Kids masturbation talk time?
March 20, 2009 8:08 PM Subscribe
Help me talk to my son about masturbation!
My son just turned eleven. Over the last couple of months he's spent more and more time bathing. He'll try to take a bath several times a day if I don't stop him. I've asked him about cleanliness and whether he worries about body odors. He says he just likes baths but he's also really nervous about the topic and doesn't want to discuss it for very long. Blushing and staring at his feet are usually involved.
The consensus in our household is that we believe he's stumbled onto masturbation. Normally I would not care but I think it's a waste of water to run a bath every time! I don't want to discourage his sense of discovery but I would gently like to inform him of the concept of lotion and such without mortifying him. He clearly doesn't want to talk to his mother about this, and I respect that. I can't ask his father to talk to him, however, because he is the shaming sort and thinks it a sin (we are divorced). The only other consistent male in his life is my partner if many years but I'm afraid sending him in for me might make my son die a little inside.
My son and I have a very open door relationship. How can I handle this? Leave a big bottle of lotion in the bathroom? What are my options?
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