November 28, 2009 1:24 PM Subscribe
Relatives-In-Law Might Run Shady Business From Home, Should I Go There For Christmas?
posted by anonymous to law & government (40 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Hi Ask.Metafilter, I really need your help.
I recently learned that my SO's relatives might be growing weed at their home (on West Coast). The relatives don't know that I know. Because my particular career might require a security clearance (which I do not have yet), I want NOTHING to do with it.
When I heard about their possible shady business I decided to never go to their home. It was a simple, private rule to keep me a safe distance from their possible shady business. I was happy meet them anywhere else (restaurant, etc..), just not at their house. However, now they have invited us to their home for Christmas morning.
I am faced with two bad choices:
1) Not go to their house, forcing my SO lie to the relatives about why I cannot make it. This hurts SO (alot) in the process (which I absolutely don't want to do), because she would have to lie, spend Christmas without me, and get grief from relatives because her SO isn't there.
2) Break my own rule, and go to their home. This choice is best for my SO, but puts me uncomfortably close to an possible activity I want no part of. Furthermore, I worry they might decide "come out of the closet" and talk about their shady gardening activities while I am there.
Currently, my plan is to go to their home for a few hours on Christmas morning and then leave, making the excuse that we have to go to another party. If they talk about their business, my SO and I would leave right away. My SO fully supports this plan.
What would you do? Does anyone know if going to their home will affect my chances of getting a security clearance (given that I am not sure they are doing it and have absolutely absolutely no part in it)? What are the dangers?
1. SO's relatives MIGHT grow weed from their home.
2. They don't know I know.
3. I might need security clearance in future.
4. Previously, I decided to never go to their home, just in case.
5. SO's relatives invited us to Christmas at their home.
6. I am worried going there would ruin my chances of getting security clearance.
P.S. Having Christmas morning outside the home (at a restaurant) is not an option.