How to write to someone who's dying?
October 4, 2009 6:16 AM Subscribe
How do I write a thank-you card to a sister-in-law who is dying?
posted by stenoboy to writing & language (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My ex's sister is dying from breast cancer at the young age of 50. It's all very harrowing and awful. She was wonderful to me and my ex when he had his own health crises and has continued to be generous and kind to me.
Now that her time here seems to be limited, I wanted to write and tell her how grateful I am for all she's done for me in the past. The problem is, I don't want to mention the fact - or allude to the fact - that she's in a bad way and this might be our last contact. I can't see a way round this in such a "thank you for all you've ever done" type communication. While I don't think she's in denial about what's happening, I don't want to be making it all sound so final. The aim is to be light and chatty yet I want to get in there that what she did for us was amazing.
Has anyone ever written a similar thing in similar circumstances?