Should I leave my girlfriend?
November 14, 2004 10:31 PM Subscribe
Should I leave my girlfriend? [more inside]
We've been together three and a half years. We've had lots of good times, but there's one big problem in the relationship. Sex. It's very important to me, but not at all to her. She's never managed to have an orgasm (with me or anyone else), which I guess could be either a symptom of, or the cause of, the problem. I've been supportive since day one, tried to get her to deal with it (candles, wine, self-help books, 'marital aids') without putting on pressure, but she's refused to. I love her it saddens me that I'm not needed sexually (I guess we have sex less than once a month), and find myself resenting her. I've talked to her about my feelings, but nothing changes, so I think the resentment is going to grow.
But she's warm, interesting, beautiful and funny, and one of the most caring people I know. She's very affectionate towards me, and I know if we stay together, she'd make a great partner in every other way.
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