Is it rare/impossible for parents-in-law to never meet each other?
September 8, 2009 9:36 AM Subscribe
Are any of you in a situation where your parents and your significant other's parents have never met, and the situation will probably remain this way? Is it awkward, or accepted? I am hoping for any kind of advice on the logistics of this. I feel like it's common for in-laws to know each other, but I don't know this for sure.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (28 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in a committed relationship with a great person, who I'd like to stick around with for a long time. However, we are both from families that seem to experience more than their share of drama.
For reasons of avoiding serious family strife, I have found it necessary to leave out key information when filling my parents in on details of our relationship (how/when we met, how long we have lived together, etc.) However, SO's parents know all the details, and so I am afraid of what could happen if my parents and SO's parents were ever to meet.
Some factors which may be relevant are that our parents live on opposite sides of the country, and neither couple travels. They are completely different types of people, and I am not sure that they would have any genuine interest in meeting and getting to know each other. If our relationship progresses to the point of wedding bells, we will not be creating a scenario where the presence of our families is expected, we are much more the eloping/very small ceremony type. This is out of respect for the fact that much of my extended family lives internationally, and it would be too much to ask of everyone to come visit.