Naive kid dating a single mom needs advice.
May 14, 2009 3:21 PM Subscribe
I'm 26, she's 28 with 3 kids. I need some advice about dating a single mom.
posted by Kupo? to human relations (22 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've been dating a wonderful girl long distance for just over 3 months now and I'm getting ready to move there within the next month. I'm comfortable with the relationship aspect, but she has 3 girls under 10 from a previous marriage and I feel totally unprepared for interacting with them. We've been seeing each other on the weekends every 2 weeks when her ex-husband has them so it hasn't been an issue, but being around on a day to day basis will surely change that.
I've been planning on making this move for the last couple years and met her while visiting friends, which is who I'll be living with, so I'm not moving in with her or anything. She hasn't said much about it other than that she has friends over all the time but that she wouldn't want to show any physical affection or allow me to spend the night when the kids were around. I have absolutely no problem with this. She seems to be a great mom and has a lot of help from her friends and family. The ex-husband pays child support and has the kids every other weekend. She says they don't really talk much anymore but that he's a really good father.
If it's not obvious, I'm pretty lost. I'm not even sure what details to provide that would be helpful for receiving advice. The fact that she has kids doesn't bother me, but I know that's partly because she's the most amazing person I've ever met. I think maybe I just don't know what I'm getting myself into. Any help (first hand advice from single moms, any other guys that have been in this situation) would be greatly appreciated.