Not invited to a friends wedding but everyone else is
September 27, 2008 6:18 AM Subscribe
A good friend is getting married. All of our mutual friends (and acquaintances) are invited, but me. How do deal with the social awkwardness?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (38 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
A and I have been friends for 5 years. We instantly became best buds and have had some great times hiking and doing outdoorsy things. We see each other every other week, like to drink socially and frequently go dancing. We talk a lot, rant about our bosses, share personal issues etc.
Fast forward to present day and she is getting married. A and I also have a ton of mutual friends. I am very close with her maid of honor and two bridesmaids.
Two months ago, both bridesmaids asked me if I would like to share a cabin with them for the wedding. I said I don't know yet but keep me posted. The wedding is a month away and I didn't get invited so I assumed it's really close friends only. So far so good. However, thanks to facebook, I have been seeing a lot of wall posts from other friends who are planning to attend the wedding. Hmm ok.
But today, a guy that the two of us have known for under 6 months asked if we could carpool. Now I'm totally confused.
All of my experiences I've had in my twenties have made me fairly thick skinned so I am not hurt very much by this but the whole thing is getting akward because of our mutual friends. Bridesmaid called again and left a message asking if I still wanted in on the cabin. I don't want to make a big deal and say but hey A didn't invite me. Also, given how facebook shoves everything into my newsfeed, this whole thing is constantly in my face. I am not upset with her, more like puzzled because we have had no falling out of any sort (she came to visit me a week ago and we had an awesome time).
Also, It would be hard to lie and say but I'm really busy at work because she and all of friends know that I am in between projects with plenty of free time on my hands. Should I lie anyway and say that I have something more important that weekend?