How do I stop being the butt of all the jokes?
September 17, 2008 3:08 PM Subscribe
Grr, how to stop being the butt of all the jokes and defend... it's getting annoying!
posted by dragontail to Human Relations (34 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
To explain the situation: I've always been the one in a group to get the mickey taken out of.
I do make a good target though: being quite ditzy, slow, and lacking wittiness to respond to jokes directed at me. The group clown as you will. Pretty sure you all know what I'm on about :) Also, in group conversations, I tend not to say much, usually letting the rest of the group do the talking. Don't get me wrong, I'm quite comfortable with speaking - this is not about confidence. It's just since I can't "control" the conversation as well, the jokes tend to targeted more towards me. Lastly, I'm Asian, so usual racist "token" banter is present on top of everything. lol.
This usually doesn't really bother me too much, but I'm not spending the rest of my life being steamrollered by everyone else. Also, ever noticed that generally, the alpha(s) (fe)male(s) [aka the leader] in the group don't get any of this crap? They somehow turn the few they do get thrown at them against the guy who pitched the joke, usually with style to boot. I want to know how they do that.
So to sum it up:
1. How to stop being the clown? How do the alphas deal with it? What's the secret here?
2. Okay, everyone is going to get the mickey taken out of them at some point. How do I say: "Enough crap. Cut it out!" in a friendly manner? Key word here being friendly. I mean, being aggressive results in profanity, which alienates people. So how do you do it?
3. BONUS: How do you learn to be more witty so that you can turn the tables?