What to do for my friend whose boyfriend just died?
January 14, 2009 12:49 PM Subscribe
My roommate's boyfriend just died. My other roommates and I want to do something for her, but we are drawing a blank.
posted by firei to human relations (24 answers total)
I live in a dorm with five other girls, with two people to a bedroom. This morning, I was in the bathroom when I heard crying.
I came out, and I could tell that my roommate was sobbing hysterically in our closed bedroom. The five of us then stood around awkwardly, trying to decide whether or not we should go in and try to comfort her and ask what was wrong, or wait until she was ready to come out.
Eventually, she came out, and she told us that her boyfriend of a year died. (He was 21, had cancer, and lives in Hong Kong.) We sat in the living room with her and tried to be there for her. She told us that we didn't need to sit there and watch her cry, and shortly there after, went back into our room. She left the door open and was talking to a friend online and still crying.
Flash forward a few hours, and she's out with one of her friends from back home, who may or may not have known her boyfriend. She's clearly distraught.
The five of us would really like to do something for her, but, we have no ideas of what to do.