Facebook friends with past abuser
July 13, 2009 11:27 AM Subscribe
Facebook's forcing me to deal with a family rift.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I just found my older sister on Facebook. My younger sister would probably be very distressed if I added her because of past abuse. I miss my older sister and my her children, but don't want to cause any trouble.
In addition, I'm worried that as more of our extended family and old friends get connected, they will inevitably start asking why we aren't "friends". I don't want to answer and also don't want to be dishonest.
I guess this is more of a relationship problem masquerading as a technical problem. On the one hand, I'm kind of glad that it's coming up after a decade because, as said, I miss my family. On the other hand, I'd really like to avoid upsetting my younger sister or my parents by bringing this all up again.
I will not expand on the abuse, so don't ask. All that's relevant is she is not a danger to her kids.
Is there any way to keep separate friends lists on Facebook that I'm not seeing? Any way to hide certain things without basically making Facebook useless?
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it?