Sorry, another job question....
February 25, 2009 9:36 PM Subscribe
Is this worth finding a new job over?
posted by universal_qlc to work & money (43 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
As established in previous posts, I work at a Big Defense Contracting company. As an engineer, in the past two years I've memorably:
(1) Gotten jokes that about making people cry during our technical interviews (I didn't)..."especially the female ones."
(2) Questions if I would "stick around as my life...progresses." Am I incorrect in thinking they are trying to ask about whether I plan to have babies and/or leave the workforce to have them?
(3) Been asked if I "could smile some more", which I'm quite sure no one would ever ask one of the menfolk-type engineers walking around.
(4) Been asked if I am "a real engineer."
(5) Been told that I am "a real pretty lady."
(6) Had a coworker inform me when I met him that were "getting good about hiring women and minorities." (I am both)
And so forth, on and on. It happens once every couple of weeks. I also keep being mistaken for some OTHER young, female engineer of the my race, and we don't actually look anything alike.
With the exception of managers asking about my life plans, I generally give people the cold put down when these sorts of things happen. (i.e., "I didn't cry during or after my interview, and I doubt anyone else did." or "Yes, I am a real engineer." Delivered with a totally dead, straight face). Offenders are mostly male, non-management senior-level engineers. Management does a good job of never, ever making these kinds of comments.
I'm tired of it, but I feel that these things fall within a gray area that doesn't warrant a visit to HR and that complaints would fall on deaf ears, anyway. For the most part, it doesn't hamper my work or make my life harder than it would be without the comments, but it sure hampers my mood once in a while.
So the actual question: Anecdotally, will this be different at another company or in another industry where a MechE could find employment? Or do I need to just suck it up because this happens everywhere? (Really, it's my first engineering job - I don't know. I'd hope not).