll likely be hanging out for much of the time, but do I need to drop by periodically to seem like an engaged hostess?
2. Should I be planning to provide thrice-daily regular meals at set times, or just a string of snacks/ DIY supplies? Are mealtimes generally communal (me + kid + Guys), or do I and the kid eat separately?
3. If I were to take the kid and leave the house to do my own thing periodically, that'd definitely be rude with normal guests. But is it OK during a guys' weekend?