May 2018 Archives
May 31
Need help in interpreting the "Check Engine" codes for a Kia Rio
I have a 2008 Kia Rio. It failed inspection because of the "Check Engine" light. My Google-fu is failing me in diagnosing the exact problem. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 8:50 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by akk2014 at 8:50 PM PST - 7 comments
Life after micromanagement
I'm having trouble making decisions and having opinions now that someone actually wants me to. This is bad. [more inside]
Is job hunting with a PhD -really- that bad?
The time has come. I'm nearing the end of my PhD, am definitely at the end of my funding, and need to look for work. I don't want to stay in academia. I've heard a lot about hiring managers bypassing PhDs but is this actually the case? [more inside]
posted by thebots at 8:01 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by thebots at 8:01 PM PST - 14 comments
New song with an old refrain, a deep male voice "shoop-a-doop..."
It sounded a lot like "The Book of Love." The lead singer was a male vocalist, much higher, who was doing a very credible Roackbilly, I heard it at the Old Navy when I was buying shoes, and not pretending their canvas sneaks are the most comfy on the planet for old 90's dudes. Nope.
Pun Me Up, Scotty!
I'm participating in a Dad Joke Battle Fundraiser for a school group this weekend. I've been well prepared for the traditional read-a-joke version by my grandfathers, father, many uncles, and most recently even my husband. But, there's a long form portion to the evening for which I will need to tell a dad joke longer than four sentences! What is your best and can you give it to me, Dads of Metafilter?
posted by zizzle at 7:54 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by zizzle at 7:54 PM PST - 20 comments
Back to work - for a while - after birth of a preemie.
My husband and I had our baby at just 28 weeks gestation via emergency c-section on May 21. Now I've been discharged, he's going to be in the NICU for a while, and I'd like to go back to work, on a limited basis, until he's home.
How do I set expectations with my co-workers, clients, etc. during my return, knowing that I'll be back on leave in a few months? [more inside]
posted by Coffeemate at 7:43 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Coffeemate at 7:43 PM PST - 7 comments
Songs with factual errors in them?
Toto's "Africa" refers to Mount Kilimanjaro rising above the Serengeti, but the mountain isn't actually in that geographic area. Chicago's song "Saturday in the Park" has a line that's supposed to be someone singing in Italian, but it's actually made-up Italian-sounding gibberish. What other songs have factual mistakes and errors in them?
Earliest persistent arcade high score list?
When coin-op arcade games first started featuring high score lists, they didn't have any sort of writable media, and so the high scores were simply kept in volatile memory, to disappear when the machine was turned off. When did this change? What was the first arcade machine to write scores to something more durable than RAM, and when did it become common?
posted by baf at 6:44 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by baf at 6:44 PM PST - 10 comments
Swedish death cleaning from a distance
I am helping my parents downsize their possessions after moving. Have you worked with estate liquidators or antiques auctioneers in St. Louis, MO that you recommend? What was the process like? [more inside]
Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Toledo, Spain edition
Our family will be spending two nights in Toledo, Spain in July. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
Chuck, you sly dog...
I've got ~5# of ~1" cubed chuck that I need to eat (or freeze) by dinner tomorrow. What should I make? Serves 4 (w/leftovers). [more inside]
posted by TigerMoth at 5:14 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by TigerMoth at 5:14 PM PST - 11 comments
Best Carry On Bag?
What is the best carry on bag for air travel? [more inside]
Tomato Bread in Barcelona
We are looking for the best tomato bread in or near El Born. [more inside]
Easy flower bed recommendations
I recently pulled up some bushes from my front yard and have a blank flower bed about 15 feet by 5 feet. I'm looking for the easiest, low maintenance and cheap plants that will look nice and live. [more inside]
How does America's Test Kitchen decide how to run taste tests?
America's Test Kitchen's taste tests are awesome, but have they ever explained how they decide to conduct their tests? For instance, in their most recent test of vanilla extract, they say that "vanilla experts" taste it in milk, and they also tasted it in pudding. Seems pretty straightforward. But in an older test, they tasted it in panna cotta. Why panna cotta? That's just one example—curious more generally about their choices, and particularly if Jack Bishop has ever discussed this topic in any detail.
The lights will flicker on and off...
Whenever I'm really tired (like I've been up all day), my eyesight flickers when I blink. Kind of like when the power acts up and the lights flicker in a room. But with whatever I'm looking at. What the hell is that? Is it my brain being tired, or my eyes being tired? Is there a name for this phenomenon? I'm 23 and have astigmatism treated with glasses. I just find it weird and am curious.
I don't have to give you my name!
Is there ever any advantage to refusing to identify yourself to a police officer? [more inside]
posted by Gnella at 12:37 PM PST - 28 comments
posted by Gnella at 12:37 PM PST - 28 comments
Insurance company runaround in Canada. Advice please.
My mom visited the US in December 2017 and had a fall while there. She was treated at hospital and gave them the insurance info. When she returned to Canada, she sent the claim forms to the insurance company. The claim is still not processed. I would like to know if filing a complaint to the BBB is appropriate, and if not, what else I can do to make sure that the company processes the claim and pays the bill ($4000 USD). It is stressing all of us out, especially my mom. Background info inside. [more inside]
Casual English to Japanese translation with quick turnaround?
I'm sending a letter to Japan on Friday around 3PM (EDT). It'll likely be fewer than 250 words of English, and I'd like to get it translated into Japanese. However, I won't be able to finish the letter until later tonight (around 4 to 5 hours after the time of posting). Are there any services/translators out there that can finish a translation within this time frame? At the very latest I'd need to send the letter by noon (EDT) Saturday. [more inside]
posted by brieche at 12:27 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by brieche at 12:27 PM PST - 6 comments
Help me get through the next few days, please
My husband told me today that he wants to end our nearly 30-year marriage. The timing and circumstances of this, and the way he did it, couldn't be more devastating. I will lose not only my husband but nearly every other good thing in my life. I feel like I'm having a breakdown. I'm gripped with fear and panic, pacing the floor, can't eat, can't sleep, running to the bathroom. Can you please give me some practical advice and words of wisdom for just making it through this week?
My employer eliminated my dept today. What do I do now?
I’ve worked at the same company for 18 years. Today my team of 7, including my direct supervisor, was told that our dept—and our specific positions—are being eliminated. I am in shock and literally have no idea what to do next. [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 12:02 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by bookmammal at 12:02 PM PST - 23 comments
Help me remember/attribute a quote about fascism and chess
Sometime in the last couple years, somewhere on the internet (likely on MetaFilter but maybe not) I read something which I'll paraphrase here: "Fascists use the same strategy for 3-dimensional chess as any other game; if their opponent reaches a hand toward the board, they smash it with a truncheon." I don't know if the context I saw it in was as a quote from some other medium or an original observation, and find myself wanting to quote it but not knowing how to attribute it. Does it ring any bells?
In search of: Something's Wrong - Violent Femmes album
I'm looking for an album by Violent Femmes called "Something's Wrong" and I can't find it anywhere. [more inside]
Help me find a song with the lyrics "enjoy the ride... the madness".
This is driving me mad for about a week now. I am not even sure anymore whether the song really exists. I can only remember that the lyrics were something like "enjoy the ride... the madness". Google is no help. So this might not be 100% correct. Giving my taste in music, it is very likely some indie tune. I am grateful for any suggestions.
Show me the money
I am applying and interviewing for other positions in my field. My question is pretty straightforward, however the answer (or your answer) could be anything but. How can an applicant for a job suss out what kind of financial situation, good or bad, that the potential employer is in? [more inside]
posted by strelitzia at 10:53 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by strelitzia at 10:53 AM PST - 5 comments
Learning to Play Poker - Total Novice Edition!
What are the best apps or other resources for learning how to play poker, and to use for casual practice? [more inside]
What kind of packaging for family DVDs?
I'm burning some DVDs of family movies that will be bundled in sets of 2 discs. Then I'm mailing them to family. Do you think people would prefer to get the cds in those paper CD envelopes, or in plastic cases? [more inside]
Online Teaching... how do I get there?
I've been a creative pro for a long time. Now I'd like to get into teaching online (design, marketing, marketing assistant bootcamp etc). Do you have recommendations on how to go about this? Platforms? [more inside]
Hey kid, wanna buy some eggs?
My company has approximately 80,000 eggs that we need to get rid of as quickly as possible. The eggs are in the Seattle area. I am in Sacramento, and I have been tasked with finding a buyer. This is outside of my area of expertise, and I'm not trying to cold call every super market in the area. How do I go about finding a buyer (or buyers)? Is there a Seattle-area eggBay that I'm not aware of? [more inside]
posted by sacrifix at 8:42 AM PST - 26 comments
posted by sacrifix at 8:42 AM PST - 26 comments
Doing bodywork remotely
I'm interested in Egoscue bodywork (working with alignment to relieve chronic pain).However, there's not one near me, so I'd have to do either the web option or the less expensive option involving photos. I'm not sure about doing any bodywork this way--have you tried it? Would you recommend it?
Bookfilter: Smashing the Patriarchy, Gothic Victorian Style
I love both Fingersmith (and all other Sarah Waters novels--assume I have already read them all) and The Crimson Petal and the White. What should I read next? [more inside]
What to expect from ADHD counseling?
I'm seeking help managing my adult ADHD for the the first time. I've never had any kind of counseling or been formally diagnosed. I'd like to have a clear idea of what to expect to get out of counseling and whether a particular therapist is a good fit. [more inside]
Save me from reading books with my phone light
There's a small light fitting next to my bed, which has always been empty since I moved in seven years ago. If you can help me work out what bulb I need to buy, you might save my eyes/battery. Location: London. [more inside]
Commute-friendly meals
I'm starting my new internship tomorrow, and I'm going to have a two hour commute each way until August. I may need to eat breakfast and potentially dinner during my commute sometimes. I'm limited to odorless “snack-type” foods on the bus. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Group Activities w/ a screen projector
During the pizza nights that I sometimes host, we sometimes play around on the screen. Usually while eating or the sipping afterwards, we navigate Google maps and show countries we're from, potential vacation spots or sometimes Mars. What are some other fun multimedia group ideas with a projector? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 7:21 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by tedious at 7:21 AM PST - 13 comments
Why am I still getting brute force login attempts on my Wordpress site?
For a bunch of historical reasons, we currently self-host Wordpress for our corporate site. This confuses me, because I thought I’d taken steps that would make this impossible. [more inside]
What should I expect from health insurance and a registered dietician ?
I went to see an registered dietician today because I need to lose some weight, my health insurance covers it and I’ll be leaving my job in two months so I’d like to get out of it what I can.
I left feeling confused about if my expectations were in line or not and a bit let down that it might not be as helpful as I thought. What do you expect from your RD and what does insurance cover? [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 6:42 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by raccoon409 at 6:42 AM PST - 10 comments
Fun, visual ways to give students a 1:4 probability
My students will take 4 quizzes. To prepare for each quiz, I will allow them to fill one index card with notes or formulas that they will have a 1 in 4 chance of being able to use during the quiz. Just the act of writing down notes concise enough to fit on a card helps students organize and prepare very well, but they are more motivated to use this method with an incentive. I picked giving them a 1:4 probability of being able to use their notecard during the quiz, making it 'open note,' and am now brainstorming fun ways to carry this out.
I could do a double coin flip, where either heads or tails is called, and two coins have to display what was called. Or I thought about filling 4 beakers full of water and adding food coloring to one and then covering them and getting someone to randomly pick one.
Any other fun things I could try?
May 30
you say tomato, I say tomahto
Looking for recs of types of couples counseling. I understand some of the different types of individual therapy, but I'm a bit at a loss as to what options are available for couples to do together. [more inside]
So, how do I tell my professor that I was a bitch?
Oh boy, so on Saturday I asked a question about a group project I'm in and how it wasn't going well, etc. Since then, the project has gone from bad to worse. How do I describe what happened in my group to my professor (we have to write a paper about how the assignment went and our group members)? I have no idea what to say. [more inside]
Recipe for one serving blueberry crumble?
I'd like to make a dessert with about 1/2 cup blueberries (from frozen) and then crumble a cookie on top and then heat but I am not sure if I should thaw first? use oven or microwave? what temp? [more inside]
posted by cda at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by cda at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments
Movies where love conquers all
Can you recommend any movies about couples who have really fraught relationships but persevere and find happiness together? I'm talking about real interpersonal conflict--broken trust, bad arguing styles, etc.
Has retainer-making technology improved at all?
After my retainer finally broke after several years of use, I had my dentist make me a new one that fit kind of funny, like it wasn't molded to my teeth correctly. I had her adjust it many times but it still doesn't feel right and she seems to have given up on it. I think I'd like to get an orthodontist to do one instead, and I'm wondering if there's better technology out there now than the putty impression, like scanning the mouth or something, that I can ask about.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 7:27 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by madonna of the unloved at 7:27 PM PST - 5 comments
Who was here before me?
How can I find out who lived at my address in the late 1970s or early 1980s? [more inside]
posted by Ideefixe at 5:37 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Ideefixe at 5:37 PM PST - 9 comments
Help me understand DNS stuffs for .to TLD ...
I own a bunch of domains on PairNic. I have no trouble altering their DNS info so that their sites (mostly Squarespace) load. However, today, I purchased a .TO domain from tonic.to only to discover that, though they allow you to alter some DNS stuff, not the DNS stuff I need to point to Squarespace. Help? [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 5:22 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by dobbs at 5:22 PM PST - 5 comments
Why am I so chaos-driven?
I am frustrated with the state of my relationships, both interpersonal and professionally. I feel like I have left a path of burned bridges behind me. Why am I doing this? How do I stop doing this? [more inside]
Resignation letter when a contract ends?
I currently work for a university as a post-doc. My contract is up unexpectedly at the end of June (not related to my performance at all, but rather a grant moving to a different institution). For offboarding they've asked me for a resignation letter. This seems odd to me, since I'm not resigning - my contract is ending sooner than I'd like through no input of my own. Is this fishy, and do I give up any rights by putting my name on a statement of resignation?
Step up my website and photo management workflow
I design and update the website for a major yearly community event. My workflow and tech resources need an upgrade. While most of the year I work from my home iMac desktop, I've been using a Windows 7 laptop during the event weekend itself. But that laptop is dying and needs replacing. Can you help me figure out if an iPad Pro will suit my needs? (specific issues inside...) [more inside]
I Can't Believe It's Not Butterbeer is not a thing
I have leftover margarine. What should I do with it? [more inside]
[AU PR filter] Do they really check the residency requirement for a RRV?
Australia expat filter: When applying for a RRV, does the government actually check/enforce the two-year residency rule or are they just happy accepting the fee and granting the RRV, even if you haven't lived in Australia at all in the past five years? [more inside]
Can I have a bit... less... service, please?
I love elaborate, expensive, multi-course meals. I HATE the service that comes with it. Can I ask for something different? [more inside]
posted by cilantro at 1:14 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by cilantro at 1:14 PM PST - 8 comments
Am I going to have to quit my job and grow all my own food?
I'm vegan. I buy my clothes and shoes second hand. I don't have air conditioning. You get the picture. Still, I sometimes feel like I can't get through a day without harming the planet or exploiting people. How do you maintain your ethics in this global capitalist economy? [more inside]
posted by probably not that Karen Blair at 1:03 PM PST - 39 comments
posted by probably not that Karen Blair at 1:03 PM PST - 39 comments
Find my tribe or climb the ladder?
After a deeply frustrating tenure at my current job, today I received offers from two other companies. I'm torn between the workplace where I think I'd fit in best socially, and the one which has the most potential to move me down my chosen career path but whose politics risk being similar to the environment I'm in now. All other things being equal, what should I be prioritising as I move into the next part of my working life? [more inside]
posted by peakes at 1:00 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by peakes at 1:00 PM PST - 10 comments
Jury duty in NYC and work travel. Should I postpone?
I've been selected for jury duty in NYC on a Friday. I have a work trip (that I cannot reschedule) starting the following Monday. Should I a) show up on the Friday and explain that I cannot serve if they put me on a jury for the following week due to my work travel or b) postpone? (Note: I travel a lot for work, often at short notice, which makes postponing tricky.)
Metafilter, am I a slob?
I love nice t-shirts. Apparently I also love salads, butter, and I dunno....sunscreen? Help. Every t-shirt I get survives a roughly week-long cycle before it returns, freshly laundered, with a few dark circles of oil stain that make it impossible to wear the shirt for work. I got an adorable t-shirt with a barred owl on it on Saturday and it looks like I loaned it to Fred Flintstone. [more inside]
What is a good book for relationships with elderly parents.
Asking for a friend: I am looking for a good book that deals with navigating the waters of adults relating to their elderly parents, especially in regard to ways to have healthy communications between them. I'll take whatever has worked for you or someone you know. [more inside]
Looking for On-The-Fly Photo Slideshow software
I'm looking for Windows software that will create an auto-scrolling slideshow of photos from an arbitrary list of images - not just whole folders - does it exist? [more inside]
posted by Nice Guy Mike at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Nice Guy Mike at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments
KNOPE ME PLEASE
I am absolutely dead sick and tired of my career. I would love to get a job in local or county or state government, but it seems like an impenetrable fortress. Please give me your tips and tricks for getting hired for government work! [more inside]
How do I protect myself, while giving myself a chance at love?
I am in love with a girl, who also has feelings for me, but because of various traumas [TW], she isn't in a position to be in a relationship right now. We are long-distance, and it's not clear that she would want a traditional relationship even if those barriers went away. I spend significant time and energy on her and after our last visit, it's become clear that we need to set emotional boundaries to keep ourselves from getting hurt. How do we do that? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
O Kite Masters, Why Won't My Octopus Fly?
I'm trying to make a kite (or five)(or ten but whatever, can we start with one) that is/are basically a copy of this , but better looking to our eyes-in-the-sky. My friend, a pretty good costume designer, made a pattern from the store bought one, all the measurements are precise, (as far as we can measure) but the sucker(s) still won't launch. We are totally baffled. What are we overlooking? [more inside]
Real estate conundrum - what's the best faith action here?
I wrote a question a while back about buying a house, and everything worked out, and we are under contract, with a closing date of this Friday (two days from now). Now everything is falling apart. It's not our fault, but we feel like maybe we should compensate the sellers? [more inside]
Dare to be sickly
Have you seen the current Weird Al Yankovic concert tour? If so, please help me with the timing. [more inside]
posted by Homeboy Trouble at 9:02 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Homeboy Trouble at 9:02 AM PST - 10 comments
Mooooo
Please give me all your best recipes that contain lots of milk. [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 8:19 AM PST - 37 comments
posted by Melismata at 8:19 AM PST - 37 comments
Being heard in the bedroom (literally).
I find it near impossible to speak when turned on. I'm not sure of the cause, but I'd prefer to be able to communicate like everyone else.
I stutter my way through even the most pedestrian of responses. Having a conversation makes me feel like an idiot. [more inside]
i need to stop bidding for approval
I've developed an annoying habit of trying to elicit approval in my primary relationship and I want to stop. [more inside]
8 year old niece wants me to give her art lessons.
Yay! But what should I teach her?
Constraints: she wants drawing and painting, not watercolor. This will be on vacation, and I'm flying light. Her mom will bring the paints. I don't know what kind, probably acrylic. [more inside]
posted by banjonaut at 5:09 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by banjonaut at 5:09 AM PST - 23 comments
Can anyone identify the DC-area Hilton in this video?
Some Reddit edgelord filmed himself cutting the tape that some school chaperones had placed on the hotel room doors of their students. Assuming he's too cowardly to own up himself, they need somebody to tip off the adults and clear their name. Can anyone identify the DC-area Hilton in this video and help save a bunch of kids from being unjustly punished? [more inside]
posted by Rhaomi at 4:24 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by Rhaomi at 4:24 AM PST - 11 comments
Music library on multiple devices—iTunes? Alternatives?
My partner and I have a somewhat complex setup of many shared devices that I manage, all OSX or iOS. I've set up an Apple account for each of us. We're musicians who play together and have a large common collection of music. Since there's very little music we don't want to share and since I end up doing all the managing anyway, I would love to have just one collection of music that could be synced on all our devices and accessed by both users. [more inside]
Devon and Dorset, or anywhere else in England
Girlfriend and I are taking a short trip to England this summer and aren't sure where to go. We're thinking SW, but we need to factor in transit, etc. Any suggestions for Devon and Dorset, or should we be aiming for another part of the country altogether? [more inside]
May 29
What was this Japanese train show?
A while ago, I inadvertently signed up for the Channel NewsAsia channel. One of the shows which I serendipitously came across involved a group of people racing (in a sedate manner) across Japan using the train networks. What was this show? [more inside]
posted by antipodes at 11:50 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by antipodes at 11:50 PM PST - 2 comments
Not a baker or a candlestick maker
I would like to hear how one becomes a professional butcher these days. [more inside]
WOooow Wouldja look at that!
Seeking movie scenes where character comes to a new town/city and is dazzled at the sights/colors [more inside]
What to eat/do in NYC?
Going to be in NYC again during a week in June (Tuesday - Thursday, no weekends). Looking for suggestions for food and architecture-specific things! [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 9:56 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by bluelight at 9:56 PM PST - 21 comments
MovingFilter: How much is it really worth imagining Worst Case Scenarios
There are a trillion things to consider when you're picking where to move and hopefully settle for goddamn ever. Is it worth factoring in the somewhat unknowable disasters of the future? [more inside]
What are some online art galleries you recommend?
I want to look at art - paintings, photos, other media in person, but I live in a small city. What are some online galleries that would satisfy my thirst?
A Little Bigger Than the Brady Bunch
A colleague just gave me the idea of naming the school instruments I check out to kids, and I need help thinking of categories of characters (fictional or non) to name them after and put on their identifying tags. Difficulty: a couple groups of 20-40. [more inside]
Process when you’re suspended on Facebook with spite report
Wondering if I can get some advice. I’ve been suspended on Facebook with a spite report. My violation of community standards was a civil comment on a politicised gesture where the page owner was asking for thoughts. I didn’t even swear!
I’ve seen so much egregious racism violence all the phobias and I find it perplexing that this can happen and there’s no way to appeal. I coordinate school music accounts and various social and activism groups and cannot even use the messenger or phone call part. Even though that’s a separate app!
How can I undo /appeal/ speak to Facebook?
Deep freezer failed while on vacation. It's bad.
The raw meat is fully hot now, putrid smell, small maggots forming. What's the safest and least repulsive way to deal with this mess? We will throw out the entire appliance duct taped shut if needed/possible. My spouse vomited several times trying to handle it. I can handle the smell but not the maggots. Help.
Is there a connection between the Gipsy Kings and Providence, RI?
I was just in Providence for a vacation. I ate at Los Andes, which has a cocktail called "Bamboléo, Bamboléa" and was also playing the Gipsy Kings' music all night long. Then the next day, someone was using a Gipsy Kings song to test the speakers for WaterFire. Is there some kind of specific local connection or was this just a coincidence? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 5:33 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by capricorn at 5:33 PM PST - 3 comments
Music videos for my daughter
I'm looking for music videos that are swear-free, appropriate for children, have an interesting through-line, feature girls, and have music you could at least sway to. Also, they should be on Youtube. [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 5:19 PM PST - 43 comments
posted by selfnoise at 5:19 PM PST - 43 comments
How to understand dyslexia as a non-dyslexic?
I'm looking for resources to understand dyslexia as a non-dyslexic. I can google but a lot of the information is geared around kids, and I am more interested in issues specifically impacting adults, like difficulty in reading maps. [more inside]
WordPress templates that forefront search bar?
Looking for resources to help a non-savvy person create a basic searchable catalog website . [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 2:50 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Dorinda at 2:50 PM PST - 2 comments
How to do the math on self insuring?
How would I work out how much to set aside for self insuring against the loss of an item which depreciates? [more inside]
Boys to Men - Rites of passage from scratch?
I’ve read a lot of anthropological and historical theory and fieldwork on rites of passage for boys/men, but I’d like to get some real-world, contemporary ideas about the kinds of things you—as a boy/man—did, or were done to you, that... [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl at 1:15 PM PST - 38 comments
posted by cocoagirl at 1:15 PM PST - 38 comments
Make My New OneNote Fighting Technique Unstoppable
Help me make OneNote my organized outboard brain. I've been using for a few years with a throw-everything-in-and-let-search-find-it method. I need better OneNote fu that doesn't lead to missed assignments or misplaced notes. [more inside]
posted by conscious matter at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by conscious matter at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments
Can this Bear be saved?
I found this bear in the trash. I want to rescue him, but am not sure how to deal with the rot. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Marky at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments
Does eating a banana change the taste of coffee?
I ate a banana, then drank a pour-over coffee, and the coffee was super-bitter the first few sips. I don't remember this happening before, and after a few minutes/additional sips, the taste went back to it's normal, mellow-self. I hadn't eaten anything else, and it was a coffee shop that typically does good pour overs. Did eating the banana change my experience of the coffee? [more inside]
posted by Gorgik at 12:21 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by Gorgik at 12:21 PM PST - 11 comments
GreaterBostonFilter: Flyering in Newton
I’m playing a show in Newton, Mass. on Saturday! Where should I hang flyers? (The show is in Auburndale Village.) Bonus points for T accessibility.
'Consent' requirements for recording phone calls
You are not my lawyer, and any answers to this will not be construed as legal advice. My question revolves around definitions of 'consent', and how long that consent can last, when recording phone conversations in a two-party state in the US (specifically, CA). [more inside]
My dad has a rare cancer. How do I best advocate for him?
Pops has been diagnosed with a rare cancer for which there is very little information available, even in the scientific / medical community. Controversy exists over the best treatment but recent research is shedding a little light on the best path forward. I'm a researcher by trade and want to make this information known and available to his doctors but how do I best do that without seeming confrontational or off-putting? [more inside]
An Undetectable Extension Charm carry-on
I'm looking for a *large* carry-on hardside suitcase which still meets major US airline size requirements. Can you recommend one? [more inside]
The US-Canadian Border and Plate Techtonics
A long stretch of the US Canadian border is defined by treaty as the 49th parallel. The border between Vermont and Canada is the 45th parallel. The North American plate is moving southwest by 2-3 inches a year. Does this mean the US is slowly getting land from Canada? If so what happens to this added territory — who owns it? Do we have to move the border posts and fences every few decades? [more inside]
posted by interogative mood at 9:10 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by interogative mood at 9:10 AM PST - 9 comments
family member died in another state
We live in Ohio. My parents (and uncle & aunt) were driving from there to Texas to see my brother. What angles are my siblings and I not covering here? Are there things we're not doing that we should be? [more inside]
posted by automatic cabinet at 8:40 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by automatic cabinet at 8:40 AM PST - 11 comments
Our cat is pooping on my new flatmate's stuff. Help?
I am looking after my fiancee's cat for about a year while she finishes her studies in another country. In order to cover rent in the 2BR place i was sharing with her, i got a flatmate three weeks ago (I could not afford anything bigger than a studio on my own, which would not be great for the cat). He's a sweet boy, 8 years old, a total lovebug.....but......he only poops in the litterbox about 10% of the time and my flatmate just texted to say he pooped on her throw. How do i get this behaviour to end ASAP? [more inside]
posted by MarianHalcombe at 8:31 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by MarianHalcombe at 8:31 AM PST - 12 comments
Luggageless in Ljubljana
Where can a tall, thin female get somewhat professional clothing in downtown Ljubljana right now? Also, how does one motivate an airline to find one's luggage? [more inside]
posted by buxtonbluecat at 8:29 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by buxtonbluecat at 8:29 AM PST - 11 comments
Things to do near Zurich, 2018 Edition
Me: Going from Berlin to Zurich to pick up a synthesizer I bought, staying in a place in Zurich for a couple of days. [more inside]
posted by nikaspark at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by nikaspark at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments
Delivery room dilemma
My due date is 5 weeks away and my husband and I are at an impasse. I want him in the delivery room with me and he really, really doesn’t want to be there. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:44 AM PST - 79 comments
posted by pintapicasso at 6:44 AM PST - 79 comments
Help me Youtube
I having been trying for about a day to upload a 15 minute Youtube video from the Youtube app (on my Iphone) for a project. [more inside]
Looking for a bar in Copenhagen to watch the Iceland-Argentina match.
My wife and I are going to be in Copenhagen on June 16th; can anyone recommend a bar to watch the Iceland-Argentina World Cup match at? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 6:35 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by The Card Cheat at 6:35 AM PST - 4 comments
Minors, US Borders, and Welfare Check Questions
What happens to minors at US borders is all over the news and I want to address my embarrassing lack of knowledge. I'd like to become more informed about what happens to kids in all different situations (legal or illegal entrance) and those accompanied by adults and those without. Specific links to current US policies would be helpful, as well as any history of this. It's difficult to find straightforward, non-biased information about this. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 4:18 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 4:18 AM PST - 6 comments
Fun, cheap birthday gift ideas?
My partner will be a staff member at a summer camp this year, with an hour-long bus ride in both directions each day tending to the kiddies. Help me pick a cheap/fun gift to make the rides or days more enjoyable. [more inside]
Should I freeze my eggs?
I’m 35 (nearly 36) and wondering if I should freeze my eggs. MeFites what are your experiences with this? Was the procedure painful? Did it result in a pregnancy? How old were you? I’m single and not sure if I would like children later on or not but don’t want to rule them out. I’ve been diagnosed with ‘borderline PCOS’ but apart from that am healthy- does the PCOS make a big difference? What do I need to consider? It won’t be cheap financially but I can afford it.
May 28
What commercial is this?
Maybe about 5 years ago, there was a funny commercial. I think it was for a car. The premise was a guy was hosting a candy selling fundraiser to school kids. He said something like "whoever sells the most gets... a free trip to wacky water kingdom!" The kids run out and scream in excitement and the man goes "Now get out there and sell that candy!"
Anyone remember what commercial this was for, and would you send me a link if you find it? Thanks!!
Being the safe choice after an exciting one
I am in a wonderful relationship, but I've convinced myself that I am a safe choice after a more intense, exciting relationship of his. I need help overcoming my issue with this. [more inside]
women talking in the board room
I remember reading an article that I believe was published in the New York Times sometime between Aug 2016 and Nov 2017 (or so). Can you help me to re-locate it? [more inside]
I am tone deaf and would like to sing in church. How to proceed?
I love music. I have no ability currently to match my voice to notes, though I generally know that I'm not matching. I never learned to read music. I have started attending a UU church and while the congregation is lovely, it is small, and I cringe several times each service when we are supposed to sing and I assume that I am aurally assaulting anyone near me, even when I sing barely above a whisper. I would like to be able to sing competently as a congregational member singing social-justice-y hymns/folk music. Walk me through next steps. [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 7:51 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by lazuli at 7:51 PM PST - 24 comments
Personal year in review
Several years ago, I was linked to website offering a pdf that you could fill out as a personal year-in-review. I remember that the landing page was fairly spartan and had options to print it in different formats (letter, A1). Inside, I remember that one of the questions asked you to look back at your calendar for the year and pick out memorable things that happened. It was meant to be done either solo or with a partner. I lost the bookmark, and can't seem to find the right incantation to throw at google.
posted by chrisamiller at 7:45 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by chrisamiller at 7:45 PM PST - 2 comments
Best way to capture a 35mm slide with an iPhone X?
I am working with some images on slides that are part of a library collection. I’d like to get a copy of a few of them, at the highest quality possible. I’m not allowed to use a slide scanner and the slides can’t leave the room they’re in. I’m allowed to use a light table and my iPhone. I’m thinking maybe I should get a good lens to add to my phone? Any recommendations appreciated.
posted by brbmaroon at 7:36 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by brbmaroon at 7:36 PM PST - 9 comments
Two personal tech recommendations, each with a twist
I am looking for Bluetooth earbuds that will pair with a dual link transmitter; and I am looking for a personal voice recorder that I can move audio files *onto* from my Mac. [more inside]
Strep. Strep. Goose?
I’ve had two bouts of antibiotic treated ‘strep’ in the past three weeks. Three days after finishing a round of augmentin, my throat is daggers again. Tell me if my plan makes sense? [more inside]
¿Donde puedo comprar imanes de nevera con palabras?
I love fridge magnets, and I want to improve my Spanish. Where can I find the combination of these two things? Frigopoesía looks like the product I want, but I can’t seem to find it actually in stock at any reputable online sellers. Oh Great Hivemind, where do you get your pithy fridge joke resources en español?
What is this wood discoloration?
I can’t tell what is causing these grey streaks and holes in a piece of plywood are, and since it supports our bed I’m hesitant to use it if it’s mold/bugs. Maybe it looks familiar to you and you can tell me what it is? Pics here and here.
Talking with editor at academic press; what to expect/ask
An editor from a well-respected academic press liked the conference abstract of a paper a colleague and I wrote, and approached us to discuss book possibilities—our topic would make a good companion piece to a successful book that they’ve already published. I’ll be meeting with her tomorrow (my coauthor can’t be there so it’s just me). What should I expect? What should I ask? [more inside]
How can I make my backyard really great?
Usually the Corpse family spends a lot of summer hiking and camping. That probably won't happen this year as one of us recovers from an injury, and we're sad about it. How can I make my backyard so great that we're happy to be home? [more inside]
Physical safety measure you took once you had kids?
I'm a new mother who strongly believes in women exercising agency and taking physical security into their own hands. I'd also like my kid to grow up "free range" or "free roaming," while minimizing risks. What safety measures did you take when you became a parent? I'd like to hear about the whole range of measures, and I am not anti-gun or anti-pepper spray. I particularly want to know if there are good GPS tracking devices that can be embedded in children's clothing or otherwise worn. [more inside]
How to leverage career advice when you're not qualified to give it?
England is all about qualifications. I have found I have niche abilities in providing excellent, mostly spot-on career planning advice through a self-developed review and writing process. I have so far done it unpaid. I want to create a business from this but can't really figure out how to make it work as I am not a qualified career counsellor. Do I need to be? [more inside]
posted by parmanparman at 3:41 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by parmanparman at 3:41 PM PST - 2 comments
When to say when?
I am not in love with what my job has become. Should I stick it out or start looking, inside or outside my niche? If I stick it out, how do I find mentorship or guidance as to how to effectively stick it out? [more inside]
UK Child Car Seat in USA
Can I use a UK child car seat in a US car (specifically: forward-facing, seat-belt-connected)? [more inside]
Philadelphia Apartment Advice? Part 3
1st time apartment renter here. I signed a lease recently for a place at the western edge of UPenn's campus, but it's above my ideal budget. School funding will cover rent in the fall, but I'll have to work more during school to cover food costs plus saving. Should I stay or seek a cheaper apartment for the fall and spring semesters? It'll be another chunk of money to do an apartment search and move again, but it'd save money and energy for 8 months. [more inside]
Dog in car: how hot is dangerous?
There's a dog in a car on my street. Windows are partially open and there's a heat reflector in the windshield, so the owners took some precaution. But the weather just got hotter quickly, and I'm concerned it might be dangerous for the dog. How hot is too hot? This is surprisingly difficult to figure out.
All of the advice about dogs in cars just says things like "in 20 minutes, the car can reach 100 degrees! Don't do it!" [more inside]
How can an under-eater get enough protein?
Ever since I remember myself, I never had a big appetite. I don't have an eating disorder or any sort of complexes around food, I love and enjoy food very much but in small quantities. I cannot eat large meals or even too frequent small ones and I feel tremendously uncomfortable if I force myself to eat what general guidelines indicate I should be eating for my weight and height. I am concerned however, that my under eating could mean I'm not getting the macronutrients necessary to be healthy. [more inside]
posted by ariadne_88 at 11:01 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by ariadne_88 at 11:01 AM PST - 16 comments
dorment social security number?
My near-future US employer is asking for my social security number for background check. Totally fair. Problem: I left the US six years ago, and the SSN I had was tied to a student visa. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 10:36 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by atetrachordofthree at 10:36 AM PST - 6 comments
How to stop pining for a sexual dynamic that has been lost
I have been working on this with my therapist but I'm still having trouble moving past it and dealing with my feelings of loss and resentment over my partner's change in sexual appetite and behaviors (wall of text inside). [more inside]
Can I get all of my gmail junk mail in one search?
I'm trying to clear up space from my gmail account. So far, I've just been searching for each junk sender (e.g., Indeed Jobs, Amazon Offers, airlines, etc.) and deleting them per search. Is there a way to search for all of the junk mails and then delete them? Alternately, can I filter by generic senders or personal senders and sort of reverse delete all other email (that is, that's not from a personalized email account?) Thanks in advance!
posted by stillmoving at 9:23 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by stillmoving at 9:23 AM PST - 10 comments
Cooling down a converted attic bedroom?
We are coming up on summer #4 in our home and I, for one, would like to be able to sleep in our master bedroom without decamping to the guest room during heat waves. Details within. [more inside]
Afternoon hormone(?) problem
Almost every day at work around 3-4pm I get an odd combination of related symptoms. Can you help diagnose the problem?
1. Increased skin surface temperature
2. Can feel blood pumping intensely by touching skin, especially in jugular veins, but also heartbeat. Possibly increased heart rate
3. Itch across most of the body - it's slight, and there's no physical manifestation (no redness or eczema), but it's enough to drive me slightly mad.
4. Tiredness/sleepiness
--More below the fold-- [more inside]
posted by nagoya at 8:19 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by nagoya at 8:19 AM PST - 14 comments
Audibly Upset
I work in an office with lots of quiet, clicking and computers. The silence is often broken by my very audible, un-extractable (?) bowel/tummy gas. What are your strategies for getting rid of (or minimizing the sound of) gas that sounds like a whale-song? The gas does not want to go out... it just wants to move around (it seems). [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 7:49 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by Dressed to Kill at 7:49 AM PST - 18 comments
How to create steps
We have a patio door which includes a ~2' vertical drop to the ground outside. I would like to have stairs, but can't afford anything expensive this year. I was assuming Home Depot would have some sort of readymade product for this but when I asked they tried to give me bathroom stools. Any suggestions metafilter? [more inside]
How to clean my floor (linoleum kitchen edition)
I have the most crusty linoleum flooring my kitchen, and I would like to do something about this. Inspired by this post earlier. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 7:24 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by tedious at 7:24 AM PST - 8 comments
How can I protect my window screens from my lovely cat?
My lovely cat, Phoebe, likes to claw at my window screens, and has already made small tears or holes in a few. I like to keep my windows open when it's warm, but I don't want to continually repair/replace my screens--and I also don't want to worry that she'll tear a hole large enough to get out. [more inside]
May 27
Is this movie real?
When I was little (mid-1980's) I remember my parents telling me that a movie we were watching had two women playing the same role. They said it was one woman for the first half of the movie, and then the director or producer switcher her out for another actress - though it wasn't part of the plot. For some reason I believe Goldie Hawn was the first actress. [more inside]
Send automatic reminders to housemates to pay their bills
Is there an easy way I can schedule some sort of reminder to send to my forgetful housemates for bills. [more inside]
posted by kjs4 at 10:18 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by kjs4 at 10:18 PM PST - 8 comments
Recommend me a TV Stand
I'm tired of particle board TV stands that don't move well. Does anyone have one they love and can recommend? [more inside]
A soundtrack for Crone Island (work edition)
Looking for songs that will express my frustration at the patriarchy, but about work, not love. Think the work version of Carly Simon’s ‘You’re So Vain’. [more inside]
Quitting because of location?
I begun working at a new job in the Midwest a few months ago. The job is ok but I don’t enjoy the city I am in. I have made friends here but am not happy in the city I moved into. [more inside]
How can I live Happily Ever After with a borderline spouse?
The prognosis for having a relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder is not good; but where do I find the success stories? [more inside]
Poly partner is not into me sexually... for now or forever?
I'm in an open polyamorous relationship and one of my partners has not been sexually interested in me, yet has hooked up with someone else. Should I resign myself to a less (or nonexistent) sexual relationship with him, or is it too much for me to expect us to always be turned on by each other at the same time? [more inside]
posted by Oneironaut420 at 6:25 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by Oneironaut420 at 6:25 PM PST - 10 comments
Help me save Beef Wellington - Phyllo Edition
I have an Important Birthday Dinner where beef Wellington has been requested. Everything is perfect - except I read a recipe wrong and got phyllo sheets instead of puff pastry sheets. I have no puff pastry sheets. I have a big problem and a dinner that must be served in two hours. HALP. [more inside]
Help with coping with first year of parenthood
I’m a bit at a loss of what to ask because I know I can’t ask people over the internet to diagnose me, but I also know I need some support/ideas:
- I’m a first time mom of an 8 month old & I need to know how to distinguish worry from anxiety
More inside [more inside]
posted by CMcG at 6:06 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by CMcG at 6:06 PM PST - 19 comments
What do I do to avoid overextening myself while learning new things?
This is mostly a question related to software engineering but I think it really applies to everything. I am also learning things outside of that. However, I would like to hear the opinions of people who studied CS or work in a field related to it, given that this question is mostly about that. [more inside]
Timing problems on .vob files copied from a DVD
How can I fix (what I guess is) corrupt timing in videos copied from a DVD? [more inside]
posted by peacay at 4:39 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by peacay at 4:39 PM PST - 3 comments
Frozen lunch that defrosts by midday
I saw this question but I want more. My partner makes me frozen ham and pickles sandwhichs which defrost so I can eat around 1pm. I don't want to have to use the work microwave (because I keep working) but I'm getting tired of ham sangers. Not a big fan of fruit. I like a bit of protein to keep me going. (You could also think of it as hiking lunches).
Where to find laws for tenant rights for storage lockers in Louisiana?
The owners of a local storage rental facility have sold the building and given their several hundred tenants until the end of the month to vacate. Notices sent by certified mail on the 18th to vacate by the 31st, giving most people 10 days notice to leave. This does not seem like it would be legal, but I have not been able to find out any information about tenants rights in this situation, only the lien process for non payment of rent which would not apply here. It would take me a while to find the rental agreement which may cover this. Any ideas where to find this information? [more inside]
What is the scheduling etiquette for Meetup.com organizers?
A member of the Meetup I just started messaged me saying that the day/time doesn't work for her and asking if there will be Meetups at other days/times. How should I handle this? What do you think of my Meetup's current day/time/frequency? [more inside]
posted by Social Science Nerd at 2:14 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by Social Science Nerd at 2:14 PM PST - 21 comments
What language is this?
A family member was driving through Port Angeles, Wash., today and posted a photo of this sign on social media, asking what language it is. We have surmised that it's a First Nations language. If so, does anybody know specifically which tribe?
posted by computech_apolloniajames at 1:31 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by computech_apolloniajames at 1:31 PM PST - 6 comments
Podcast about Public Radio
A friend thinks I should have a podcast about public radio based on the book I'm writing about public radio pledge drives (in Metafilter Projects). Unlike most podcasts, it would look at the mechanism of public radio itself, not just the content it delivers. Are there any podcasts about public radio (other than that from NPR's Ombudsman, Elizabeth Jensen?)
Do I pick out a headstone or sign up for state pogo-stick competition?
Saturday the 19th I made on of those poorly thought out decisions that can either end up with a funny story and a forehead slap or ends up in a funeral or paralyzed for life. Apparently the jury's still out on where this will end, although every day I'm still complaining about my husband's poor housekeeping is a net positive. Complex fractures of vertebrae T6-7 were resolved with a titanium rod and screws inserted from T4 to T9.That's good, right? [more inside]
posted by BlueHorse at 11:26 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by BlueHorse at 11:26 AM PST - 14 comments
Should I see a doctor or a dentist first for this lymph node pain?
YNMDoD. I've had pain in the lymph node on the left side of my throat for a month now, and it hasn't gone away. Should I see my doctor or a dentist to check it out? [more inside]
Range hoods in Philadelphia area
My wife and I are buying a house and one of the things that we want to do before moving in is to replace the recirculating hood with one that vents outside. What stores in the Philadelphia area can I go to actually turn on some hoods to see how loud they are? I'm in center city but willing to drive out to the suburbs if that if there are no closer options.
Seeking Specific Furniture
A few years ago, Living Spaces sold a line of walnut-and-steel bedroom furniture called Larson (2). I loved the aesthetic, but I never had the money. Now I have the budget, but the furniture's out of production! Are there similar alternatives available, or is that style just out-of-style? What keywords will find me what I'm looking for? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 8:55 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by Alterscape at 8:55 AM PST - 6 comments
How to handle dating (with anxious attachment)?
I have a pattern in dating of getting attached early, and then of getting rejected. Each time, I feel devastated and have less motivation to keep going. My anxious attachment style means that I don't deal with the early ambiguous stages of dating well (when I really like someone). Looking for ideas for folks who have experience on how to not take things so personally when rejection comes. And also, on how to approach dating from the beginning with a looser outlook so not every perceived slight sends me into an anxious tailspin. [more inside]
posted by bearette at 8:25 AM PST - 24 comments
posted by bearette at 8:25 AM PST - 24 comments
To tip or not to tip
Today I have a family photography session with a professional photographer. It'll probably last about an hour. The photographer is a small business owner who sets her own prices and normally this would cost $125. But - she donated this session as a fundraiser to a charity auction, so she's not receiving payment. Moreover, she doesn't have any direct connection to the charity (I do) and just donated out of pure niceness. Do I tip? I want to be appropriate and I don't want to be insulting.
What's this plant? Houseplant with dark green textured leaves
Do you know the name of this plant?
The leaves are about the size of my hand. It's struggling a bit and i'm looking to identify so i can also look up care tips.
Thanks!
posted by PardonMyFrench at 4:50 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by PardonMyFrench at 4:50 AM PST - 4 comments
Advice for an apology
14 years ago I kicked my brother out of my apartment in a fit of anxiety, and it predictably damaged our relationship. Tonight I made plans to go to dinner with him to finally apologize, how can I make sure to do it decently, and do it in a way that doesn't ruin the rest of dinner? [more inside]
Quit, or take a career-change sabbatical?
42 year old career burn-out would like to take some extended time out from my career. I have the option to take a work-sanctioned sabbatical (up to six months). Is this the best option for getting from A-B or should I just quit outright? [more inside]
How can I help my 4-year old stop wetting the bed?
My four-year old is physically able to stay dry all night, but started wetting the bed when I mentioned no longer using pull-ups. We’re now going on six months of wet pull-ups after six months of dry and I don’t know how to proceed or to reassure her that change is okay. [more inside]
May 26
I'd like to stay at the Civilized Oasis.
Was there a hotel, or neighborhood of Manhattan, named Civilized Oasis in the 1980s? [more inside]
posted by CommonSense at 11:49 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by CommonSense at 11:49 PM PST - 3 comments
looking for dishwasher recommendations, installation experiences please
I'm overwhelmed at the massive amount of dishwasher models out there. And I'm broken-hearted that the independent appliance store where I bought my last dishwasher 18 years ago has sadly gone out of business. So I'm looking for recommendations on what dishwasher to get, whom to buy it from, and your experiences with store installation/installers. [more inside]
posted by LeftMyHeartInSanFrancisco at 11:11 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by LeftMyHeartInSanFrancisco at 11:11 PM PST - 15 comments
seeking swedish wisdom
Hello, Stockholm MeFites, can you help me figure out who I saw playing? We are in Stockholm and yesterday, we wandered by Mosebacke Torg around 4 p.m. There was some sort of event, with very excellent balloons, and a very cool woman performing. She used a trombone and a megaphone and a sound board to record herself, loop, and then sing/play over it. But there were no signs of what it was or who was performing. I would very much like to know who she was or even find a list of people playing there yesterday that I can comb through — and I thought you might know how to find out. [more inside]
posted by dame at 10:48 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by dame at 10:48 PM PST - 2 comments
Help us name our second dog maybe?
We pick up our new dog tomorrow, she's a 6 month-ish Corgi-ish mutt. She'll be our second dog. [more inside]
posted by malphigian at 8:41 PM PST - 36 comments
posted by malphigian at 8:41 PM PST - 36 comments
Weary and Wary are different words, right?
The past few years I've been noticing more and more people saying (and writing, but less often) weary when they mean wary. To clarify, folks will say "wEARry" to mean "cautious of" which I thought for sure was pronounced "wAIRry"
(Not to say that I think its happening more often, I think I just started noticing it and can't stop noticing it.)
Is this a regional pronunciation thing, or just a common word mixup? Or am I wrong?
posted by Grandysaur at 8:37 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by Grandysaur at 8:37 PM PST - 27 comments
Solve this anagramish puzzle
I have come into possession of some cool metal letters from an outdoor sign. I also have a nice barn wood wall in my garage that you face when you pull in. If you guys can come up with something entertaining to spell, I could put it on my wall. I tried using online anagram thingies but couldn't find one that could deal with this many letters at once. These are the letters (plus ampersand):aaaeeehhiilonnnrstttttwwwyyy&
I'm pretty sure that I'm the bad group member
I thought I worked well with people, well... at least I work fine with my coworkers at work, but grad school has opened my eyes and made me realize that I might not work well with other people in group project scenarios. I am currently at my wit's end with the group project I'm working on now. How can I be a better person/worker in group projects? Right now I feel like group projects bring out my worst characteristics and I'm so frustrated with myself. [more inside]
Balcony planters and flowers in Toronto
We recently moved into a new apartment with a small balcony which is currently looking sad and empty. I would like to buy some planters that hang over the railing and flowers that are good in full sun.
I'm new to Toronto, so not sure where is best to buy this stuff that's reasonably priced. I'm at King and Shaw and don't have a car, but am willing to spend up to 45 mins on public transport.
posted by Kris10_b at 5:58 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Kris10_b at 5:58 PM PST - 7 comments
Finding someone to sit on the kid...
Due to scheduling changes and other circumstances the folks who have babysat for us to date are no longer available. These were family and friends so we've never had to search for a sitter for our almost 3year old. Looking for general advice on how to find a sitter, red flags etc. Location in profile, so if you happen to know local resources pls share or mail me. [more inside]
Recipes for not standing over a hot stove
It's hot. Give me your no-cook or minimally cooked recipes so I can eat well but not make my 90 degree apartment any hotter. [more inside]
Buffalo in Summertime - what to do?
Going to be in Buffalo for 24 hours midweek the last week in June. Fun things to do? Must-try restaurants and breweries? Driving from Mass. Any interesting stops along the way? Thanks in advance for any awesome insider Buffalo info.
posted by KazamaSmokers at 4:09 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by KazamaSmokers at 4:09 PM PST - 9 comments
Recommendations for Countertop Dishwashers
I live in an apartment with a small kitchen and no dishwasher. [more inside]
How much studentloandebt could a studentloandebtchuck chuck?
Working on an absurd comedic story about student loan debt; some hypothetical questions: Is there an upper-limit to how much the feds will loan an individual? Assuming otherwise eligible for financial aid, at what point would the government just refuse to loan any more? For example, if someone kept enrolling in additional MA/PhD programs as they completed each one, so they'd just constantly be a student -- how long could they keep taking out loans and deferring payment before the feds would eventually stop loaning them money and/or come after them?
Food, bars, and the like in the UK that ranges from cheap-not so cheap
Thanks to y’all, we’ve pared down our itinerary to the UK. We feel comfortable with it now. However, wanted to get some food, bar, and afternoon tea recommendations from the green for these cities. Specific details inside. [more inside]
I feel like a zombie 24/7; what do you think is wrong?
Hello Metafilter--I need the hive mind again to help me out. I'm 24 and a girl, student, that is about to fail out because I can't function normally. Been trying to fix my medical issues, like weakness and asthma, but have found no relief. I don't even know what's wrong with me and I can't afford to both go in for pulmonary testing or a sleep study (essential because the dentist wants me to do it before correcting my painful crossbite). What could be wrong? Is there anything new I can try? I need new perspectives so I can get to the bottom of this. [more inside]
Blue Grass of Vermont (not the music)
I bought a 25 pound bag of grass seed to reseed my lawn. It is specialized grass seed for Vermont conditions. I have previously bought this brand before including earlier this spring. When I opened this bag today, half the seeds are coated with something blue that comes off in my hands. The hardware store doesn't know why. The seed company is closed until Tuesday. Is it safe to use? What is causing the blue color? This weekend is prime yard work time. I don't want to wait until Tuesday to seed. Hive mind?
posted by Xurando at 12:46 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Xurando at 12:46 PM PST - 7 comments
Reporting to someone with a lower title
I'm a senior scientist at a large corporation in the East Coast. Most of my colleagues, like me, have PhDs, a few are MDs, we even have PhD+MD, PhD+MBA people, etc., you get the idea. I report to a senior/executive director, and we recently had a new Scientific Director position created, and to my surprise, we were invited to apply for it, as opposed to the boss just appointing one of us to that new (higher) title and position. [more inside]
Eat the rich and also those who think they are upper middle class
OK, bear with me here because I know this is very unlikely, but assuming it is remotely possible: by what legal justifications, actions, moves would one city annex another city? [more inside]
Best hiking trails in Los Angeles
Which ones would you recommend? [more inside]
Intra-family interpretation
Preparing to take my husband home to meet my mother. They have almost no language in common. Tips on effective communication? [more inside]
posted by huimangm at 8:25 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by huimangm at 8:25 AM PST - 16 comments
Where to score plus-size, medical-grade compression leggings?
Lucky me gets to wear compression leggings or tights for the next 6 months. I would prefer leggings but cannot find anything in my size.
Specs:
Opaque
Open-toe leggings (not pantyhose)
3x -- 5’8” and 255lbs
10-20mmGH compression
Black or gray
”Sports” leggings are ok if compression is graded
Thanks for any leads. Google-fu fail!
posted by Kalatraz at 7:44 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Kalatraz at 7:44 AM PST - 7 comments
Color theory for dingbats
I'm planning to paint the wood floor of my sun porch, and inspired by this project, I want to stencil a design on the floor. I really love the monochromatic (I think) color scheme of that floor, but I'm not sure I want that particular color scheme. How do I come up with two shades of the same color that will complement each other? [more inside]
May 25
How can I stop making mistakes?
My boss recently told me that I would not be getting a promotion I'd expected because I ask too many questions and make too many mistakes. The upshot of this conversation is that I'm petrified of making more mistakes and also trying to reduce the number of questions I ask, which means...way more mistakes. How can I break this cycle? [more inside]
My mom's in an abusive relationship
My mom has been in a on and off relationship with an abusive man for 16+ years. How to cope with it when living in close quarters and to best support her?
Throwaway email is throwawaysocky@gmail.com [more inside]
What does feeling embodied feel like?
Bessel van der Kolk's work suggests that trauma can result in lacking a sense of embodiment, of being detached from a sense of vitality, as though there's "no body." Please help me understand what it feels like, subjectively, to be embodied. [more inside]
Did you grow up with chalkboards or whiteboards?
I find this fascinating that my husband and I grew up with different wall writing technology. What has been your experience? [more inside]
APK Safety
So I'm wanting to sideload an app on my android device. I realize there is a certain amount of risk that the app could itself be a malware load but I'd at least like to avoid the download containing a regular virus/trojan of some sort. Are there trusted tools I can use to scan for this sort of thing like there are for windows apps? [more inside]
Modern High School Cliques
This Ask was a good starting point, but focused on late 80s - early 90s. What's changed? What are the current cliques you'd find at most high schools these days? [more inside]
posted by isauteikisa at 7:45 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by isauteikisa at 7:45 PM PST - 10 comments
What is this song??
It plays in the background of this video for a few seconds starting at 0:13 https://youtu.be/7QuHw9WVHjw?t=13s. TYIA!
Ontario 2018 election polling / strategic voting information
I'm trying to find riding-level polling or other riding-level information to help me vote strategically in the 2018 Ontario provincial election. Does anyone have pointers? Does this data exist?
posted by ~ at 6:43 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by ~ at 6:43 PM PST - 9 comments
Help me find an apartment in College Park, MD
I'm moving to College Park for a year-long position at the University of Maryland! Starting sometime in July. I'm excited and there's a bunch of stuff I have to think about, most importantly where to live. I will be looking for a cat-friendly 1BR apartment, hopefully under $1500 but I'd be willing to pay a little more for the perfect place. So here's the type of place I want... [more inside]
posted by mcmile at 5:54 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by mcmile at 5:54 PM PST - 10 comments
Illegitimi non carborundum
I work for the government. I’m a lawyer and working for the government as a public servant is exactly where I want to be. I believe in the law and the work I do. Unfortunately, my boss has been working for the government for much longer than I and he no longer believes in the mission. He has asked me a few times to do something that was unethical, which I let him know, apologetically, I could not do. [more inside]
Less-common bagel toppings
I’m doing a bagel bar for a group of 25 that includes adults and little and school age kids. What should I include? [more inside]
posted by vunder at 4:11 PM PST - 60 comments
posted by vunder at 4:11 PM PST - 60 comments
How to non-permanently annotate images for use in WinExplorer
I'm looking for a way to non-permanently annotate images with text and hopefully shapes. If the annotations were view-able in windows explorer that'd be amazing. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 3:38 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by unearthed at 3:38 PM PST - 16 comments
Contract negotiations with the deceased
Looking for case law on how a contract matter might be interpreted if one of the parties is alive when a motion to vary is filed but dies while waiting for the court date. [more inside]
getting removed as an authorized user from credit
I'm listed as an authorized user on a parent's credit card and have been since I was a teenager. Our relationship has never been great, but lately it is getting worse and I'm trying to cut remaining ties. [more inside]
Experience Hotel in or around Los Angeles
Need to vacate my place for 5 days for termite fumigation. I could just find some cheapish local place to stay, but I'm thinking why not make an experience of it. Are there any places in or around Los Angeles that provide an experience that is worth the extra spend? [more inside]
Is a 12 volt lamp falling in a bathtub dangerous?
Please help settle an argument. Imagine a 12 volt lamp sitting next to a bathtub. The transformer for the lamp is located on the lamp cord where it is plugged into a nearby 120 volt outlet, and thus the transformer cannot get near the water without being unplugged from the outlet. The 120 volt outlet is GFCI protected. I say if the 12 volt lamp falls in the tub while still plugged into the 120 volt outlet it's not dangerous. My adversary says it could cause electrocution.
posted by Jackson at 2:19 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by Jackson at 2:19 PM PST - 18 comments
Where's my medical billing experts at?
I have a very specific medical billing question: Is balance billing legal in California, for ER care, with a PPO, at an in-network facility, for an out-of-network doctor? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments
What are those psychological tests asking for? And how do I deliver?
I've taken two of them, one for a large hotel chain and one for the Post Office, and apparently I fail miserably. [more inside]
Antique chair-filter: can you describe this chair?
I recently got a pair of lovely, smaller side chairs that I would describe as Spanish (without having any real basis for it). They have a gentle curve at the front of the wooden frame which I find appealing. Could you describe the curve or the chair better in general for me than "Spanish"? (I'm trying to find more chairs in the same general description, not identical but harmonious)
Help me remember a really groovy disco (maybe) song.
I am looking for a song that (maybe) had Donna Summer on vocals. It had a really twitchy guitar intro and solo and was more on the psycadelic side of Disco. Sparse detail below the fold. [more inside]
posted by cirgue at 12:49 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by cirgue at 12:49 PM PST - 5 comments
Sign language: meaning of raising index finger?
My 4 year old has been bringing home from school bits of sign language ("I love you", "more," that sort of thing). When she likes something, especially food, she shoots her left hand in the air with her index finger raised. She says this means "good" in sign language. It doesn't seem to... [more inside]
What are the potential pitfalls of a long-term car loan?
I have a car I don't currently need. I want to loan it to my sister for the long term, but I'd prefer to retain ownership in case my circumstances change and I need it back at some point in the future. What are the potential downsides of being the legal owner of a car while someone else is the primary driver? [more inside]
I need an adult: dryer lint edition
I put a chenille blanket in the dryer. I have a lint problem. [more inside]
Stopping the sock monster
How can I stop losing one sock of sock pairs? Buying all one color helps but sometimes I want fun socks! I don't even know what happens, only 4 pairs magically becomes 4 singles! No kids or spouse or roommates.
What is the cheapest smartwatch I can get for some basics?
I run a fair amount. I use one of a handful of apps to track my running. I also listen to spotify or podcasts when I run. I would like to get a simple, cheap smartwatch/fitness tracker that can control a couple of apps for my runs. [more inside]
Apple Health help
Will someone please explain to me how to use Apple Health to track my menstrual cycle? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 11:04 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by yawper at 11:04 AM PST - 6 comments
help me move across the country!
i need to relocate from portland, or to boston for a new job. help me do this in the least painful way possible! [more inside]
Health insurance bait and switch--any recourse?
I have health insurance through my spouse's job. There are two choices of PPO-type plan. Plan A has a higher premium and lower copays/deductible. Plan B has a lower premium and higher copays/deductible. Both offer the same level of reimbursement for out-of-network costs, 70%. Or at least that's what the benefits sheets say. This year, we switched from Plan A to Plan B. After doing the math, we figured we'd save some money. Nope. [more inside]
posted by the_blizz at 10:24 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by the_blizz at 10:24 AM PST - 10 comments
Keeping Hot Dogs Cool
Our AC is broken! It's going to take a week to fix it! The high temp for each day during the week is about 100 degrees! We have two dogs who hate being wet! What can we do to help them stay cool, during this unpleasant time? [more inside]
Where should I go for my next solo vacation?
I'm having a ridiculously hard time figuring out where to go on my next trip, and could use some recommendations. My usual travel M.O. involves a schedule packed with visits to sites of historical or cultural value (e.g. UNESCO World Hertiage sites). I dislike the ideas of tours so I generally do all my own planning. [more inside]
Is it Worth Going to Shanghai for a Week?
I have a free place to stay in Shanghai and am on a tight budget and wondered if it'd be worth flying from the States (frequent flyer miles) to go visit for a week. I generally am culturally curious and would like something like visiting the "Water Towns", but I'm wondering if there's much else to see and do to fill a week?
Giving the gift of bourbon
My beloved has a big birthday coming up this summer, and she's a huge bourbon fan, so I'd like to get her a special bottle. Some of her favorites include Woodford Reserve, Buffalo Trace, Blade & Bow, and Rieger's Kansas City Whiskey (a blend). I'd like to spend around $100-$150 and would love something that's presented in a special way, perhaps in a box. Thanks for your ideas!
Help me find a selfie stand-in
I'm hopefully taking some solo road trips in the near future. I will be taking pictures, obviously. In addition to the pretty landscape shots, normal travellers take selfies. I hate selfies. I hate being in pictures in general. So, I want a stand-in I can put in some shots that will say "cgg was here" without me actually being in the picture! [more inside]
I’m gonna eat ice cream outside a used bookstore,
Looking for inspirational songs, quotes, bumper stickers or short stories about ‘dating myself.’ That is— being outside a committed relationship, and committing to yourself. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 8:12 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by Doc_Sock at 8:12 AM PST - 16 comments
Why is my computer turning off randomly?
Since yesterday my Windows 10 PC just pops up "shutting down" and then either shuts down or reboots but I can't figure out why. I miss BSODs [more inside]
Resources for the Pseudo-Woke
What are your favorite resources to talk about race/inequalities/power dynamics/inclusiveness? Preferably easier and shorter reads. [more inside]
posted by astapasta24 at 7:06 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by astapasta24 at 7:06 AM PST - 12 comments
Why is the PATH station at World Trade Center so hard to leave?
I was housesitting recently for someone in New Jersey and took PATH to work at the World Trade Center, and walking through the station to reach the exit seemed to take longer than the train ride. (The exit I wanted, on Greenwich, seemed especially hard to reach; I had to double back across the length of the building.) Does anyone know why it's designed this way? Is it just trying to trap people in the mall? Isn't it unsafe in an emergency to have the exits so far from the trains?
posted by pinochiette at 6:54 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by pinochiette at 6:54 AM PST - 8 comments
How Do I Professor?
I've been asked to teach a course I have experience in the field of study but no experience teaching. What resources are available for those who know the content but are clueless about teaching it? [more inside]
posted by jmsta at 6:00 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by jmsta at 6:00 AM PST - 11 comments
Traveling internationally with two laptops.
Can (should) I travel abroad with two laptop computers on my person? [more inside]
posted by breakin' the law at 5:33 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by breakin' the law at 5:33 AM PST - 14 comments
Going to Eleven- Birthday Edition
My amazing niece turns 11 next month. Help me gift her in style! [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 5:25 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 5:25 AM PST - 6 comments
May 24
Is there a way to keep bots from following my tumblr?
Is there a way to stop bots from following my tumblr other than blocking them one by one? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 11:44 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by whitelotus at 11:44 PM PST - 1 comment
Ensuring my FERPA rights
A couple of years ago, my mother was able to gain a copy of my college schedule from a professor she was friends with (not a professor of mine, but apparently all professors at the university have this sort of access). She proceeded to email all of my professors, informing them about extremely private issues. She also made an attempt to have me withdrawn from my classes. [more inside]
Help me name an old dude, please!
Tomorrow... Make that later today, I'm picking up a senior Plott Hound (mix?), 'Cody', from the shelter. He's joining my clowder of four cats. [more inside]
posted by LOLAttorney2009 at 11:03 PM PST - 54 comments
posted by LOLAttorney2009 at 11:03 PM PST - 54 comments
How can I prepare myself to get my first tattoo?
So I'm going to get my first tattoo, probably in two weeks. I've been planning this for months now and I have been wanting to have it done for years. I already went to two shops before this last guy I found, they really didn't know what they were doing so I walked out on them.
This last artist he seems very serious about the work he does. I met him a week ago, I thought I was going to have to wait until next year to get my tattoo since he was booked for the whole year. Then I told him what it is that I wanted to get, he apparently liked it so much that he decided he wanted to get it done next month. I am guessing most people don't bring creative ideas like mine, and he made it clear he liked that because it means he can improve his art. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 9:45 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by Braxis at 9:45 PM PST - 19 comments
How do I get better at reaching out to people?
I’m terrible at reaching out to people generally or when they’re in need. I want to be better. Help! [more inside]
PRAWN EMERGENCY
I have about 12-18 HUGE spot prawns that were given to me fresh, then frozen, that I want to do justice to when I have my parents over for dinner tomorrow night. I can find about 10000 different ways to cook them on the internet, but I need to determine which is the BEST way. [more inside]
Choosing personal injury lawyer for out-of-state accident?
Help me figure out to whom we should say YAML. Mom was injured by DUI driver in neighboring state. [more inside]
What's my next step hair dye-wise?
I stripped my dyed auburn hair last weekend and as expected, it's kinda orangey. Should I do a permanent dye now or a semi-permanent one? [more inside]
Is this a thing?
My boyfriend told me that he read somewhere that the huge TMobile store in Times Square is so expensive to rent that they lose money by keeping the store open. But that supposedly, TMobile does this on purpose because the store itself is so visible in such a famous location that it is amazing advertising and is somehow worth taking the loss on. I am super skeptical but he can't remember where he read it so he could be conflating different things. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
The Devil You Already Know
I’m looking to get in touch with a recruiter who’s already in my LinkedIn connections—she requested to add me earlier this year. My big MetaFilter ask is, How would i continue approaching someone who’s expressed initial interest this way? [more inside]
new job woes + extreme social anxiety + not smart enough.
So it's a few days into my new job. Fellow new hires are running rings around me. I feel humiliated and horribly mismatched. But I need to give to this a proper shot and stick this out right? [more inside]
posted by beigeness at 4:18 PM PST - 32 comments
posted by beigeness at 4:18 PM PST - 32 comments
Non-condescending dermatologist or aesthetician
I can't stand dermatologists or medical aestheticians that give you really simplistic explanations for things ("It removes impurities") or treat you like you're five ("How are you doing, honey?") Can you recommend a derm that doesn't do this, anywhere in the US? [more inside]
Can you recommend a trauma therapist in Chicago?
I'm looking for a therapist who specifically specializes in developmental trauma. [more inside]
Violent altercation with sister
I had a fight with my sister. I am by no means innocent, I provoked her, and was definitely not good at de-escalating the situation. Nonetheless, she became physically violent, and I need to know if there's better courses of action than I have planned. [more inside]
Great day hikes in South Carolina?
What are some great day hikes that are available within a 2-hour drive from Greenville, South Carolina? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 1:00 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 1:00 PM PST - 12 comments
78 card tarot decks similar in look/feel to the Marseilles tarot?
Looking for English language, 78 card tarot decks that are similar in late medieval look / feel to the classic Marseilles tarot deck. Bonus points for those that are reasonably affordable.
posted by ryanshepard at 11:51 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by ryanshepard at 11:51 AM PST - 2 comments
Where did I see this humour metaphor?
I'm looking to find a source for something. I remember seeing an extended metaphor on comedy, but searching has provided nothing. It went something like... [more inside]
Conspiracy Theory: Petroleum Company Edition, Innovative Technology
A cow-orker claims that automobiles could be getting much better mileage than what's currently available, via better carburetors, fuel injectors, etc., but the big oil companies find these innovative companies, buy them up, and pay the inventors to keep their mouth's shut. I tend to discount such theories... for one, I think there are too many smart people to keep quiet, especially once people know that something's possible. Can you give me some supporting evidence on either side of this?
Best mini tart shells for fruit tarts
What is the best recipe for MINI tart shells (or tips to help them cook properly and come out of the tins without breaking)? [more inside]
What sample is this?
Starting at 1:40 what is the keyboard part playing?
https://youtu.be/4UnI71YkAbY?t=1m39s
Vinyl Record Expert in a Week
I'm interested in learning more about the physical recorded music industry, especially record collecting and the vinyl industry. Can you recommend some articles, blogs, podcasts, TV shows and documentaries? [more inside]
Legacy G Suite with a domain alias = emails considered spam!
A legacy G Suite associated to a dead domain has had a new working domain added as an alias. Although Google sets the "From" as the new domain, how can I stop Google setting the "Envelope-from" as the old domain? [more inside]
Tech support my Wii/TV combo
My Nintendo Wii displays vertically scrolling static[more inside]
posted by LSK at 9:15 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by LSK at 9:15 AM PST - 6 comments
Switch from clamshell to detachable keyboard laptop?
I'm considering switching from a clamshell laptop to a convertible type with a detachable keyboard. If you've done this, what led you to switch, what new ways of working did it open up for you, and how do you like it? Come beanplate this decision with me. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 9:14 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by medusa at 9:14 AM PST - 7 comments
How much should I spend on a custom size cabinet with doors?
I don't want to spend much considering what I want. [more inside]
Rent versus buy, rapidly growing city edition
We can’t decide whether to buy a house or to keep renting our (wonderful) apartment. The only reason we have any interest in buying is to avoid being priced out of our hometown in the coming years. Help? [more inside]
posted by cat friend at 8:45 AM PST - 32 comments
posted by cat friend at 8:45 AM PST - 32 comments
Summer 2018 Hammock Tour of NYC
Where in New York City or adjacent areas can I find hammocks or other suspended seating? [more inside]
posted by rabbitbookworm at 7:52 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by rabbitbookworm at 7:52 AM PST - 8 comments
Best new cheap tablet?
Hi folks. I do electronics repair, and I'm looking for a tablet that I can use to surf the net and download schematics and such. That's probably all it will be used for--no TV, music, whatever. I'll need the ability to download to it and occasionally type. Should I get the $50 basic Amazon Fire 7, the slightly fancier Fire HD 8, or is there anything that would fit my needs better? Budget is $50-200 but cheaper is better. I have a Windows PC and use an iPhone, so I'm familiar with both.
posted by Slinga at 7:21 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by Slinga at 7:21 AM PST - 16 comments
Secure way to send monetary gift via text, not Amazon/iTunes?
Sending gifts to folks in teens/20's and they are weary of Amazon/iTunes, suggested PlayStation, Visa, other options. The folks in question are not local to me. I tried egifter marketplace but, as many reviews warned, I went thru the entire order transaction only to be told hours later "your order can’t be processed" -- waiting for the $1 refund. CC said: "Transaction would have gone through." I'm thoroughly annoyed. Is there another, more secure and reliable way to text a monetary or specific gift card to someone's phone? Thanks!
Is my employer required to provide uniforms that fit properly?
My employer provides uniforms. We are being issued some specialized uniforms for a team we have been assigned to. Another small-framed coworker and I simply cannot wear the tops for these uniforms. They are comically large, far past the point of altering to fit. We have been told to suck it up because these are the uniforms. If my employer provides uniforms, are they required to provide ones that fit? [more inside]
posted by hollyholly at 6:50 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by hollyholly at 6:50 AM PST - 14 comments
Book recs? Hong Kong livability, urban design, sustainability
A colleague and I are teaching a short-term course on sustainability, livability and urban design in Hong Kong (including a travel component). We have the academic part covered and lots of experience with the travel logistics, but we’re thinking about suggesting a book for participants to read on their own over the summer. These are undergrads, a variety of majors, not necessarily any experience with the topic/place. Any suggestions for light, engaging books on Hong Kong? Non-academic is fine, so memoirs, fiction, etc. are all great. Thanks!
Public squeaking, please help!
I have a four day event coming up with a fair bit of public speaking. A lot of it is general stuff (I'm 'conducting' the event, as it were). My audience is subject matter experts and the top management of my organization.
I am TERRIFIED of public speaking. I said yes to this event in part to push through this irrational fear. The event is tomorrow. I'm panicking, big-time.
Please bring your best tips and tricks that would help me not dissolve into a blubbering mess. Thank you!
posted by Nieshka at 5:52 AM PST - 33 comments
posted by Nieshka at 5:52 AM PST - 33 comments
May 23
Is it possible to input categories on Wordpress the same way as tags?
What I'd really like to type them in with commas between, instead of having to scroll through the check boxes (or start typing the word and checking the box for each category). I've imported by Tumblr over and I have 20,000+ posts to categorize and it's a pain! Does anyone know of a way to do this?
When you can not pick up a call, do you text back?
I and my boyfriend are the early 20s, being dating exclusively for 6 months, he had a 3-year relationship end up with his ex cheated on him.
Recently I start truly noticed I am constantly being under a great pressure in this relationship. A particular situation really stands out: [more inside]
How did it feel to walk away from a relationship with an expiration date
If you have had a short fling, relationship, or casual situation that had to end due to someone moving or other circumstances, how did it feel to walk away from it? Did knowing it was going to end allow you to feel detached? [more inside]
Advice or recommendations for the Canary Islands?
I will be going on an artist residency in Agüimes, Gran Canaria for five weeks from June through early July. Any recommendations? My artwork is about ecologies and I am very interested in plants, animals, sanctuaries, botanical gardens, etc. I bought an underwater camera and want to do some artwork on the islands' marine biodiversity. I am also vegetarian, and like to do some tourism as well as work and exhibit. [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 8:31 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by vegartanipla at 8:31 PM PST - 5 comments
It's not a barf bag, it's called an expressive-woozies catcher
I feel like my motion sickness has been getting worse over the last few years. Is that normal? Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 8:15 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 8:15 PM PST - 10 comments
How long does unmixed formula REALLY last?
We have a three-week-old baby who is mostly breastfed but occasionally requires a bit of formula to supplement. The formula container (Similac for supplementation) says to "Use opened container contents within 1 month". How seriously do we need to take this? At the rate we've been using formula we'd end up throwing most of it away. We are normally cavalier about expiration dates but wondering if we should reconsider all our priorities because baby.
What's the best paint for a DIY mural on my backyard cinderblock wall?
I have a giant wall that borders the whole entire north side of my yard, about 120 feet long. I want to paint a mural or do something visual on it. I want to DIY, maybe use semi permanent paint, and make it amazing and unforgettable. Looking for suggestions to make this project successful. [more inside]
Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Madrid edition
Our family will be spending two nights in Madrid in June. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
I don’t think I wrote this... Who did???
So, I wrote this quote down in a journal and then took a picture of it. The frame size was just large enough to get the quote in. I printed a photo of it and had it in a collage in my room for a few years.
Over time it has become quite meaningful to me and now I am interested in finding the source.
I have recently moved and my journals are currently inaccessible... [more inside]
How to manage GERD
I believe I have GERD but am reluctant to take Prilosec indefinitely. What are my options here? [more inside]
Moar Bladerunner please
I have only watched the original director's cut of the film and seen the new sequel. What else should I be watching/reading/playing that takes place in the same world? I assume there's fanfiction galore, novelizations, and spin-offs. What's truly good/worth checking out?
posted by egeanin at 4:32 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by egeanin at 4:32 PM PST - 20 comments
Yeahhhh, I'm gonna need you to help me buy some office supplies, OK?
We will have leftover office supply funds for this fiscal year (which ends 5/31) to the tune of $500-$4000 total and have exhausted our ideas on spending it. What are some items (no more than $250 per) that our office should own, that we haven't thought of yet? Looking for 1) generic purchases that every office should have, and 2) killer items that revolutionized your workplace and now you don't know how you ever functioned without. Lots of snowflake details about us inside. [more inside]
Turning premade curried veggies into a meal
I really like Trader Joe's Indian Fare pouches and their similar Channa Masala and Saag Paneer freezer items. I want to turn these into full meals, which means adding both calories and fresh flavors. Tell me your secrets to make this happen. [more inside]
Best organizations to donate to for 2018 elections
What are the best organizations to donate to for taking back the House and Senate in 2018? [more inside]
posted by benzenedream at 2:39 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by benzenedream at 2:39 PM PST - 8 comments
How does a bathroom remodel work?
I have a bathroom. It is not great. I would like it to be better. How exactly does one go about remodeling their bathroom? [more inside]
geographic inequality
I've been reading a lot about income inequality recently (this FPP, this article, the inimitable kliuless, etc.), which has led to an inchoate idea about inequality that I'd like to pursue more. I'll be on vacation for the next few days, so it seems like an opportune time to try to find some reading. [more inside]
remind me what I was going to put pickled okra on top of
A couple weeks ago I was looking up a recipe for a main course and it included a suggestion to top the finished dish with slices of pickled okra. "Well now," I thought, "that sounds interesting." Anyway I have completely forgotten what the recipe was, where I found it, or any identifying details at all. So I submit the question to you, AskMe: what are some good dishes to top with slices of pickled okra?
posted by prize bull octorok at 12:46 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by prize bull octorok at 12:46 PM PST - 14 comments
Rochester Restaurant Recommendations?
What's new and exciting in the Rochester, NY dining scene that would be good for a date night? [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by noneuclidean at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments
What is your experience with submitting your own music to Spotify?
I want to submit my own home-recorded music to Spotify via some service like Tunecore or Distrokid and have a few questions for anyone who has done that. [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 12:10 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by deern the headlice at 12:10 PM PST - 1 comment
Bug identify, 2 for 1
I’m constantly paranoid about German cockroaches and carpet bugs (which my neighbor is dealing with) and really any other thing that appears in my apartment. Pictures inside, ID appreciated! [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 10:11 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by socky bottoms at 10:11 AM PST - 7 comments
Experiences of finding happiness after leaving an unsatisfying marriage?
I'm looking for stories from people who made the scary leap of bailing on an unsatisfying marriage, and what happened after they did. [more inside]
Signed up for Match -- what do I need to know?
After being on OKC for a really long time, and looking for greener pastures (following this question) I signed up for Match. I used to be on Match years and years ago, and it's obviously changed a fair bit. Also, all my recent online dating experience has been solely on OKC. My question: is there anything particular to the Match experience/character/interface that I should be aware of? How does Match differ from other sites? [more inside]
Who do I see?
I’m in a place where I’m dating two people for a while and getting stressed out by what to do. Complication factor: queer woman seeing man for the first time in a while. [more inside]
Help me get caught up on web front end dev trends and best practices
I'm a software developer with 15+ years of experience, but I've been working exclusively on the middle tier and back end for the last 7 years. I'd like to get a kickstart of knowledge on best practices for front end/UI development so I can enhance my full-stack skills. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 8:42 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by matildaben at 8:42 AM PST - 6 comments
Getting out of project management roles
I've never been very happy as a project manager, but that type of role makes up the bulk of my work experience. How can I identify jobs I might enjoy where my experience is a plus but not central to my responsibilities? [more inside]
Midday Dog Walking Necessary?
Asking for a teacher friend who has a 3 yo lab mix doggo who is polite and well-behaved. Said doggo gets 1/2 hour run at 7am, then is left at 8am with stuffed Kongs and other toys until 4pm. Walkies at 4, then another 1/2 hour run at 8pm. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 6:06 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 6:06 AM PST - 14 comments
Molly Mutt Duvet waterproof liner?
Does anyone have experience waterproofing the innards of a Molly Mutt (dog bed) duvet? [more inside]
How to remove or cover up a tiny stain on a white top
Does anyone have any ideas for how to remove or cover up a tiny dark stain from a white top made out of fabric that is 65% polyester, 32% viscose, 2% polyamide, and 1% elastane? [more inside]
Irritatingly picky pub quiz questions
I'm assembling a selection of "Annoying Pub Quiz Questions". These are questions which sound like straight forward trivia questions, but hinge on a annoying quirk of phrasing. What examples of the genre can you think of? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:57 AM PST - 85 comments
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:57 AM PST - 85 comments
Advice on medicating or not medicating a pre-teen?
Just curious about the experiences of others dealing with a kid who exhibits symptoms of OCD (and perhaps a related eating disorder and depression..), but it's hard to tell because the kid isn't quite cooperating. [more inside]
Forced to work specific days or vacation pay withheld, kosher or no?
Is it legal for an employer to withhold vacation pay if you don't work on specific days that you normally would not work, ie Sundays? [more inside]
Small family: big questions
It begins to appear that my dad is not actually immortal. He, my stepmom and my adult daughter are across the country. My dad is possibly in the process of dying. My stepmom is stressed to the uttermost and socially isolated. My daughter is an alcoholic. My adult son and I will be there in a few days for a week and a half. How can we help them? [more inside]
May 22
Travel insurance for non-sequential days
I am travelling from Australia to the USA and Mexico for meetings and a conference, with four private days for sightseeing (in two two-day chunks, two weeks apart). I need health insurance for the private days only. Are there travel insurance companies that will let me do this? [more inside]
Puppy-naming thread #16860953
I just brought home the cutest puppy and he needs a new name! He came with the name Maximus, but I have a friend named Max and that would be weird. I like 2-syllable smart people names, or names with nicknames that can be 2-syllables. The short list right now includes Ollie (short for Olivander), or Magnus, but I bet MetaFilter can do better!
posted by Weeping_angel at 9:10 PM PST - 59 comments
posted by Weeping_angel at 9:10 PM PST - 59 comments
I want to learn about how finance works. Books? Podcasts?
I really appreciated The Big Short, both the book and the movie, and I realize I have no idea how banking actually works beyond a Miracle on 34th Street level. I want to learn, but I don't need a degree or a job in finance, I'm just curious how it actually works. Where do I start?
posted by gofargogo at 9:05 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by gofargogo at 9:05 PM PST - 14 comments
Happy love songs
What's your favourite love song from the past 10 years? [more inside]
Preparing for surgery for a six-month-old
Baby banana is six months old and getting tubes in his ears and scoped for reflux on Thursday morning. What do we need to know about prep and recovery? In particular, how should we deal with the no food after midnight rule? [more inside]
I'm looking for another perfect tent.
I have an REI Kingdom 4 and I love it very much. However, I also want a tent that's a bit smaller. Please help me find a tent that's just as good, but takes up less floorspace at the campsite. [more inside]
What does this symbol look like to you?
I got myself this neat pendant, but I'm a little worried someone might look at it and think it means something it doesn't. When you look at it, what do you think it means? Spoilers inside. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 5:59 PM PST - 31 comments
posted by The otter lady at 5:59 PM PST - 31 comments
Coney Island rock show where to stay question.
Going to a show at the Ford in September. Want to stay as close as possible, not break the bank, etc. [more inside]
Help with Messaging
I am about to launch a book. It has a largely liberal audience which I think will be excited to read about something they love. But I believe it also has a largely conservative counter-audience, or, a group of people who also follow it but don't like it and want it to go away. First, is it unreasonable to try to market the book to both audiences? [more inside]
How to get yahoo to speak to me
On signing into a yahoo email account yesterday, I was invited to see and customise which advertising partners can see and use my data, now that yahoo is part of Oath. The 'Other partners' list includes, by my count, 273 options to unselect, running from 'Adsupply' to 'Zygon', with more options appearing under 'IAB partners'. All are pre-checked 'yes'. I don't see an option to change these globally. [more inside]
posted by wilko at 5:37 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by wilko at 5:37 PM PST - 7 comments
Give me browsable online Archives of… Stuff
As a kid of the 90s, I used to love browsing FTP archives for old DOS/shareware games and programs. There's a sense of discovery I get in being able to poke through curated, or at least categorized, items in search of new shiny things. [more inside]
Dog Filter: Intermittent Clothes Pulling
My 7 year old rescue dog Huggy has been with me for more than two years now, with big thanks to Metafilter who helped me with all kinds of new dog owner advice! I'm now puzzled by a very occasional trait of pulling on clothes. Never me, never predictably, and not aggressive. But still disturbing. I prefer not to muzzle her in public, but maybe I should? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by frumiousb at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments
Help me find art featuring wildland Fire!
I’m looking for paintings, prints, photos, etc of wildland fire. My go-to for cool new art is Etsy, which works really well if you’re looking for a million paintings of vegetables (which I often am) but the paintings, prints, and photography sections searching the keyword “wildfire” turns up like 6 images.
Do you know of any art, purchasable or otherwise, the subject of which is wildland fire? I will take any and all suggestions.
Control VLC playlist from a keyboard?
I'm setting up an informational display at work: a large LED TV driven by a computer running VLC on Ubuntu. The VLC playlist contains several product videos that, for now, are just playing in a loop. I would like to be able to control the playlist from a keyboard, so that pressing 1 causes Track 1 to begin playing, pressing 3 causes Track 3 to begin playing, and so on. [more inside]
posted by xedrik at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by xedrik at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments
Who do I send a think you note to after a panel interview?
I was interviewed by four people today, one of whom would be my supervisor and three other department heads. About an hour after the interview I received a call telling me that they would like me to come back for a interview with the big boss of the organization. [more inside]
posted by SpaceWarp13 at 3:34 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by SpaceWarp13 at 3:34 PM PST - 9 comments
I gave to your nonprofit, so what do I get?
Looking to merge our separate management of "membership" and "donor" processing. Do you work for a nonprofit that provides benefits to donors? How do you manage changing benefit levels for donors who give more than once in a year? Or: Do you donate to a nonprofit that provides benefits based on your level of giving? How does it work? Seeking resources and just not finding them. [more inside]
Anxious Bride Speech Ideas
Dear hivemind, I will be a bride at my very informal (by wedding standards) but very large wedding. I will need to make a speech. Difficulty level: public speaking anxiety and many attendees I've never met before. [more inside]
Diagnose my failing full-screen video (Linux,Debian,Intel)
Very recently out of nowhere my Dell XPS 13 9350 of a couple years has started to have a problem with full-screen video. The video will freeze after a bit of time while the audio continues to play normally. [more inside]
posted by zengargoyle at 1:27 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by zengargoyle at 1:27 PM PST - 17 comments
Interviewing the Interviewer
You're in a job interview. What are some tactics you use to determine whether the interviewer/manager is someone you like and want to work for? I'm looking for anything... subtle cues to look out for, questions to ask, etc.
Bookmark manager / Knowledge base app with automation
I'm looking for a bookmark manager / knowledge base app (either web or mac) that can take a big folder of saved URLs, load the contents, auto tag each item, and then let me quickly search based on tag/topic or full text search, providing me a quick list of all matches. I don't want to have to manually tag/sort the items on import.
Any online tool for designing shelves for an alcove: recommendations
Does a planning tool exist for designing shelves for an alcove that I would then build myself? Ideally something that would tell me lengths of wood needed, and allow me to input the actual measurements to generate an accurate design. [more inside]
Alerts on New Independent Films Near Me
I love independent films and live in Los Angeles, so am spoiled for choice. How can I get alerts if a specific film I’ve been waiting for is playing in my area? I’d love to enter my list somewhere and get notified the film is here. [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 12:33 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Atrahasis at 12:33 PM PST - 9 comments
Recommend me a therapist in Portland, OR.
Looking for a therapist in Portland, OR. Can you recommend one that can help with depression/anxiety/grief, or help me figure out what kind of therapist would be good for me? More details inside. [more inside]
Should I set up a boot drive for Windows 10?
Should I set up a boot drive for Windows 10? If so, how do I do it? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 11:49 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by ragtimepiano at 11:49 AM PST - 15 comments
Another where in Washington (state) question with a twist
African immigrant mom and kid moving to Washington State. She wants a place that's safe, that has good schools, and that is somewhat affordable. Not Seattle. Where should she go? [more inside]
Extremely low energy slump in afternoon
I lose all my energy around 2 pm every day -- I can't function, I can barely drive, I'm completely unable to do anything. I'm desperate to find some solution. Details inside. [more inside]
Is an LED panel a good choice for a low ceiling space?
I have a closet like space with a very low ceiling that I'd like to light properly. I've been seeing flat LED panels, I think that's the route I'd like to go. Recommendations for one? [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by aeighty at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments
How much to charge for freelance editing?
I can't seem to find an answer since I am just doing this on the side [more inside]
Family Dashboard?
Does anyone have a one-stop digital way to see what's going on and important to the family? My wishlist inside.... [more inside]
Broadband in the Crown of Maine
What's the current state of broadband in the County? I'm considering moving back to Aroostook from living on the gold coast of southern Maine for many years. [more inside]
posted by Gnella at 8:52 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Gnella at 8:52 AM PST - 3 comments
Curls after curls
What can I do to my chin-length, fine, curly/wavy hair to make it look not-terrible at/after getting sweaty at the gym? [more inside]
posted by quatsch at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by quatsch at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments
Has anyone been to Groix?
I'm spending the first week of July en famille on this small island in the Gulf of Morbihan. If anyone happens to have been there, I would love recommendations and suggestions.
Vacation paid with Bitcoin?
Hi everyone;
Has anyone taken a mini vacation and paid the flight,hotel and/or car rental with Bitcoin?
If u have,plz tell me what site u booked on,and ur experience.
We are in Canada,and would travel within Canada
Thanks so much :-)
posted by LOOKING at 7:34 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by LOOKING at 7:34 AM PST - 4 comments
Advice for a classroom observation
I had a decent interview for an assistant teacher position at a Reggio-inspired preschool and have been invited back to see a class in action and be observed interacting with the kids. No formal “lesson,” just playing. I have worked with preschool-aged kids and have read up on Reggio methods, but am just curious what people in the community here think they might be looking for. Any tips/advice?
posted by sometamegazelle at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by sometamegazelle at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments
Looking for small outdoor container plants!
So I've found myself with a plethora of 4 and 6 inch terra cotta pots and I'm wondering what outdoor plants would do okay in such small containers on my patio. Flowering plants preferred. I'd rather not have herbs because I don't cook much these days, but could be convinced. Also I have absolutely no interest in succulents or cactus. [more inside]
a heroine, a puzzle, a novel
Looking for books with puzzles, and preferably female protagonists - think Special Topics in Calamity Physics and The Westing Game. [more inside]
How do I actually talk to someone at Facebook?
My account is getting disabled for no reason, and it's completely beyond the pale at this point. All I've been able to find is of the "send a form in and wait" variety. I want to actually talk to somebody about this. [more inside]
Keywords for my aesthetic?
I'm in need of succinct, precise ways to describe what I like and dislike when it comes to spaces, clothes, and belongings. The only ones I can think of all point to something similar but not quite. Please give me your suggestions! [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 6:22 AM PST - 24 comments
posted by redwaterman at 6:22 AM PST - 24 comments
Mental hygiene - work edition
I have a lot of mean coworkers, and I can't afford to get upset because I have too many commitments this year. Please share your mental hygiene / survival tips! [more inside]
How Old is Too Old for ADHD Diagnosis & Medication
So, as more information gets mainstreamed about how ADHD manifests in adolescent girls and young women (as opposed to boys), I see more and more of myself in the descriptors. BUT I'm 49 years old, secure in my white collar job, reasonably successful in it. I'm pretty well adapted to the stress, anxiety, disorganization and forgetfulness. Do they even assess women my age for ADHD? Treat it? [more inside]
Resources for quitting weed without demonizing it?
I think marijuana is a safe and beneficial thing for many if not most users, and I think it has been beneficial for me in the past. But it currently isn’t, and I am having trouble letting go of it. Can you recommend resources that can help me quit without dissing marijuana itself? [more inside]
It's a boy! Yay?
What are the positive sides of having a son? We do not know the gender of our anticipated child, but I already know I have a preference for a girl and I feel bad that I do. I want to head this off at the pass right now to avoid any potential disappointment. It should go without saying that my number one preference is for a healthy baby and I'm very excited and grateful that this is happening for us at all. I already know I'm gonna love this kid more than I can hold in my body at once. I would just like a kind and helpful word or two in getting over an ingrained gender preference that's sprung up from who knows where. [more inside]
ISO easily digested resources for calling out an online misogynist?
Do you know of a nice simple primer that I can send to a garden-variety unthinking online misogynist? Just enough to get the wheels turning in his head - maybe with links onward to more? [more inside]
posted by rd45 at 12:38 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by rd45 at 12:38 AM PST - 8 comments
I want an online biography site
What's the best way to tell the story of your life on your own domain? [more inside]
May 21
Bobiverse: worth continuing?
I'm midway through Book 2 of the Bobiverse, Dennis E Taylor's series of Bob books, and before I get further into Books 3 & 4, I want to know if they improve re: casual and inherent sexism. I'd normally just skim ahead in reviews, but they're so plot-heavy I don't want spoilers. They are totally Marty-Sue novels, but fun reads except the gender blinders and absence of any human social change past 2010-society is kind of... does it improve? Or worsen?
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 10:10 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 10:10 PM PST - 6 comments
Harry Potter and the Ignored Memory of Colonialism
Has anyone written anything about how to square the brutal, colonial history of the world with urban fantasy or Harry Potter type magic? Alternatively, has anyone written urban fantasy/alternative history where magic actually made a difference in terms of colonialism and Europe's power in the world? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 8:34 PM PST - 30 comments
posted by Hactar at 8:34 PM PST - 30 comments
Help me bring Valley Forge alive for teens
Teach me about the story of Valley Forge so I can get some teen-age boys (and a few girls) excited about it, please.
I am going with a Boy Scout troop (plus families) this weekend to visit Philadelphia, including a visit to Valley Forge National Battlefield. We have a long van ride, and I want to get them interested in its story instead of being b-o-o-o-o-r-e-d. [more inside]
What if Houdini had to wear a cone?
My dog is determined to never let his injured foot heal. How do people keep their crafty dogs from messing with their hurt feet when they can contort around or escape from every cone? [more inside]
posted by snaw at 5:34 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by snaw at 5:34 PM PST - 9 comments
How do I switch out of S mode
I have a new laptop. It came with Windows 10S. I would like to turn off S mode. Everything I've read tells me how simple it is, but they're lying. How do I do this? Things I have tried are as follows: [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 5:29 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by ninazer0 at 5:29 PM PST - 5 comments
Starting in the job market as an older college grad
How should you handle multiple gaps in your employment history because you went back to school? Is it better to focus on recent academic achievements? Is it worth talking about work experience that might be outdated? [more inside]
Recording Isolation Booth DB reduction
Is my new isolation recording Booth getting the DB reducition it was advertised to get? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 4:38 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by ljs30 at 4:38 PM PST - 4 comments
My sight singing is my weakness
I want to improve my sight singing. My voice teacher says I need something like Rosetta Stone for sight singing. Please help! [more inside]
posted by whitelily at 4:23 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by whitelily at 4:23 PM PST - 23 comments
Foods for the newly texture-averse / post-anesthesia food problems.
A relative of mine had general anesthesia for gastrointestinal problems and four weeks later still can't handle most food - not because of digestion, but because everything 'feels wrong' in her mouth. She is the sort of person who does all the cooking for holidays, is the office baker, etc., so this is a major psychological downer. Resources? Ideas? What's worked/not is beneath the fold (and a little more GI stuff). [more inside]
posted by cobaltnine at 3:40 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by cobaltnine at 3:40 PM PST - 13 comments
Skip and a hop from Frankfurt
I'll be spending a week in Frankfurt, Germany, for work in mid-July. (Visiting from U.S.) I want to extend my trip 2-3 days into an interesting European city. What is an easy and somewhat unusual excursion from Frankfurt--my interests include museums, castles, music festivals (classical, jazz, rock), and nature--but I'll be traveling solo, so I prefer urban getaways over romantic ones. I have visited Europe a bunch, so major destinations like Paris, Berlin, Florence, or Barcelona already covered; but I don't have experience with European trains or cheap airfare like Ryan Air and am willing to explore. is there a good excursion close to Frankfurt? I can return home from any major city.
Short term cellphone service in LA
I'll be spending 2 weeks in Los Angeles. Does it make sense to buy some sort of prepaid cellphone plan? [more inside]
Who plays Lord Bullingdon's second in the final duel in Barry Lyndon?
This is the scene in question. Bullingdon's second is the man co-ordinating the procedure of the duel. [more inside]
posted by Tuco Benedicto Pacifico Juan Maria Ramirez at 1:24 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Tuco Benedicto Pacifico Juan Maria Ramirez at 1:24 PM PST - 2 comments
Neighborhoods in Portland or Vancouver?
We're looking at moving to the pacific northwest in the next few years. We'd love to find a neighborhood of Portland or Vancouver that's walkable for groceries, library and restaurants. We'll be bringing our jobs with us, so that's one concern taken care of. We'll be taking a trip out there to investigate on our own, but are there any recommendations from the hivemind?
I did see this question, but we're not bound to WA, and didn't know if things had changed in a year.
Makeup Ignoramus Filter: What on earth is "Microfinish Powder"?
I was at Sephora last week and redeemed my Beauty Insider points for a sample of Make Up For Ever's "Ultra HD Microfinishing Loose Powder." I have Googled this and I am still really confused (a) what it is supposed to do (b) if it is for me, since I don't wear foundation (I wear tinted sunscreen). [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 1:13 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 1:13 PM PST - 10 comments
How to play video from USB source on TV
Looking for high-tech solutions in a low-tech, small space, remote environment. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by raider at 12:55 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by raider at 12:55 PM PST - 9 comments
Migrating North
You are not my immigration lawyer, but maybe you can point me to a resource that will clarify something for me regarding applications and timing. US -> Canada spousal sponsorship question within. [more inside]
Best home 'improvements' for renters
What are the best home innovations/improvements that renters can use without altering their living space permanently or cause any security-deposit-loss-worthy damage? [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 11:58 AM PST - 31 comments
posted by rachaelfaith at 11:58 AM PST - 31 comments
NYC/Brooklyn Park Lease on Public Land- We are looking for the Lease.
NYC Park Lease on Public Land- We are looking for the Lease. [more inside]
Best True Crime and Money-Related Podcast Episodes
My husband and are about to spend 16 hours in the car over two days. We are looking for engaging podcast episodes about true crime or money. [more inside]
posted by kate blank at 11:09 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by kate blank at 11:09 AM PST - 25 comments
Mess of anxiety around daycare
Since we put my almost 6 month old daughter in daycare two weeks ago, I've been a mess. I was fine when she was home with her father on paternity leave, but having her in daycare all day is really messing me up. Help me figure out how much is real and how much is anxiety. [more inside]
Parentfilter: Advice about a 3 year old and tantrums?
My 3.5 year old daughter has started throwing tantrums at naptime at daycare. I feel like her daycare is overreacting, but I'm really not sure. What do you think? [more inside]
Help us furnish our new home
We are in the process of closing in on a condo. Wheee! So far, we've relied heavily on (higher-end Ikea furniture), with some help from Overstock. We actually kind of like the Ikea aesthetic, but not to the extent of our house looking like a catalog! Where should we shop for our new furniture? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
Finances of buying then selling a "starter home"
How deeply ambivalent can you / should you be and still go through with a house purchase? On the one hand, I think it's just cold feet, and on the other, there are things that just might not work long term. I had really wanted to find a "forever" house, but this seems more like a "good for now" house. Is that a mistake? [more inside]
posted by ruff at 9:38 AM PST - 22 comments
posted by ruff at 9:38 AM PST - 22 comments
Vestibular Neuritis hearing recovery?
I had a bacterial ear infection about a month ago, I've been seeing an ENT specialist since then. It seems I have Vestibular Neuritis which is affecting my hearing in the inner ear. I can hear at about 75 (?)%. I've tried Antibiotics and Steroids over the past few weeks. I's improved but slowly and, so far, not completely. ... [more inside]
Upbeat shows to watch on Prime video
I'm looking for TV shows and movies available on Amazon Prime video that will not give me nightmares. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 8:03 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by medusa at 8:03 AM PST - 25 comments
How do I light a DIY TV show?
I'm working on a late night talk show to be filmed in my apartment. I'm not sure of what to purchase in terms of lighting. I've seen lots of lighting "kits" on Amazon for <$200 but I'm not sure of (A) which kits will best suit my needs and (B) how to light a traditional talk show set (desk, guest chairs, backdrop, and...well, that's it.).
posted by frankokay at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by frankokay at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments
Quiet space in Manhattan (Gramercy preferably) for a video call?
I need to take a video call after 5PM. My apartment is under construction. Short of renting a hotel room, is there a quiet space, like a hotel lobby I’d be able to use?
Backstage at Fenway?
Bill "Spaceman" Lee is playing in an alumni game at Fenway Park on my birthday. I would really like to get his autograph. Does Fenway have anything like a stage door at a theatre or a nightclub where I could wait and see if he'd sign something? [more inside]
Accessing a generous/kind/gracious minset
I'd like to get better (more frequently, longer duration) at being in the state of mind where kindness/graciousness are joyful for me. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 6:51 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Cozybee at 6:51 AM PST - 14 comments
Orphaned baby raccoon - help
Hi,
Found a baby raccoon at the bottom of a tree. About a week old, eyes still shut. I left him out over-night on the chance mom would come pick him up. Its been about 36 hours, he has been chattering/yelling out the entire time but no sign of mom. I fear this guy is running out of time. He is strong and stands a chance but no clue what to do now.
I am in Maryland. Everywhere I call doesn't take raccoons. I really want to give this critter this chance - any ideas?
Like Airbnb but for Barns — Difficulty: no wedding factories
I would like to rent an unfinished barn for a weekend in the eastern US, but I want to be able to stay overnight and I don't need any of the usual predatory wedding industry trappings. [more inside]
Starting career late after years of depression, unemeployment?
I'm finally(!) recovering and feeling 'normal' after years of suffering from crippling depression, failing my college courses, and being unemployed, but now starting my career late seems next to impossible. (Specifically in computer/web security?) [more inside]
If this is abuse, what are my options?
I'm a man married to a woman, and we have two toddlers. We love each other, and for the most part we have a good relationship. Lately, though, I've come to feel that my wife's behavior is sometimes abusive, and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
Help me feed a 9 year old with very specific food exclusions
Beloved grandsons are coming to stay next week and the youngest is on week 6 of a food exclusion diet to hopefully find and eliminate some of the cause(s) of eczema. [more inside]
posted by humph at 3:14 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by humph at 3:14 AM PST - 15 comments
May 20
How do I best use a few pounds of morels?
A couple of friends and I went on an impromptu mushroom hunting trip today, got VERY lucky, and came home with about ten pounds of beautiful morels! My third of these is way more than I've ever had at once - please help me know what to do with them? [more inside]
Ray Bradbury story, grandfather unexpectedly visits grandson & roommate
Completely unannounced, grandfather shows up at his grandsons home, for the first time seeing grandsons living arrangement, first time meeting his grandsons roommate. Surprise ensues; spoiler inside. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 10:34 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by dancestoblue at 10:34 PM PST - 5 comments
How do I tomato plant?
I bought 2 tomato plants on a whim from Whole Foods. I know less than zero about gardening. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 9:26 PM PST - 26 comments
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 9:26 PM PST - 26 comments
Things to do and eat in Houston
Hi MetaFilter! I'm attending a conference in downtown Houston at the end of June, and would like recommendations for delicious vegetarian food and interesting things to do in Houston. [more inside]
posted by girasoli at 8:40 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by girasoli at 8:40 PM PST - 11 comments
When to disclose service dog when renting
I am moving across the country. I will be applying for housing without meeting the landlord in person. Accessible housing in my budget is limited. I can’t afford for a potential landlord to deny an application because I am expecting them to break their no-pet policy. I want to wait to disclose my service dog until after I am approved, but at the same time I don’t want to become A Problem Tenant. [more inside]
Photo book from 20 years ago?
Definitely-published post 1997, a book I saw once had tons of photographs of athletes staged to look a hundred years old. Where can I track it down? [more inside]
posted by mahorn at 7:36 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by mahorn at 7:36 PM PST - 3 comments
What flower is this?
Purple flower at the top of a bare stalk growing out of a succulent-type base. Pic. Google photo ID says purple hollyhock or California rose but neither seems right, and I can't find any photos showing base+stalk+flower all at the same time to confirm.
posted by mono blanco at 7:28 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by mono blanco at 7:28 PM PST - 5 comments
Bicycle clothing with built in lights - recommendations please ?
There are clothes out there with built in lights to make you more visible in the dark.
I'm interested in finding accounts of how well these work and reviews. [more inside]
Enlighten me about stage lighting
An old-fashioned, single-screen movie theater is set to host a political forum with three participants, who will be seated on stools in front of the screen. We're seeking advice on the best way to set up lighting, so that the audience can see the panel members. [more inside]
posted by JD Sockinger at 6:16 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by JD Sockinger at 6:16 PM PST - 4 comments
what is a "think bucket?"
in the BBC show killing eve, s1e2, frank says to eve, "No. I was just tired of you piping up with your theories any time there was a snip of conspiracy in the air, you tiresome think bucket" [more inside]
posted by zippy at 6:11 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by zippy at 6:11 PM PST - 14 comments
Simplest Nintendo Switch games
Recommendations for the simplest controlled Nintendo Switch games for little ones [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 5:51 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by inflatablekiwi at 5:51 PM PST - 5 comments
Abnormal Psychology Credit Hours
Following on to my question about Abnormal Psychology classes ... Is there a difference between a 3 credit hour class and a 4 credit hour class? For example ... [more inside]
Which mass noun has the largest individual units?
Which mass noun has the largest individual units? Some mass nouns signify non-physical concepts (e.g. peace), others something that can be made up of different kinds of things (e.g. trash), while some refer to liquids (e.g. gasoline). But some refer to a substance that's made up of individual units of the same thing (e.g. wheat, spaghetti, rice). I'm interested in that last category. Which mass noun in that category has the largest individual units? The biggest I've thought of is "bacon". [more inside]
posted by Kattullus at 5:09 PM PST - 77 comments
posted by Kattullus at 5:09 PM PST - 77 comments
What kind of designing pro do I need and where do I find them?
I need...a graphic artist? a website designer? or someone else? I made a Weebly website that has all the content I need, on all the pages I need. But it could look better. It feels like a simple job -- someone to just make what's there look better. Is that a thing that people do? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:01 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:01 PM PST - 9 comments
How can I join the broken ends of a pond filter/pump hose?
I'm having such a terrible time with the hose that goes from my
filter/waterfall to the pump! [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 3:59 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by DMelanogaster at 3:59 PM PST - 11 comments
Enrich my Web Accessibility Curriculum
I'm taking a bunch of web accessibility courses through DeQue University, in hopes of getting an accessibility certification in the next few months. I'd love some additional resources to supplement the information they provide. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 3:22 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Alensin at 3:22 PM PST - 3 comments
The old hometown looks the same
Can anyone recommend a gym in San Antonio, TX that you know for a fact offers a guest pass? I'm in Monte Vista, so somewhere in the greater downtown area would be great, but is not required. Thank you!
Why am I invisible to men?
I'm a woman in my late 20s. My entire life, I've never made it onto men's radars as a romantic option unless I've assertively positioned myself there. Even in online dating where women are supposedly flooded with male attention and interest, I sent out more messages than I received, and most of them went unanswered. What's wrong with me? Am I simply too ugly? Not womanly or desirable enough? [more inside]
Why was I just mindlessly browsing YouTube? Please help me un-see this.
Not sure how this came up in my suggestions, but ugh, I really need to burn this image of a certain household pest out of my mind. It's not graphic but is gross and unpleasant, and gave me nightmares. (Link in description.) [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 1:00 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Seeking Direction at 1:00 PM PST - 9 comments
Summer of dinner picnics
Making the best of a bad situation, I need picnic dinner ideas + recipes for most weeknights this summer.
Ideally:
posted by this-apoptosis at 12:38 PM PST - 17 comments
- Quick to prep + cook
- Kid friendly
- Vegetarian friendly (meat can be a part, just easily added or removed per preference)
- Healthy
- Low-moderate expense
- Will keep in a cooler from 6am to 6pm -- no reheating!
posted by this-apoptosis at 12:38 PM PST - 17 comments
Roses that grow big hips?
I’m growing three happy rosa rugosa thanks to advice from Ask, but they have very small hips compared to the cherry sized hips on beach roses in Maine. Is this because it’s a different variety or is it something about the environment? The flowers look identical.
Safely Storing My Cans
Is there a legal term for this type of deceptive behavior?
Since I don't know what to call it (duh!) here are a couple examples. Thank you. [more inside]
ISO university that offers online CHEM with intensive in person LABS
well, this is proving to be a bit of an elusive unicorn - yes, many schools offer hybrid online/in person CHEM but how to find the ones that offer a **very condensed in person lab option** - ie one you could travel for if you had to, and do all at once, efficiently. If you've never tried to look for this particular magical beast you probably think it's something a quick google can solve. Alas, this has not been my experience.. details inside [more inside]
Need a course in godmothering, stat
I am stumped about how to navigate family relationships which to others might seem normal. [more inside]
TSH high but no antibodies present. What does it mean and what next?
Thyroid question - My TSH is above where it should be but my new PCP says there's no need to treat because of an absence of antibodies. Help me understand what this means and what my next steps are. [more inside]
Outlook, meet Excel.
How can I get an Outlook account to write to Excel? [more inside]
posted by Vhanudux at 9:26 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Vhanudux at 9:26 AM PST - 4 comments
Old school Thailand beach huts
In the early 2000's I spent a lot of time in Thailand on relatively undeveloped beaches staying in huts like this. A string of beach huts on a beach, no town or village to speak of and a restaurant or two along the beach. I haven't been to Asia for 10 years or so and I know that Thailand has undergone a huge amount of development in that time. My question is, do those type of places still exist, and can you direct me to them? Thailand preferably, but open to other suggestions also.
Help me choose a relevant and useful PM-type certification
My manager and her higher-ups are very invested in training for me and my team, which is mostly made up of independent contributors. They're planning to pay for some sort of project management certification for me - a certification of my choosing. But which one??? [more inside]
Boat Naming for Dummies
How do I get a decal designed and printed for my wife's new kayak? [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by noneuclidean at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments
TV and movies of the last 20 years that capture that 70s feeling.
What modern shows and movies have a 70s/early 80s aesthetic (but with modern pacing) [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 8:22 AM PST - 33 comments
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 8:22 AM PST - 33 comments
Can I put music on my iPhone and iPad using a CD? Using iTunes Store?
I want to be able to have music on my iPhone and iPod classic. I’d also like to have a physical CD if possible. Details inside [more inside]
Genetic diversity and life-history strategies
This previous genetics question led to this answer, with links to some fascinating papers about genetic diversity. These papers have led me to a random smattering of questions, below the cut. I'd be happy for answers to (or informed speculation about) any or all of them. Thanks! [more inside]
When did the cartoonist Charles Schulz say this thing about dogs?
It was something along the lines of "In the morning, when everyone in the neighborhood is leaving for work, I always wonder what the dogs will do all day." [more inside]
Can I try to negotiate via counter-offer even if I'm bluffing?
I'm expecting a job offer sometime next week for a job that I'm pretty sure I would be happy to take on the terms that I expect they'll offer me. Now is the time to be a little selfish though, so if I can get a better compensation package then I want to do that. Can I still try to use a counter-offer to drive up my starting pay? [more inside]
Check out that mote in your eye!
Is there a good way to seriously analyze my involvement in a failed work project, for my own benefit? [more inside]
May 19
Recovering from flying half the night
For work reasons I need to spend more or less a week per month for the foreseeable future in a city 4 hours away by plane with a 2 hour time difference. The only direct flight is 10PM to 4AM (accounting for time change), with the return flight 5AM to 7AM (again, local times on both ends). This gives me 2-3 days of jetlag/sleep disruption hangover on each end, with big effort needed to get back to my usual 11PM-6AM sleep pattern.
How can I recover quicker? Give me all your road warrior tricks! [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 10:30 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by I claim sanctuary at 10:30 PM PST - 17 comments
Beyoncé at Coachella?
I was able to see the performance the day after it aired on a streaming website. Naturally, when I wanted to watch it again today I found that it's been scrubbed from youtube, streaming sites, etc. I don't want to try downloading it illegally, but I've been wondering whether it might be released officially at some point. Thoughts? [more inside]
Movie in which kids perform Death of a Salesman?
Where do I get big rolls of wrapping paper?
I'm tired of buying tiny rolls of wrapping paper. At Christmas, we picked up a giant double-sided roll of wrapping paper from Costco. It was awesome! But now I need non-holiday paper. Where can I get similar quality AND quantity? I'm very unimpressed with the offerings from Target, Walgreens, Walmart...
posted by WowLookStars at 8:38 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by WowLookStars at 8:38 PM PST - 16 comments
Cleaning up iCloud storage/deleting pictures
I'm a semi-recent convert to the iPhone and didn't realize for a while that it was automatically uploading everything I saved to the camera roll to my iCloud account. I don't actually want 95% of those pictures backed up, and now I'm getting the message that I'm out of space. What is the easiest way to delete these and avoid this in the future? [more inside]
Should my sister get a puppy while starting an IOP?
My sister reserved a puppy from a breeder and can bring it home at the end of May. She has also been looking for an intensive outpatient program for severe, lifelong depression and PTSD. She was hoping to complete the 8 week program before getting the dog, but thanks to an insurance issue, she can't start until after June 1. Is it advisable to take on puppy ownership while completing an IOP? [more inside]
posted by leftover_scrabble_rack at 7:32 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by leftover_scrabble_rack at 7:32 PM PST - 9 comments
Stand up Paddle Board size
Will a 9'6 stand up paddle board be slow or is it the way to go for a light weight guy? [more inside]
Pre-colonoscopy meals for vegetarians
I've got a lacto-ovo vegetarian parent with an upcoming colonoscopy who is at a loss about what to eat. They've already got the ingredient list of some dos (and many donts). What are some good meals to get them through the next four days?
How do I move on?
About three months removed from a toxic friendship, though only one week of no contact. He's still on my mind all the time and I feel empty, alone and unable to really connect with others. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 14 comments
Duet for muezzin and swan.
What kinds of birds might I hear on the Nile in Luxor late at night? [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by mykescipark at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments
Mac Mini, or other computer setup for writing, research, and web?
I have around $900 to spend on a new computer setup. It will be used primarily for writing, research (reading documents, etc), and normal, light web browsing (so like, Metafilter type stuff, youtube, etc., but no serious video tasks). Do I want a Mac Mini? I think I want a Mac Mini. [more inside]
posted by still bill at 2:09 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by still bill at 2:09 PM PST - 22 comments
PAGING DR. METAFILTER
Where and how would you start attacking this hot, steaming pile of health and overall life issues? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder at 1:49 PM PST - 26 comments
posted by themaskedwonder at 1:49 PM PST - 26 comments
You/your kid on ADD meds. NOT hungry. Best way to replace electrolytes?
Up front: the parents are going to talk to the prescribing physician. I just want to hear first-hand experiences.
I have a student who just started ADHD (inattentive subtype) meds, and it is like night and day. Everyone's psyched that it's working so well, but his hands are shaking because he isn't eating because of the appetite suppressant end of stimulants.
If this is you, what do you use to replace electrolytes when you just can't eat full meals? [more inside]
How can I discuss expectations RE online IMs/friendships?
My previous partner had a whole other life going on online, which I only discovered after 1 1/2 years together. How can I better lay out my boundaries in future without looking unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 1:23 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by Willow251 at 1:23 PM PST - 13 comments
Smartphone/Tablet Productivity Hacks
Tips, tricks and best practices to get it done with a tablet or smartphone as your primary computer. [more inside]
posted by DoreenMichele at 1:15 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by DoreenMichele at 1:15 PM PST - 13 comments
Teenager wants to spend a month in Las Vegas
My son, who will turn 18 in July, plans to move to Las Vegas for the month of August before going to college in September. I think this is a terrible idea because (a) I'd prefer that he spend more of the summer working, and (b) if he's not going to be doing anything productive, I think there are places to travel he'd find a lot more rewarding/ enjoyable. How would you approach conversations about this with him? [more inside]
My car broke and now everything is ruined.
I need to drive once a month or so, for a few days. What's my best option? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 12:53 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by silverstatue at 12:53 PM PST - 19 comments
Home base: PDX. 10 hour time limit. What amazing experience can we have?
A romantic partner has 10 hours with me on my birthday (next Wednesday) before an evening flight. We're in our upper 30's, love novel experiences, prefer interactive experiences over passive ones, and live in the Portland area. He has suggested we spoil ourselves with something fun. A day trip to the coast was floated. But, anything that gives us an opportunity for an amazing memory is what we're after. And, anywhere we can drive to within said time limit is fair game. What should we do?
Another Tenant vs. Management vs. Mice Question
I've got mice in my place, and I'm not satisfied with the way my apartment's management is addressing the issue. I'd like the hive mind to help me figure out whether my take on the situation and sequence of next steps are reasonable. [more inside]
POS system for retail and cafe sales
I own a small retail store that is expanding and adding a coffee shop. We want customers to be able to purchase retail items at the coffee bar, but it seems like using our existing retail POS would be clunky for the purpose of sending food and drink orders to the barista/prep station. Is there a software option that's designed to serve both purposes? Feature wishlist inside. [more inside]
Which weather leads to congested nasal passages?
Is it dry and sunny or cloudy/humid? Or just the changes between them... [more inside]
posted by noelpratt2nd at 9:51 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by noelpratt2nd at 9:51 AM PST - 14 comments
Father's day gifts for a drummer?
This will be my husband's first father's day and I want to get a surprise gift for him, a new snare drum. But should I? [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by disaster77 at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments
London, for those who have been to London before
I'm heading out to London next week and looking for some suggestions - I was there just this last September and have done most of the main touristy things, but am back to visit a friend. I will be staying near Chalk Farm tube station. I will be there five nights so suggestions for day trips and/or overnight trips are also good. [more inside]
Editing Power of BBEdit in a More Flexible File Storage Structure?
I use BBEdit as a word processor (since I write in Mark-Up rather than WYSIWYG) so I can enjoy all the editing power (e.g. GREP search/replace). Problem: BBEdit relies on Finder for storage, ok for clearly-defined projects, but not so much for notebooking/spitballing. I'd like to use a gutbucket organization system (e.g. Evernote), but have BBEdit's editing power when I open a given item. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:11 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:11 AM PST - 8 comments
Story ID: mid/early 20thC, British, child buys 'fire dogs' at auction
The main plot point is that they see 'fire dogs' up for auction and feel compelled to buy them, expecting them to be animal dogs, not the metal implements you use in a log-burning fireplace. Read in the 1980s, but written or set earlier, pre-1950s I think. I remember it as a book where each chapter was a separate adventure, but all about the same charaters. [more inside]
Smelly question
I put a brand new jacket over a brand new tshirt on my clean body. After about an hour or two, the armpits of the jackets were smelling a bit sweaty. My armpits didn't smell and neither did my tshirt. The jacket is polyester lined which I guess caused this. BUT why did nothing else smell? And is there anything I can do to stop this? I was wearing antiperspirant and didn't feel sweaty or anything. :(
posted by KateViolet at 1:24 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by KateViolet at 1:24 AM PST - 8 comments
Similar acoustic transition in two songs (Trigger - suicide theme)
What's with very similar acoustic transitions in these two songs -
Blink-182's Adam's Song - around 00:43 onwards and repeating thru track, kind of a down beat cycle - I'm not remotely musical so [more inside] [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 1:15 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by unearthed at 1:15 AM PST - 6 comments
Using a database to organize a construction company's equipment
I have a passing familiarity with Microsoft Access and Libre Base. Should I use a database to keep track of my company's construction equipment and vehicles? [more inside]
posted by jwhite1979 at 12:58 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by jwhite1979 at 12:58 AM PST - 11 comments
Truncated Courtship- Launching a Successful Marriage in 45 Days
I have been seeing someone for a few months and need to decide in about 45 days whether we will get married. How can I spend this time getting to know him better in the areas that will be most crucial in laying the foundation for a good marriage? [more inside]
Gonna wash this weed right out of my pee
If I'm a daily stoner who has 30 days to quit before a urine drug test, what can I do to improve my chances of passing? [more inside]
Quit a bad habit forever
I have a bad habit I am desperate to get rid of before I go bald. What's something I can do, without maiming myself or looking ridiculous at work, so I'll never itch my head again? [more inside]
How do I convince my husband my education benefits our family?
My husband thinks my studying for a degree is selfish. How do I convince him otherwise? [more inside]
May 18
How should I pick which one-shot tabletop RPGs to sign up for?
I've been trying to get into RPGs and LARPs but my experiences have been uneven. I've signed up for my very first local gaming convention. How do I find the events that are likely to match my preferences? [more inside]
Could I just have half a glass of wine? Twice a week?
I'm not a heavy drinker, but I enjoy wine for the nuances of its flavor. However, my partner doesn't drink wine at all and I'm a very cheap date who gets drunk on a dime. How can I drink wine at home on occasion without pouring out most of the bottle? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 9:39 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by serelliya at 9:39 PM PST - 27 comments
I need an injection...of confidence/self-esteem (trainwreck edition)
My position ended, for which I am glad. It was a totally dysfunctional environment. But now I need to shake off the thicket of lies the boss told his best friend, HR, his boss, and Risk Management (his friend also lied to him about me). [more inside]
When to rate-lock a mortgage?
I'm applying for a mortgage, whose rate is currently floating. The loan officer claims that the rate will move unpredictably and that we should email daily for an updated quote until we are ready to lock the rate. We've detected a pretty obvious pattern over the last few weeks: they reduce the fee waiver a few hundred dollars each time, and then when the waiver reaches zero they raise the rate 0.125%. Is the loan officer just fucking with us? [more inside]
Bollywood me!
I have Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime. I do not have any normal TV or cable service. What should I be watching? [more inside]
posted by ErisLordFreedom at 8:50 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by ErisLordFreedom at 8:50 PM PST - 9 comments
Revisiting a decision about a family secret
This was my question seven years ago, about divulging to my dad that his recently-deceased mother had made a deathbed confession about having had a child and given it up for adoption as a very young woman. I’m revisiting my decision not to tell him, and seek perspectives. [more inside]
Tell me about your experiences bringing kids to Tahiti
Bringing 8 adults and 5 boys from 2-4 years old to Tahiti in October. If you've brought kids to this honeymoon mainstay before, what tips and tricks do you have for us? Places to recommend/avoid, overall warnings, and ideas appreciated. Basically, what do you wish you'd known before you went? [more inside]
Dating in real life, with complications
Explain this to me like I'm five. More details than anyone needs below le fold. [more inside]
Where to buy bulk (150+) custom printed cooler bags?
My wife and I run a small farm with a CSA and we are looking to buy custom-printed insulated cooler bags to make for easier pickups and transport of weekly shares. Has anybody had success getting custom printed cooler bags online? Any particular vendors you can recommend? Ali Baba has a ton, but it's hard to tell what's reputable. These don't have to be super fancy nor keep things cold that long, but any insulation is better than none.
posted by ghostpony at 6:20 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by ghostpony at 6:20 PM PST - 7 comments
how to unlink iDevices on a shared iCloud account?
My family and I share an iCloud account, with several iDevices between us. Unfortunately, this means my photos were being synced to other devices without me knowing it. Their photos are also synced to my devices, and my devices sometimes get missed calls from people who call their devices, and app downloads are synced between devices. How can I make these information leaks stop? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 6:02 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by icosahedron at 6:02 PM PST - 4 comments
Finding meaning outside infertility
How does a single 39 year old woman find purpose after two and a half years of IVF and miscarriages? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:00 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by anonymous at 6:00 PM PST - 15 comments
I feel like I keep asking pants-related questions
Pants question #2: I run. I like running, heck, even love it at times. But where are the running leggings/pants/capris etc that have proper pockets???? [more inside]
Tide vs Tide w/Downy - isn't fabric softener just more plastic?
I wash my clothing/sheets/etc w/Tide HE, never used fabric softener because why would I want to put even more plastic in my life and on my body, which is, best I can figure, what a fabric softener does. A neighbor moved, gave me a bunch of ~ stuff ~ including full bottle Tide w/Downy. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 5:21 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by dancestoblue at 5:21 PM PST - 8 comments
Looking for suggestions on dealing with a litter problem.
Anonymous litter like used food packaging has been appearing in the yard and waste bins, and it's not a new development. It's been going on for months. It's not all blown in; there's definitely some activity in the area when the home owner isn't present. [more inside]
posted by redrawturtle at 5:09 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by redrawturtle at 5:09 PM PST - 11 comments
Make my IKEA table sturdier
I have an IKEA Jokkmokk table. It has wooden legs that use metal bolts to affix them to a metal piece on the underside of the table. (Here’s an illustration.) No matter how tightly I twist the bolts, after an hour or two of use, they get loose again, and the table gets a little wobbly. I’m tired of climbing under there. How can I fix this permanently?
What is your experience with thyroid drugs side effects like Cytomel?
My doctor seems to think I have hypothyroidism and has prescribed Cytomel. I've often wondered if my symptoms up until now have included hair loss - but also some Cytomel users have claimed hair loss as a side effect also (something I'd like to avoid)... Can any hypothyroid sufferers help me understand the drugs and side effects? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by critzer at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments
Kid friendly spaces in the Atlanta airport?
Are there any playgrounds or other kid-friendly spaces in the Atlanta airport? The directory and website have nothing, and while travel sites claim there are kid-friendly areas they are hopelessly vague. I would include more detail but I'm dictating this with my phone in one hand while I carry an ornery toddler in the other!
Name That Bug
I found this dead bug in my bed. What is it? [more inside]
posted by tuesdayschild at 3:11 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by tuesdayschild at 3:11 PM PST - 14 comments
Feeling peeved and resentful: How to work less, but still progress?
Just over a year ago I accepted a counter-offer to stay at my current company. I accepted on the basis that I was given additional responsibility, not just more money. So we agreed that I would continue to do my existing role 70% of the time and spend the additional 30% on a new project, which would eventually become a full-time role in a year or two. [more inside]
Best low-code tools to get started, free or low-cost?
Because of Reasons I am interested in exploring low-code development platforms for a web/mobile project. For starters I am looking for something that is not a big investment but that would allow me to build more than what is allowed in a typical 14-day trial period. [more inside]
How do I use my metadata in photos to track down a restaurant to review?
I want to write a bad review for a sushi place in Shanghai but I can't find it. Long story short, I got a bunch of food I didn't want and was charged a ton for it. Tried to fight it on the card, no dice. (have a feeling the owner's done this before) So I'd like to warn off people on TripAdvisor but I can't figure out where it is. But l I have two photos to go off of. Help me find this sushi place. [more inside]
Which is the most durable computer?
Which commercially available personal computer could be expected to remain operational longest without replacement parts? Assume a few hours of use daily and an unlimited supply of user-input peripherals that might break down down mechnically (e.g. mouse/trackpad, keyboard). [more inside]
posted by phrontist at 1:40 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by phrontist at 1:40 PM PST - 13 comments
Do "smart" powerstrips damage electronics?
Do "smart" powerstrips damage electronics? I feel like they do, and have lost a device probably because of it, but can't find any solid information about it. [more inside]
Illustrator to LaserCut: What am I doing wrong?
The makerspace I belong to has a laser cutter run by LaserCut (not sure which version). I do my art in Adobe Illustrator, then export to DXF, then import to LaserCut. Somewhere along the way the scale gets all out of wack and I can't figure out what is going on. [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 12:16 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by soren_lorensen at 12:16 PM PST - 5 comments
Android Youtube Player Recommendation?
Are there any decent standalone Youtube players for Android tablets that can play a channel's videos in order, and pick up where last paused? [more inside]
mystery muscle aches
So, you know how the day after a strenuous lower body workout--say, lots of heavy-weight squats and deadlifts, or much stair-climbing--you get that intense achiness in glutes and hamstrings that makes it painful and difficult to stand up/sit down, or go down stairs, or pick things up off the floor or whatever? Yeah, so I've been having that daily for the past several weeks. However--I have been doing, trust me, no lower body exercise whatsoever. ?????? [more inside]
posted by Kat Allison at 11:26 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by Kat Allison at 11:26 AM PST - 15 comments
Real workouts, delivered virtually
My subscription to Fitstar/Fitbit coach recently expired and before I renewed again, I figured to check out the rest of the field, if there's anything more worthwhile out there. I generally do their 25-40 minute program 4-5 times a week. [more inside]
Small goals can be good goals
What small habits/goals/activities do you have for yourself that keep you engaged with life and doing new things? [more inside]
Executive career / interview coaching in Toronto?
A friend is looking for ideas on how to be a more compelling candidate during the in-person interview process for "director" level IT management positions in the education, civil service, medical etc sectors -- in Toronto. [more inside]
Easy Peasy just leave me a freaking voicemail
What is the easiest way to get voicemail for a Japanese cell number? I would like a solution that is free and can be accessed via any web platform, but I have both an android and an iPhone to work with. [more inside]
Can you help identify this china pattern?
I am looking for whatever help I can find identifying this china pattern. It is from a full set that our family has only known as "Old Imari," but it doesn't match the classic Royal Crown Derby pattern of the same name. One plate has a small sticker next to the maker's mark that says "Japan." (the blue spoon in the background is not part of the set, in case that throws anyone).
posted by craven_morhead at 9:01 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by craven_morhead at 9:01 AM PST - 2 comments
WWMFD with this housing situation?
What would Metafilter do with this certain housing situation? Perhaps this is more tolerable than I think but I am at my wits end with decisions. Please hope me or at this point--just tell me what to do. Details below the fold. [more inside]
One bark over the line...
Sweet Jesus, I was shocked awake this morning at 4:58 a.m. by my neighbor's dog barking right outside my bedroom window. This is far from the first time this has happened. I am going to send her an email today but don't know what to put in it, what tone to take. I want to be firm, but not come off as unhinged even though I'm seething and dead tired. What things should I say and what should I not say? [more inside]
Where to sell accordion
What is the best place to try to sell a fairly nice (~ $400 a few years ago, in very good condition) accordion? Is there some kind of forum for accordion players that has an active marketplace? There is no music store locally where I could consign it so online it will have to be.
Are MLMs necessarily exploitative?
I work for a multi-level marketing (MLM) company at corporate headquarters. I have been there a couple years, and it seemed like any other company to me -- essentially honest people making good products, that just happen to be sold this weird way. But now this MLM thread has me reading this [pdf] absolute page-turner and I'm thinking... well, I'm thinking that my employer could be just as evil as the MLM in the book. How would I know? I don't have anything to do with distributors. How can I find out if my employer is a "good" MLM or a "bad" one? Can an ethical person ever work for any MLM? [more inside]
Baby gates at night?
If you live in a 2-story (or more) house with the bedrooms on a top floor and you have a child, do you keep the baby gate closed and locked at night? [more inside]
How to get a random IMDB page?
IMDB.com used to have a link (www.imdb.com/random/name or /title) that would give you a random actor's (or movie's) page. In the last few months they appear to have quietly removed it. Is there any way, perhaps some third party site or something, that would provide this functionality?
Help me contact someone from Amazon (UK) who can actually help me
What I really want is a phone number for Amazon customer services in the UK/Ireland of sufficient seniority to sort this out. Thank you! [more inside]
Where to buy non-alcoholic spirits in NYC
I want to pick up a bottle of non-alcoholic spirits this weekend, like Seedlip. Seedlip itself would be ideal, but their website claims it's only available at a couple fancy restaurants. A cursory search of Astor Wines doesn't turn it up. Does anyone know of a place to buy a bottle in NYC or, failing that, a similar substitute? (Bitters and etc. are lovely, but I'm on the hunt specifically for a liquor substitute.)
posted by postcommunism at 5:46 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by postcommunism at 5:46 AM PST - 4 comments
Less cowbell, more sledgehammer
How dangerous are UV manicures?
I was at the gym this morning and saw on the ticker tape at the bottom of Good Morning America a brief mention of dermatologists warning that UV lights used during gel manicures increase the risk of cancer. How dangerous are they? Should I stop having gel manicures? [more inside]
posted by srrh at 5:42 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by srrh at 5:42 AM PST - 9 comments
How to anonymize donations - and withdrawals - within a small group
I'm part of a small community of members who share an intense common interest but come from widely disparate backgrounds and means. We're wondering if it's possible to set up an anonymous system in which some members could donate funds, and others withdraw, so we could all participate without any interpersonal weirdness or feelings of obligation. [more inside]
What Injury Did I Incur While Doing Yoga - It still hurts.....
So I haven't been working out or doing yoga - at all - when I decided to engage and pick up yoga after a long hiatus. In the midst of the lesson, I was edging myself down and attempting to turn over on my side when ALL OF A SUDDEN I felt like I was being stabbed and a sharp pain permeated on my right side around my rib area.
It's still hurting - non-abating - 3 weeks later.
WTF did I do to myself and how do I recover faster?
May 17
Best prepaid SIM for 4G LTE data in Germany, Austria and Czech Republic?
I'll be vacationing for 2 weeks in July in these three countries and need to stay connected, ideally with tethering. [more inside]
Peanut Butter Pondering
My spouse accidentally bought reduced-fat peanut butter instead of the usual kind. I tried it, and I can't cope with the different texture. No one else in this house eats peanut butter. What can I do with a large jar of reduced-fat creamy peanut butter with the seal cracked and precisely one spoonful removed from it? I don't want it to go to waste. That's a lot of peanut butter! And I really, really, really can't handle it in sandwiches. Ideally, I'd give it away, but it's open? Help!
posted by Rush-That-Speaks at 10:35 PM PST - 35 comments
posted by Rush-That-Speaks at 10:35 PM PST - 35 comments
How long should a dentist guarantee his work?
Trying to figure out if my expectations are calibrated correctly re: a failed crown. [more inside]
New to Square POS & Appointments - help?
I'm new to Square POS & Appointments. I have some questions for our new business, and can't seem to find either the answers or work-arounds I'm looking for. Can you help? [more inside]
Your Amsterdam and Prague recommendations
So, we're off on our belated honeymoon on Saturday to Amsterdam and Prague for 10 days, evenly-ish split between the 2. [more inside]
Specialized therapy needed in/near Nashville, TN
A loved one is in need of intensive help. Can anyone personally recommend an excellent, accredited therapist/therapy center in/near Nashville, TN who specializes in a few key areas? [more inside]
Adolescent Artist Takes His Show on the Road
I want to get my 15-year-old a laptop that can support running photoshop and being connected to a drawing tablet (and running YouTube incessantly forever), hopefully without spending a billion dollars.
I'm lost trying to figure out what specs he needs and whether to go Mac or Windows. [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 7:43 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by jeoc at 7:43 PM PST - 5 comments
What Do You Mean I Can’t Take Medication?
I’ve had a rash spreading on my face for 5 days and it’s now leapt to my hand. My dermatologist says that since I’m newly pregnant, I can’t use any topical creams or steroids and can only use wet compresses unless I can get my obstetrician to okay category B or C drugs. My complication is that I haven’t even seen an OB yet as I’m only seven weeks along, and I can’t get in touch with the one I chose! What can I do for safe relief tonight? [more inside]
I've pet that dog vs I've petted that dog
OK, so the impetus for this question comes from this 9yo's Twitter account. And a related Mashable article that uses the same construction. [more inside]
posted by peakcomm at 5:20 PM PST - 33 comments
posted by peakcomm at 5:20 PM PST - 33 comments
Can I hear what you hear?
Seeking recommendations for durable over-ear headphones. [more inside]
Bird Eye Tourist and Theme Park Maps
I'm looking for samples of illustrated theme park or tourist birds eye maps -- not the simple to scale kind, but the more cartoony, exaggerated elements type. Samples inside.. [more inside]
the call of the redwoods
I'll be driving from Oakland to the Redwood National Park area next week for three days of exploring. Got any tips for me? Must-visit locations, spectacular views, exciting hikes, cute nearby towns? I'm also looking for a place to find lodging for a few nights that provides a sensible base for my daytime excursions.
posted by roger ackroyd at 4:17 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by roger ackroyd at 4:17 PM PST - 5 comments
I Need Help with reCaptcha
I used a website builder called Serif. Serif has an email host that uses Captcha v.1. But Google discontinued v.1 and now only offers v.3 and v.2. I can't figure out how to incorporate the new recaptcha into my webbuilder's email host. Without that, people can't use the preorder form on my website. [more inside]
Boosting Cell Phone Signal at Home
I just bought a house that is apparently in a cell phone coverage dead zone. I get two bars on my iPhone at best - the internet barely works at all, and even voice calls cut in and out. This house is right in the middle of the city (Raleigh, North Carolina), but in a wooded area on the far edge of the neighborhood near a creek. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by something something at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments
And a time to every purpose, under heaven
When faced with the imminent, matter-of-weeks death of a loved one, who is sound of mind even as their body inexorably is giving out, how do you cope? I am not just looking for tips and strategies and reading recommendations, but also for personal stories of loss where you anticipated the death, particularly when you loved the person who is dying but found them very hard to spend time with, and how you, individual Mefite, prepared yourself for it/made peace with it. [more inside]
Experience with a fixed wireless internet service?
A WISP is offering me a deal on wireless internet, but I'm wondering how reliable the service really is. Looking it up, it uses a Mimosa Networks' 24 GHz antenna on my rooftop to connect to the WISP network. I assume it's more reliable than satellite? Will it cut out when it's too rainy/windy?
posted by mhh5 at 11:27 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by mhh5 at 11:27 AM PST - 13 comments
Do you remember this blog post on social class?
A long time ago I read a blog post about categorizing social classes. The basics of it were that social class is not just a straight line defined by wealth, but that things were also separated into silos, like working in the arts or academics as opposed to finance. [more inside]
posted by solmyjuice at 11:27 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by solmyjuice at 11:27 AM PST - 6 comments
"Not qualified" for job at former office?
Last year I worked a long-term temp job for an academic journal. The position lasted the better part of the year and I left with a good relationship with my department. My former supervisor volunteered to be my reference on all jobs going forward, and has given me good recommendations for places where I've applied.
The temp agency who placed me there posted a position on LinkedIn for which I'm qualified -- many of the responsibilities overlapped with what I was doing, but has a stronger editorial bent. When I contacted my recruiter about being submitted for the job, she said that because I "already worked there" I "wouldn't be eligible for the position". [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 11:06 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by pxe2000 at 11:06 AM PST - 25 comments
It Should Help Me Make Money, Not Lose Money
I want to start a side hustle of doing bookkeeping. Please help me think through what I need, and avoid costly mistakes. [more inside]
Apartment hunting Philly frustration: Part 2
Apartment newbie here. Do I get a cheaper apartment now based on my minimal summer school budget or wait until fall when I will have more funding and can probably get a place more suitable to my needs and in my desired location? I'm currently in Philadelphia. [more inside]
Interview tips when your qualifications don't match the description
I got recommended for a job that I am, on paper, pretty unqualified for (but it sounds interesting and it's something I could see myself doing well at). The initial screening stages went okay, but how do I keep from psyching myself out before/during the in-person interview, where they'll probably be asking me hard questions about things I don't know? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 10:27 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by btfreek at 10:27 AM PST - 10 comments
How can I incorporate discipline back into my life?
I want to spend my time more wisely like I did in university [more inside]
Summer playlist request
What songs say "love, NYC, and summer" to you? New and classics welcome.
Help me find a Doonesbury!
I'm looking for what I believe is an old Doonesbury comic. In it, a character who is a radio DJ is shown playing tennis. He explains to his partner that, since he's started playing classical records, he can just leave the station to take tennis breaks. In the final panel, he is shown in-studio announcing the classical piece he's just played. [more inside]
posted by grobstein at 9:49 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by grobstein at 9:49 AM PST - 9 comments
Do mainstream Universities these days let you study remotely?
I want to travel around Europe while studying coursework undergraduate or Masters. I'm happy to visit the University monthly and turn up for exams or other deliverables. I'm not specifically talking about online courses. I'm talking about programs and academics I'd like to learn from. I would like the qualification but the ranking of the University is not important to me if the context is good. Anyone have direct experience with this? Thanks.
posted by vizsla at 9:32 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by vizsla at 9:32 AM PST - 8 comments
Need a new rain jacket
My 15 year old Marmot Precip jacket has finally worn out completely, and I need a replacement. In the interval, Marmot seems to have become more fashionable + expensive, so I'm looking for suggestions for equally good but more affordable options if they're out there. Bonus points for jackets that don't contain the usual litany of rain-proofing toxins.
posted by ryanshepard at 9:28 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by ryanshepard at 9:28 AM PST - 5 comments
Attention English Teachers - Looking for Short Story Collections
I'm going to teach a short story class and am looking for THE BEST anthologies for one of the following: (1) Best American stories (all centuries) (2) Best 20th century stories (global - all countries) or (3) Best 19th century stories (global - all countries). It needs to be available now on Amazon.
A Document Manager/Browser for a Small Company
A small company I work with needs a small-scale knowledge management solution. Google Drive doesn't offer a "curated" enough interface, while something like Sharepoint would probably be too large and unwieldy. [more inside]
Ghosties for 3 year olds
Nearly 3 yo loves ghosts (of the sheet looking variety, not Poltergeist). We've been looking for picture books with them in, but have had no success so far. The ideal would be a lot like Funnybones, but any suggestions would be great. Thanks!
Affordable wines for anniversary party
My parents are celebrating their 50th anniversary at a place where we bring our own alcohol. There will be a bartender on the premises to open and pour. My family doesn't drink all that much, and when we do, it's beer. I'm looking for affordable red and white wines for 50-60 people. [more inside]
posted by gladly at 7:41 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by gladly at 7:41 AM PST - 18 comments
What paper should I use for large format painting?
I'm looking to get back into painting, and I have a few ideas for works planned out. I'm an abstract painter and I want to work on a large scale—on the order of square metres. Last time I painted someone else was bankrolling me, so I was able to use rolls of really wide, really sturdy professional art paper. I don't have that luxury anymore. What kind of paper can I get away with using? [more inside]
Voicemail is for my EARS, not my EYES
I have a down-and-dirty basic Samsung smartphone; it's been working fine for my needs. My only problem is - EACH and EVERY TIME I get a voicemail, I also get an additional prompt to "tap here to change your visual voicemail password". How can I turn that prompt OFF? [more inside]
Water stains on hardwood floors
I’m considering buying a condo. I like the floors, but there are some water stains where a previous owner left potted plants sitting on the floor. Is this something that’s fixable with refinishing, or am I looking at having to either live with it or install new flooring? [more inside]
Is it time for my fixed-amount tips to become unfixed?
At some point I picked up a couple rules of thumb for tipping: US$5 per night stayed to hotel housekeepers; US$1 per drink to a bartender when you're paying one at a time. I'd like some opinions on whether it's well past time for these rules of thumb to adjust to inflation. [more inside]
posted by Songdog at 6:43 AM PST - 44 comments
posted by Songdog at 6:43 AM PST - 44 comments
Hi, I have cancer
I received a diagnosis of DCIS about two weeks ago, following a biopsy. Breast surgeon suspects underlying invasive cancer, perhaps still stage 0, could be stage 1 or 2. Because of the size of the tumor and all the other reasons, I am choosing a double mastectomy with no reconstruction. Surgery is next Wednesday, early in the morning, and is outpatient. [more inside]
posted by sockoffleagulls at 5:32 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by sockoffleagulls at 5:32 AM PST - 21 comments
In search of somewhere peaceful for Fourth of July weekend
We are located in San Jose, CA and would like to go somewhere with no or minimal fireworks this Fourth of July. [more inside]
May 16
Help me find these talon/pointy earrings
I saw someone wearing gold stud earrings that I really liked last week. They were small but looked like little talons or horns with a slight curve. No more than 1/2" to 3/4" long. Very poor sketch here. Anyone have an idea of where I could find these? I've googled talon/pointy studs with no luck.
Journal prompts, but the same ones every day
I'm thinking about journaling daily about my day and any associated thoughts. The main purpose is to record things that happened so it can jog my memory when re-reading the entry. I want prompts for this. Questions along the lines of "Did you go anywhere (interesting) today?", "What did you wear?", "Did you buy anything and if so, what?" are what I'm looking for. [more inside]
This One Weird Shrub! Bees LOVE it!
There's this weird shrub, which is swarming with hundreds of bumblebees. I love bumblebees and I want to plant one of these in my own yard. What kind of shrub is it? I'm near Seattle. Pic 1, 2, 3. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 8:53 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by The otter lady at 8:53 PM PST - 13 comments
Smooch smooch stab
Seeking examples of romantic horror movies where the protagonist and the antagonist fall in love with each other at some point during the course of the film. Romance should be a significant plot element, even if it all ends in bloodshed. Thanks!
posted by egeanin at 8:33 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by egeanin at 8:33 PM PST - 17 comments
HeadcanonFilter
I recently started playing Dragon Age: Inquisition and have been feeling a very strong urge to imagine/write/research more about my protagonist beyond the in-game lore. What are some narrative/historical/artistic/other sources that might be helpful in imagining the experiences of a woman who is denied an interior life from birth within an ordered religious society, but escapes and slowly discovers her own subjectivity, power, and spirituality? I'm looking less for fantasy, and more for tracing similar ideas in ethnographies, histories of witchcraft and slavery, autobiographies, etc. [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 8:18 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by elephantsvanish at 8:18 PM PST - 3 comments
Cat pee smell in small room
So I moved into a new place and a month later I realize when my bedroom door is shut and the window is closed and I come back from a few days away... it reeks of cat pee. I do not own a cat. What do I do? [more inside]
Help me spread my gigabit internet all over my home! Lots of details...
Ok, here goes: I have Xfinity gigabit ethernet. I have pretty good coverage over all of my house, but with more smart home devices being added each year (some outside) and 4k streaming, torrenting, etc. being part of my weekly usage, I'd like to utilize my fire hose as well as I possibly can. [more inside]
posted by arm426 at 7:44 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by arm426 at 7:44 PM PST - 20 comments
Day Trips from London in Late June
I'll be vacationing in London for a week in late June, staying near Goldsmiths College in the southeast. I'd like to get out of the city for a day to see some of the surrounding area. I'm especially interested in medieval and Tudor period history, modern art, and nature walks. Happy to take the train or rent a car for the day, and looking to spend no more than about 2 hours of travel time each way.
posted by 4rtemis at 7:23 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by 4rtemis at 7:23 PM PST - 13 comments
My Waiting On List is ridiculous
How does one manage their time or stress levels when working on multiple projects when so many of these projects involve waiting on responses from people who take a long time to get back to you only to demand you reply to them IMMEDIATELY or it's over? [more inside]
What can you tell me about the Lapp/Sami shaman Per Utsi?
I came across a brief mention of the man and his name and promises of amazing things he did, but no details or time periods, though possibly 20th century. Plenty of Per Utsis in the world, but this one doesn't seem to leap out on google. Not to me, at least. Anyone?
posted by BWA at 6:27 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by BWA at 6:27 PM PST - 2 comments
How do I assess my health risks given my deceased mom's history?
Point blank: my mom died of a heart attack in her early 40s, when I was a kid. Prior to that she had a host of pretty significant health issues, but also really bad lifestyle habits. As I approach that age myself, I am increasingly worried about my own mortality. I want to know if any of her health issues/death were genetic things that I should be worried about, or purely lifestyle. How can I research this further? [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 5:51 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by joan_holloway at 5:51 PM PST - 15 comments
Staycation Advice for the non-neurotypical
[ADHD/anxiety filter] I am about to be off work for ten straight days. For a number of reasons, I haven't taken more than 3-4 days off work in nearly three years. This shouldn't be complicated, but my anxious, perfectionist, ADHD brain is trying to immobilize me into doing nothing but sit on the couch for ten days. I need advice on how to avoid that. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 5:42 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by nightrecordings at 5:42 PM PST - 11 comments
How to repair my self esteem and get past the heartbreak of not landing
I recently interviewed for a position in a different industry than the one I am currently in. Interview went so-so, I felt afterwards, didn’t have my hopes up. Few days later, got what I thought was a positive sign from the interviewer, and THEN got my hopes up, against my better judgment… few more days pass, and the position has been filled after I reached out once again.
I’m crushed. I feel like I’ve mangled my chances at about 3 different interviews I’ve had over the past year and a half or so. How do I move on and learn from this, help myself feel better about the way things went, and get myself out of a stagnating job and work environment that is making me desperately unhappy?
Garbled mess of self-pity within…. [more inside]
posted by wats at 5:11 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by wats at 5:11 PM PST - 12 comments
BRCA WTF
This is a follow up to the medical situation described here, but you don't need to read that one to understand this. My doctor has said I should get the BRCA genetic test done and is in the process of getting it approved by my insurance. After I left the appointment, my family said it's unnecessary. Which is is it? [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 4:50 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by greermahoney at 4:50 PM PST - 17 comments
Silicon Valley internship - interview tips?
A student of mine with a strong background in data science is interviewing for an internship in Silicon Valley. They are from East Asia, and I'm helping them prepare for the language skills needed for their interview, but does anyone here have any helpful tips about interviewing for a job in Silicon Valley? Which questions should they prepare to answer? [more inside]
How to best bed for a year?
I'm all moved in my new studio apartment (and loving it so far)! I'm unsure as to what the best option is for bedding, though. Right now, I'm using a $29 Coleman airbed on the floor as a stopgap. Your recommendations would be much appreciated! [more inside]
How can I improve my bow's grip to improve my... uh.... grip?
I shoot barebow recurve. I'd like to use plumbers' putty or Sugru to change the grip, and want to make sure I'm doing it right. [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 2:39 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by The corpse in the library at 2:39 PM PST - 7 comments
dealing with a bad life coach?
Last year, I met a talented and bright life coach who seemed to have it together to help me. We worked on a business together and made a lot of plans. Then, a few weeks ago while I was experiencing some major job changes, she tried to get me to join a multi level marketing programme called MOBE. I was sceptical but she knew me and kept pushing my buttons until I finally stopped responding. [more inside]
Going in on a gift with friends: awkwardness
Two friends and I agreed to go in on a gift for another friend. They want to spend much less than I do. (Bonus question: do you have gift ideas?) [more inside]
Can my birds eat this?
I bought a bunch of organic rainbow chard and noticed that the back sides are bumpy and rough. Is this a sign that it's bad or...? [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 2:12 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Calzephyr at 2:12 PM PST - 5 comments
Issues with Namecheap Forwarding
I have a domain I bought through Namecheap. I set it up, using Namecheap, to redirect to my portfolio. 99% of the time it redirects - but once in a while, clicking a link to my domain for the first time in a while, I'll see Namecheap's "this domain has not been set up" message. [more inside]
Seeking a special sectional.
Mr. Millipede and I seek a sectional couch--specifically the kind that is sometimes called an "L shaped" or "corner couch." As always, we have a lot of requirements and we'd like your help. [more inside]
Backing Up Photo's from Iphone to Google Drive
With my Iphone 6, my photo's and video's were automatically uploaded & backed up to my Google Drive each day when I was in an area with Wifi. I now have the Iphone X (10), and for the life of me cannot figure out how I turned this setting on. I have went through my Iphone 6 settings and cannot figure out how I did it, or where the settings to make this happen even are anymore. Everything matches with both of my phones..... Nothing has uploaded to my google drive folder since I switched phones....Any advice?
posted by TwilightKid at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by TwilightKid at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments
Should we resign to play badminton with electric swatters all day long?
We've had a fly problem for a few years now, that has largely been outside. While a bummer, we've learned to live with it, but a recent series of invasions has us worried. Every time we fire up the crock-pot before leaving for work, a dozen or so black flies in the house when we get home. None have successfully breached the crockpot, but it's only a matter of time. [more inside]
Question about opioid painkillers
I'm going to give birth in a few weeks and I'll probably be faced with the question of whether to accept certain painkillers - most likely morphine, fentanyl, demerol - I don't know what else. In principal I have absolutely nothing against these drugs and I know they can be helpful in providing enough relief to allow the body to relax enough for labour to progress it if stalls, or at least help me get a nap in. However... [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 12:06 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by kitcat at 12:06 PM PST - 18 comments
Husband has kept a journal to prove I am mentally ill
Mind blown. Husband believes our marriage problems come from me having borderline traits and pushing him away when he shows love. I believe that isn't a helpful perspective to use and we are better off seeing problems as normal marital issues with communication etc. Husband has been tracking this. I think I want a divorce. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 11:50 AM PST - 66 comments
posted by What a Joke at 11:50 AM PST - 66 comments
Key organizer filter: What's this dealie bopper called?
What the heck is this thing called? How can I replace it? It's just a little black round thing with a hole for a key ring and a slot carved all the way 'round so that it slides into this lovely metal rack. [more inside]
posted by Made of Star Stuff at 11:44 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by Made of Star Stuff at 11:44 AM PST - 13 comments
Shoes for narrow heels
My feet have narrow heels (AA). But the front of my foot is a normal width. Does anybody have women's shoe recommendations. In winter, I can get away with boots. But in the summer, ballet flats typically don't fit. I also walk a lot, and the few shoes that fit wear quickly (especially since I sometimes buy a half size down to deal with the heel issue). Summer shoe recommendations please. [more inside]
Looking for cheaper and expensive similar products
I am looking for a home that would be made entirely of decorative elements, furniture and accessories that represent alternatives that are virtually similar to other, but less expensive, products. [more inside]
posted by Wiserwood at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Wiserwood at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments
Best Vegetarian Meal Delivery Service? (they curate and ship/ I cook)
We've been using a combination of Hello Fresh and Home Chef for the past yr and a half. We love their offerings and customer service but would like to switch to a similar service that features Vegetarian meal delivery. I'm thinking going Vegan is too far a leap for us, so Vegetarian is definitely what we're shooting for. I hear Blue Apron does a decent job but they send all ingredients for several meals in one big box. It's a hassle to store and retrieve ingredients when it's time to cook the meal; a major frustration. So, no Blue Apron. Any Vegetarians using meal delivery services that are not just a bunch of veggies? I'm listening!
A week in Dublin!
My sister and I will be spending a week in Dublin at the end of May. What should we do? I'm really into plants and animals. I'm also vegetarian. She doesn't like museums. We are considering taking a day trip out to see the Cliffs of Moher. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 10:25 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by vegartanipla at 10:25 AM PST - 20 comments
One day in Carmel...with baby
Next week I'll be in Carmel-by-the-Sea for a day with my six-month-old baby but without a car. What should we do? [more inside]
delete unused browser files?
Hi everyone,
I regularly clear my browser history/cache/etc for Chrome to protect from adware/malware/whatever, which is the only one I use. I have windows so I also have Edge, Internet Explorer installed automatically. Is there any reason I should also clear out cache for browsers that I don't use? Are they like, portals into the internet that can be activated without my even using them, if that makes sense?
How do you manage aging, and grief that accompanies acquaintances dying?
Like everyone, I'm getting older. I'm thankfully healthy, sane, securely housed, have a wonderful spouse, and lovely friends who are like family. But as soon as I reached my 30s (and now approaching my 40s), I see more and more friends and acquaintances getting sick and dying. I understand this will continue as I get older, but it quite shakes me, so I'm wondering how to get a better handle on it. [more inside]
Shake It Up
I'm spending a day next month riding lots of scary roller coasters with a friend. Yay! However, I mentioned this to a different friend, who is far more risk averse than I am and said, "Oh, great, so you're going to spend a whole day getting brain damage." Ha ha, dude, good one! But then I decided to ask Dr. Google, who told me that yes, in fact, it is possible to get subdural hematomas, among other things, from riding roller coasters. Um. [more inside]
save and close yahoo
1. I want to close a really old yahoo email account. I can't figure out how to save or download messages first without opening each and forwarding it which is too time consuming.
2. After an account is closed, do they still mine and sell the data? I have many old email accounts and wonder this for both yahoo and gmail. [more inside]
Preventing our outgoing email from being blacklisted because of our ISP?
The outgoing email we are sending to a particular client is getting blocked by their IT department - their IT people shared a log showing the messages has not been delivered. The stated reason for the blockage is that the outgoing SMTP server used by our ISP (1&1 in our case) is being blacklisted by one of the filters used by our client. It seems to be this is a generic problem affecting all users of this particular SMTP server; 1&1 have been useless at responding to our requests they address the issue (their advice is to us to request that our client organisation whitelist their server - which the client IT people are reluctant to do). [more inside]
posted by rongorongo at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by rongorongo at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments
Chance the Rapper '3' font?
Is the now famous Chance the Rapper '3' from the cover of Coloring Book from a specific font set? Full disclosure, what I actually want is a matching 4, so if it isn't from a specific font set, has a fan already made a matching 4 and I just can't find it? Or is the only way to get my hands on a matching 4 to make one? (By which I mean find someone to make one, because I definitely don't have those skills.)
Abdominal pain without any other symptoms.
YANMD. Pain the lower left abdomen when pressed. No other symptoms. Any thoughts? [more inside]
Can one build an entire wardrobe around a single brand of shoes?
Can one build an entire wardrobe around a single brand of shoes? [more inside]
Biology-MeFi: Chart of intra-species genetic diversity across phyla?
I am looking for information on how genetic diversity within a species (not between species) differs between taxa. In other words: Is the "spread" in the genetic pool, if measured, for instance, in terms of single-nucleotide polymorphism (SNP), generally bigger / smaller for some groups of species than for others? [more inside]
General retail interview etiquette
What's the general etiquette when you are interviewing for multiple companies? [more inside]
Journaling without spiraling
How can I start journaling again without it turning into tedious self-berating? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 1:54 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by cardinalandcrow at 1:54 AM PST - 13 comments
May 15
What do you call a justification-apology?
We've all heard it: "I'm so sorry the bell woke you, but my delivery arrived 20m earlier than it said on the website." "I'm sorry I forgot to put your clothes in the dryer like I'd agreed, but I've had a stressful day." What do you call an apology that's actually more about explaining the mistake?
posted by yaymukund at 11:27 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by yaymukund at 11:27 PM PST - 12 comments
Vibrant artsy towns in the mountains?
We're planning on moving to a town somewhere in Mountain West/PNW within the next 2 years to open an artistic business. We have a list of potential places, but want to expand the list before we start narrowing it down. Criteria inside... [more inside]
Recommendations for a non-judgmental family law attorney in Austin, TX
Looking for a good attorney to facilitate my divorce. I have recently moved to Austin, Texas. My future ex lives in another state. We have no children and no shared assets—just shared debt.
Here's the twist: I work in the adult industry (legally). [more inside]
How can I deal with an art copycat that just won't stop?
Someone is making (wonky) replicas of my art pieces, taking screenshots of pictures I've posted and posting them as their own, and generally creeping me out. I'm looking for suggestions on how to proceed. [more inside]
Reading out loud is surprisingly hard on my voice, help?
I expect to read out loud a fair amount in the coming years. It's surprisingly hard on my voice. I assume we've developed technique for speaking continuously for 15-60 minutes at a time. How do I learn that? [more inside]
How to make your home/workplace/school/life more inclusive?
I'm trying to come up for some blog content for work (I do social media at a not-for-profit providing services to refugee and migrant children) and I've been asked to write a blog on 'how to make your home/workplace/school/life more inclusive'. I can think of a few examples myself but was wondering if there were any interesting academic studies or real-life examples of ways individuals and communities can welcome new migrants, or accommodate difference more generally. Thanks!
Getting rid of a car with wrong name on title
Our car is undrivable and we need to get rid of it. The title is in my partner's mother's name and she is across the country. How do we navigate this? [more inside]
Terrified of monogamy
Non-monogamous person having second thoughts. Wanting to try monogamy, but can't get over a veritable monogamy-phobia that was instilled after an emotionally abusive, controlling relationship. How to get over this fear? Anyone else have this fear? How to navigate being not quite monogamous, but not entirely non-monogamous or poly? [more inside]
posted by Dendrites at 8:38 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Dendrites at 8:38 PM PST - 8 comments
How to facilitate a difficult conversation
I'm a director of an all-volunteer organization. Last night, one of my fellow directors talked about a conflict with a couple of senior volunteers. I think we need to fix this. [more inside]
Does this place really exist on planet Earth?
Saw this picture on a friends facebook post. He could not say where it was taken but said it came from a site called Beauty of Planet Earth on Facebook. Alot of their pictures appear to be heavily photoshopped and the places may not actually exist, Is this picture real and where is it?
posted by Xurando at 7:57 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by Xurando at 7:57 PM PST - 4 comments
City library claims I have their book
I have never even heard of this author. When I said I had misplaced the card for a while, "well you're still responsible" in a snotty sort of way. I am 100% sure I never checked this book out. If I had and I lost it, I'd own up to it and pay for it, but I don't the point in paying for a book I never checked out. Other pressing things (moving, losing job) took precedence. Now it's gone to collections and collections has added $30 (total of $55). I read the similar post about the U library.
Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Barcelona edition
Our family will be spending a few days in Barcelona in June. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
Story/article about a woman from an African nation
I’m looking for an article or story I read. The author/narrator was a woman from an African nation. All I remember are a few details. I think I saw it here on metafilter. [more inside]
posted by umber vowel at 6:55 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by umber vowel at 6:55 PM PST - 3 comments
What do I do with this stuff, mixed drink edition
I make painkillers which is appx 2 parts rum to 1 parts coconut cream to 5 parts fresh fruit juice. Coconut cream solidifies just below room temp. So how do i store a large make-ahead batch? Refrigerate seems out since the fat will solidify. Is this mix counter safe? [more inside]
posted by chasles at 6:29 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by chasles at 6:29 PM PST - 10 comments
9 year old birthday party activities
My son is turning 9 and has requested a unicorn-cat-dog-turtle- themed party. Any ideas of fun activities we can do related to those critters? There will be 7 kids, ages 6-9. There will be cake and animal masks...and I'm out of ideas for anything else to do. [more inside]
posted by Empidonax at 5:36 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by Empidonax at 5:36 PM PST - 15 comments
Drums!
My six-year-old daughter, currently obsessed with the Beatles, has been asking for a drum kit for months. What would be a good, cheap "starter" option for a child her age? Where do we begin?
Reliable sources for "Is X Vegan" searches?
I eat primarily vegan*. The internet is full of nonsense when it comes to food ingredients. Beyond contacting a company and my own knowledge, is there a reliable source of some kind for checking this stuff? [more inside]
Should I include a pending divorce on NIH biosketch personal statement?
The NIH biosketch includes a 'personal statement' where you can explain slowdowns or gaps in your career, due to childbearing, for instance. I'm preparing a renewal application, and I'm sure it's not as good as it would be if I wasn't also working through a divorce. Deadlines are deadlines, however and my divorce won't be resolved prior to the renewal deadline. I'm torn as to whether to include this information. Help me, hive mind!
posted by u2604ab at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by u2604ab at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments
Reccomend hospice care in Albuquerque?
My mother lives in Albuquerque and is in need of hospice care. She was connected with Heritage but they apparently don't offer an inpatient service, which my mother would much prefer over dying at home.
So I'd love to hear recommendations for good inpatient hospice services in Albuquerque. Bonus if they take her insurance (Blue Cross and Medicaid), but that's not a primary concern at this point.
Thanks in advance for any recommendations.
posted by nixxon at 3:04 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by nixxon at 3:04 PM PST - 3 comments
How does a white person dress for an Afrofuturism party?
I'm in the thinking-about-it phase. Want to be respectful, obviously. And not make an ass of my middle-aged self. And I've been invited. So....?
posted by RedEmma at 3:02 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by RedEmma at 3:02 PM PST - 12 comments
Took a step back, don't think a friendship will work. What do I owe?
I met someone at work, a pretty intense friendship ensued, we mutually acknowledged "bigger than friends" feelings, but ruled out a romance. After bumping along for a while trying to make the friend thing work, I've realized some things I was doing that weren't great. I asked for some space, got it, and after several months I think it'd be best to just part ways. I'm not sure what I owe. [more inside]
Instant Pot recipes. Difficult Level: Sleepless parents + Newborn.
In the home stretch of the third trimester, and trying to think ahead for meals. We need reinforcements. More below the fold. [more inside]
There Must Be a Term for This ... Or IS There?
Recently, my 14-year-old son has been responding to statements (or orders) with a dramatically-pointed question. I'm curious if there is a term for this rhetorical (?) trope. [more inside]
posted by majorsteel at 12:34 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by majorsteel at 12:34 PM PST - 20 comments
Internet without an ISP? A Private Network? Huh?
I was reading Dear Prudence instead of working, as one does. There was a follow-up from a letter-writer who, unable to join in on a new fiber optic broadband service in her area, went ahead and set up a "private network." I am super intrigued but cannot find anything about it. Here's the post. Does anyone know where I can get more information about this?
posted by bluejayway at 12:27 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by bluejayway at 12:27 PM PST - 4 comments
Did you learn about pyramid schemes the hard way?
I'm meeting with a 19-year old later today to try to explain to him why joining pyramid schemes, aka multi-level marketing and the latest name, network marketing, is a bad idea. I have a couple of good youtube videos explaining it, but would love to hear from you if you have had experience with one. I'd like to share this with him. This particular one is a combo of Amway and World Wide Dram Builders, but any you have tried will be just fine. Thank you.
In search of....
We have a holder for our Sonicare toothbrush heads that looks like this. I'd like to find one that holds three brushes instead of two, but they don't seem to exist. Can you find me one? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 11:47 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by anastasiav at 11:47 AM PST - 3 comments
Parrot inheritance - am I being selfish?
I very well may be inheriting a 20yr old male African Grey parrot and I am beside myself with excitement because I have always wanted one. But is my excitement clouding my judgement, is this what's best for the bird? [more inside]
posted by danapiper at 11:28 AM PST - 27 comments
posted by danapiper at 11:28 AM PST - 27 comments
Blame Shame and Guilt
I’m blaming myself for my child’s “failures”. How to get out of this destructive pattern? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 11:25 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by loveandhappiness at 11:25 AM PST - 9 comments
New job offer: Out of the frying pan and into?
I've received an offer for a new job that I'm genuinely conflicted about taking.
The company I'm working for is undergoing some... changes. We're rapidly running out of money, in the process of being acquired, my department is now barren after layoffs, and there's a small possibility my role doesn't survive the transition after acquisition. Sounds awful, an an easy choice to jump ship, right? There's more to it... (maybe) [more inside]
Car Insurance, tell or don't tell?
Hi. So we moved into a new house in a new city for a new job (with a new baby!) Within 48 hours of moving in, having parked on the street, a 16 year old backed into our minivan and dented the front panel. So, should we take money under the table, or go through insurance? [more inside]
Save the whales! What was this dimly remembered children's book?
Some time around 1984, I read a YA novel in which the main character either switched consciousness with or took over the consciousness of a whale. Anyone? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 10:32 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by Frowner at 10:32 AM PST - 6 comments
App to improve spoken French comprehension?
I'd like to find an app that primarily practices recognizing conversational French, preferably with a travel focus. [more inside]
Helping male friend in early 30s through extended hospital stay?
A close friend is currently hospitalized for acute leukemia. He is going to be in the hospital for at least a month and possibly even longer, depending on how he responds to chemotherapy. He has minimal family support so his network of friends is taking the lead. How can we best help him through this? [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 10:15 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by castlebravo at 10:15 AM PST - 12 comments
River of News RSS Reader
Does anyone know of RSS feed reader which acts like a River of News. No side bar, just the ability to follow RSS feeds and have them appear in a column which I can just keep working through when I have an idle moment. [more inside]
Books about graffiti artists in America
Can you recommend to me books about the lives of graffiti artists? For research purposes I'm aiming towards the era of of modern day southwestern United States and preferably nonfiction and autobiographical, but those constraints are totally optional.
Where can one clear a CA teaching credential without working full-time?
My mom is looking for a teaching credential induction program that is sponsored by a college or university. This will enable her to clear her credential without working full-time as a teacher or clearing it through a school district. [more inside]
Short story club!
My friends and I are starting a short story club, in which we will read and discuss a short story every 2 weeks. We would love recommendations for stories that will stimulate discussion, especially if they're feminist-oriented. Stories need to be available online. [more inside]
Holly help
The holly outside our front door is dropping many of its leaves. Any ideas of what's wrong, and what we can do to save it? [more inside]
LAMP Stuck
I am trying to figure out why a webserver would only hang up on (apparently) people using iMacs who have visited the site before. Has anyone experienced this problem? [more inside]
Sewing Manuals and Sewing Resources in Hebrew
Would anyone know of sewing resources for clothing primarily and design secondarily in Hebrew? [more inside]
Want Advice About My House
Hi everyone. I want to sell my house and move. It's my first time doing so. I've only had this house 2 years. I have thought about selling it myself through HelpUSell or Redfin or both. Details inside [more inside]
posted by DixieBaby at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by DixieBaby at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments
Best way to get scarves/hats/dress up clothes for a toddler?
What's the cheapest (and easiest, it sounds silly but even minor errands can be hard to manage logistically) way to get a bunch of dress-up clothes for a toddler, especially fancy-looking scarves, hats, and other things she can drape/put on by herself? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:41 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:41 AM PST - 16 comments
selling rental property: better empty or leased?
I have a four-unit apartment building which I may want to sell in the next year. This is in Santa Cruz, CA, where the city council have recently imposed rent controls including prohibiting tenant removal at end of lease, and a more punitive rent control measure is likely going on the ballot in November. Some of my tenants are moving out soon. When selling the building, would it be better to have all apartments leased and paying rent, or have apartments empty? What is better for a prospective buyer, and what are they likely to prefer?
Dealing with harassment by limiting opportunity?
I'm looking for articles about workplaces addressing harassment in ways that are not quite the Mike Pence rule (no meetings alone with women), but close neighbors--keeping doors open, limiting out of town trips, having windows in every office. Articles that are pro and con are welcome.
"You look just like your mom!"
When out in the world with my mother or my children, people often exclaim about how much we look like each other. We never quite know how to respond to that; I usually say "thanks" but that's not quite right. Any suggestions for other responses? I'll use polite ones most often, but snarky or amusing ones are also welcome! [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 6:27 AM PST - 56 comments
posted by metasarah at 6:27 AM PST - 56 comments
Did you bumble around in your career in your mid to late twenties?
This seems like an obvious answer question but I would love to hear personal stories about figuring out your career in your mid to late twenties--especially where you thought you made a mistake (or did) and it turned out alright. How did you figure out what the right career move was for you? Is job hopping ever acceptable when you're still trying to figure out what kind of job is the right fit for you? [more inside]
Dealing with guilt and regret after majorly fucking up
After several years of being a fuck-up, including withdrawing from two semesters of college, I finally feel as if I'm on somewhat solid ground. But the persistent guilt and regret of wasting so much time, money, and privilege weighs constantly on my mind. How do I accept responsibility for my past without having it ruin my future? [more inside]
Where do I find this hat?
I saw this hat on a fellow in SE Asia, and I need your help finding it. [more inside]
This Sandwich Needs Something
I have a toddler and a parent that is starting to require more care, management, and accommodation. I don't think I'm prepared for this. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 1:57 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by crunchy potato at 1:57 AM PST - 16 comments
May 14
Skin!
I once saw a video of someone who found some talking a toy doll at a garage sale or something, and hacked it to say "skin" in an extremely creepy and hilarious way. I am fairly certain it was on twitter, but I have been completely unable to find it. Twitter's search is not the best, it turns out.
Please help me creep out my friends with this video!
posted by aubilenon at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by aubilenon at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments
I thought my skin had my back
I'm meant to be seeing a dermatologist today about the increasing amount of psoriasis I've been getting on my face. Woke up this morning and my skin is fresher, clearer and less dry than it has been in months. Now I'm freaking out that the appointment will be a waste and I won't be able to get appropriate treatment because my skin isn't "performing". Will the doctor still take me seriously? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by terretu at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments
How much would you pay for toilet paper?
I need your help to determine the strategy for a GoFundMe campaign to raise money for the American Civil Liberties Union. [more inside]
Leisurely breakfast near 36th and 6th in Manhattan?
We’re arriving in New York early Thursday morning and are looking for a place to eat breakfast. We’ll be stopping by the hotel near 36th and 6th first and then out to breakfast after that, around 7:15 or so. We’d like a place where we can have a low-key, leisurely, and tasty meal, where we can hang out for a little bit. We’d also like it to be in that area so we don’t have to travel too far—we’ll be tired and hungry. Any recommendations?
Best note-taking app for serious note-takers?
I'm constantly writing notes, lots of notes, on lots of different projects, both on my iPhone and MacBook. Apple's Notes app was my main go-to, because it's easy, but I've got several thousand notes in there and it's frozen up (also there's no simple export function, also it's too easy to delete notes by accident, also I hate iCloud). What's the best alternative? If there was some sort of stress-free tagging system (or AI-based predictive or automated classification) that would be great too, but I'm mainly just looking for a cross-platform workhorse that is easy to add to, and won't let me down.
Have you seen this gif of a bike following a hedgehog?
Hello! I saw a loop or a video or a gif a few weeks ago that seemed to be of a bike going down a trail, following a little animal. Perhaps a hedgehog. It is probably animated. Or from a video game. But I can't find it again. If you know what I'm talking about, please share.
posted by 41swans at 8:42 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by 41swans at 8:42 PM PST - 1 comment
Selling without the hassle
I have a bunch of stuff I want to get rid of. Some of it is obvious donation/trash, but some of it in theory should be sellable (for example, I have almost every video game console ever made in working condition, plus tons of games). [more inside]
posted by thefoxgod at 8:10 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by thefoxgod at 8:10 PM PST - 15 comments
Unresolved body aches from new desk job?
I recently started a new job as a data entry clerk and have been experiencing an indescribable amount of body aches/pains all over. I've had two desk jobs before this and have never experienced anything like this before. I'm struggling to find a solution and am feeling very hopeless. Does anyone have any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by anonymous at 8:04 PM PST - 12 comments
Hostile workplace
I work in a hostile environment, to the point where I think I need some sort of legal consult.
Who do I go to? [more inside]
Induce? Or wait?
39 weeks with a seemingly large baby. Obstetrician wants to induce. Mother feels nervous. What to do? [more inside]
Texting app for Samsung phone that syncs with a Windows desktop program?
I am an all-Macintosh person. Mac's texting app, Messages, syncs all texting on my iPhone, iPad, and MacBook Pro, so no matter where I am, I have all of my latest text convos. A friend has a Samsung phone and a Windows computer, and wants this same functionality. Is there a similar texting app/program for someone with a Samsung phone and a Windows computer that allows texting from either their computer or their phone, and see the whole thing on both?
DIY wall bike rack: is this ok?
Can the wall hook not point to the center of the wheel and be ok? [more inside]
posted by cgs at 6:17 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by cgs at 6:17 PM PST - 3 comments
Ah, my eyes! New and unwelcome eye allergy to cosmetics.
Hello, I seem to have unexpectedly developed a sensitivity or allergy to eye makeup ingredient(s). If I wear eye makeup the following day my eyes will be red and sore. This is new territory for me, are there common allergic culprits I should keep an eye (har har) out for? [more inside]
The EPA doesn't protect our water-- does anything?
I'm concerned about PFOA and PFOS in our own drinking water. Is there any kind of at-home filtration system that would actually remove these chemicals? [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle at 3:04 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Mystical Listicle at 3:04 PM PST - 5 comments
Can I improve my reading speed in midlife?
I have always been a slow reader. For some reason it never bothered me until recently. Can I do anything about this? [more inside]
How does one's social security number end up on background sites?
An employer says they can't find my info [more inside]
Lease ended, now on month-to-month; how to negotiate for a lease? (NY)
Brooklyn, New York: My (renewal) lease ended at the end of April and I haven't gotten a new lease from my landlord. There are no explicit provisions in the lease for what happens next, which, according to my best reading of the situation, means I'm on a de-facto month-to-month lease. I would love to renew my lease. What's the best way to approach my landlord? [more inside]
posted by wemayfreeze at 2:00 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by wemayfreeze at 2:00 PM PST - 10 comments
Children as the "property" of their parents??
I'm dealing with a situation in which a couple has asserted (as a defense) that children are the property of their parents. This assertion is often made in conflicts of medical ethics, such as Christian Scientists vs medical caregivers. I think that Mennonites and Amish may actually teach that children are their parents' property. Does anyone have more information on this, specifically whether the Jehovah Witness religion teaches this?
posted by mmiddle at 1:39 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by mmiddle at 1:39 PM PST - 14 comments
Modern Car Buying Advice with a Twist (recent unemployment)
I was recently laid off from work and my car of 20 years isn't really safe to drive. Will I be able to get a car loan if am unemployed? [more inside]
Cat peeing outside his litterbox
My cat Mew Mew is generally a Good Boy (likes cuddles! tolerates smooches! will go walkies in the backyard in his harness! has only barfed on my new couch once!), but we're having repeated issues with urination outside the litterbox. [more inside]
The "A" in CAPM is for "Anxious"
I had been tossing around the idea of taking the CAPM (Certified Associate in Project Management) exam for awhile and then (on an expensive whim) decided to sign up for it. Now I have a week to study. Should I re-schedule or should I go for it? [more inside]
Lower Ea(s)t Side
Where are your favorite Lower East Side eats? [more inside]
Textile stamp on fabric - what kinds of inks will work?
My birthday gift to myself was some beautiful textile stamps. Blick sells fabric ink, but can I use fabric paint, latex paint, India ink, etc? I especially want to print on tshirts, but I have my eye on the director chair covers, as well. Cost and permanence are factors. [more inside]
posted by theora55 at 11:54 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by theora55 at 11:54 AM PST - 5 comments
Mother's Day and unmet expectations
My mother is upset with me (>30, F) for forgetting Mother's Day. The truth is, I hadn't really forgotten about it, but I just do not care one whit about most consumer-/socially-/religiously- fabricated special occasions. [more inside]
posted by houseofleaves at 11:52 AM PST - 55 comments
posted by houseofleaves at 11:52 AM PST - 55 comments
Changes in PMS/PMDD after IUD?
I switched to a hormonal IUD (Skyla) about 16 months ago after being on BCP for over 10 years. Did your PMS symptoms change when you switched to IUD? Do your symptoms vary based on whether or not you bleed that month? [more inside]
posted by assenav at 11:23 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by assenav at 11:23 AM PST - 7 comments
Partnered relaxation rituals
My husband and I enjoy watching TV in the evenings to unwind, usually while we eat dinner. But TV is a time-suck and not how I really want to be spending my time right now (as much as I enjoy it!), so I'm interested in what kind of rituals others have for relaxing with partners on workday evenings. Difficulty level: toddler, and preferably something that takes around 15 minutes. [more inside]
Returning to Philosophy
Hi folks. I have always read quite a bit, but once upon a time (in university) was way more on the critical theory/philosophy kick. In the spirit of new beginnings, I have been trying to delve into lots of old pastimes/skills/etc. recently, and I told myself instead of a novel I'd pick up one of my philosophy texts sitting around to get back into the swing of things. [more inside]
posted by parkbench at 10:57 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by parkbench at 10:57 AM PST - 4 comments
Suggestions for good role-playing game books to read (and not play)?
I have always liked to read well-written RPG game books, the ones laying out systems, encounters and adventures. I am much less interested in tables than I am in the prose - fascinating settings, interesting backstories, and cool systems of any genre. Think Nobilis or the stuff discussed in this recent thread. Does anyone have any suggestions? Bonus points for e-books or things that don't cost crazy amounts of money...
Is this translation-from-audio rate fair?
I'm looking to earn some extra cash during the summer, and have been offered a translation-from-audio job for some one-on-one interviews with bartenders. Can you give me a sense if this is worth doing? [more inside]
Best price to capacity for low power storage
I'm building a battery powered suitcase jukebox for trips to the place we go that doesn't have Internet access. What is the most low power storage I can get for around $200? [more inside]
posted by donpardo at 10:29 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by donpardo at 10:29 AM PST - 8 comments
How best to spread the word about a NYC Resistance book club?
What are the best ways to promote a monthly New York City book club that is reading books for the Resistance? Examples of the books we read are here. [more inside]
My toddler is the class bully. Help!
My 21-month old pulls other kids' hair at daycare. Need advice or resources. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 9:38 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by splitpeasoup at 9:38 AM PST - 18 comments
Help me recover from a pulled muscle
I barely leaned over to feed the dog and I felt a sharp muscle pain. Now I have pain when I put my right leg forward while walking. The pain extends from my lower back to my knee. Can I stretch this out?
Congratulations co-worker!
Wedding acknowledgment ideas for co-workers in small office. [more inside]
posted by the primroses were over at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by the primroses were over at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments
Talking to young teenagers
Can you recommend any books about effective communication with 10-13 year olds? This is for a (non religious) community group, none of them are my children.
Thanks!
Mondays are for naming puppies
This 14 week-old chunkster needs a name! What do you have that's 2 syllables, not punny, and on the more serious side? Thanks! [more inside]
Insurance and car accidents, take 2
I'm still dealing with the fallout of this accident that happened in February. Turns out the insurance I bought only covers the damage to the car I was driving, and doesn't have liability. So the other driver's insurance is asking me to cover his damages. The accident was the fault of a 3rd party and I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
Program or platform for making complex custom lists
I like to make lists: lists of books I want to read, my ratings of movies, lists of things I own. For simple lists, I put them on Evernote. I put more complicated lists in Excel, but when a list/spreadsheet gets too long or too wide (too many columns), I would like to be able to view the data as something like a sortable table or even a results page showing just the relevant information. [more inside]
I think I took my issues out on my kid - or maybe I just parented?
My 10 yr old asked me if I'd bought eggs yet, and then walked away without a response when I said no. It triggered my PTSD. I *think* my response was within the realm of reasonable but I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 7:34 AM PST - 36 comments
posted by MiraK at 7:34 AM PST - 36 comments
Even PoC Have Diet Restrictions
Are there resources for restricted diets/food allergies (FODMAP, gluten-free, paleo, Atkins, veg*an, raw, etc etc) that take into account foods and cuisines from generally non-White/PoC/"ethnic" cultures? [more inside]
Ride from Rome to fiumicino EARLY on a wednesday morning.
We check out of an AirBnb next wednesday in Rome, near the Colusseum. Because of an airline-induced flight change instead of being at the airport at 9am, we have to be at there at 6am. [more inside]
How can I 'reset' my biological clock to function during 2 late nights?
Next week I will have to work until 6 in the morning for two nights (it's a shoot, the timings are non-negotiable). It's super important that I'm on the ball during these shoot days (nights?). I am an avowed morning person. HELP. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 3:29 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by nerdfish at 3:29 AM PST - 7 comments
May 13
unpaid credit card went to collection agency, too late to undo?
Whoops! I ran out of money and rather than talk to the credit card company, I ignored it for a few months, figuring the worst that would happen would be an accumulation of fees and interest that I would pay later when money came in. Nope! That wasn't the worst - just got a letter from a collection agency. Is there a chance that the CC company will take the debt back if I talk to them, or should I just deal with the collection agency? [more inside]
Help me diversify my office.
My team lead is quitting and I'm probably going to get promoted. I want to make it a condition of my promotion that my replacement will not be a white man. How do I make this work? [more inside]
Books about coping with a Bipolar 1 family member?
I'd love some reviews and recommendations from the smart minds of Metafilter. Are you a family member of someone with Bipolar 1? Is there a book that helped you understand and cope with how your family member acted, how they treated you, etc? [more inside]
What's the UK equivalent to Yelp/Zomato?
What's the UK equivalent to Yelp/Zomato/Wongnai? (And while we're on the topic, is there a local equivalent to Beanhunter - or is Beanhunter used over there?)
posted by rednikki at 7:17 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by rednikki at 7:17 PM PST - 7 comments
Sewing pattern recommendation
I am looking for a sewing pattern for a very specific style of A-line skirt. I had one like it in the 1980s but if it still exists now, I'm missing it. It has an elasticized waistband in the back only, and it closes with a hook and eye at the left pocket--i.e., where the innermost seam of the pocket would normally be, it is open, and the pocket unfolds when the skirt is unfastened. Have you seen one like this?
A children's book about washing stars?
I'm trying to find a book I loved as a kid. As far as I can remember, the plot was approximately this:
In the beginning, everything was dark, but then a seer told the people about the stars. She said, if we wash and polish the stars so that they shine, the world will be full of light... [more inside]
posted by redneck_crake at 4:41 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by redneck_crake at 4:41 PM PST - 2 comments
Your PHP installation appears to be missing the MySQL extension
"Your PHP installation appears to be missing the MySQL extension which is required by WordPress." I updated an old WordPress site today, and broke it. To fix it, I re-installed my backup of the website which is several years old (the site hasn't changed), and now I get the above error message instead of my site. [more inside]
posted by extrabox at 3:06 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by extrabox at 3:06 PM PST - 11 comments
Best portable outdoor stereo?ii
I am desperately seeking a portable, durable, all-in-one stereo that is easy to operate. I am not looking for a bluetooth speaker. I’m thinking either a construction jobsite boombox or a regular boombox from Sony or something if it is durable enough. [more inside]
Job interview advice, version: youth facilitation challenge
Tomorrow I am going for a second interview for a job I would really like to have. The job is running a life skills program for youth with mental health challenges. I have done the sit-down interview, and tomorrow they want me to facilitate a workshop on the fly with live youth test subjects. They'll tell me tomorrow what the topic of the workshop is. [more inside]
With what is my 11yo confusing Pink Floyd?
“Pink Floyd,” he said, “isn’t that a clothing brand? With like sweatshirts, and they have pink, like, here, and here?” Is he making up something out of whole cloth, so to speak, or is there something he’s confusing it with?
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments
Sad Mother's Day
How do I not be so sad when my family doesn't even want to spend time with me? [more inside]
Why was a new-age music ad playing nonstop on Nickelodeon in the 90's?
Why was an ad for a new-age music CD playing nonstop on Nickelodeon in the 1990's? [more inside]
posted by Ndwright at 8:17 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Ndwright at 8:17 AM PST - 10 comments
Estate Sale Score - Tell Me More!
Tell me more about the two, fetching equestrian paintings I bought at an estate sale. They are about 12x16 inches each, appear to be painted on glass panels, and have a little bit of writing in a language that I don’t know (but I would guess Arabic or Urdu). [pic1] [pic2] [more inside]
posted by eulily at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by eulily at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments
Last minute birthday present for almost-estranged parent
We're (1 sister, grown son, and I) going today to a milestone birthday party for my father, from whom we are largely estranged. He turned 80. Just the fact that we were invited is unusual, and I feel that I should attend. My extended family will be there, too. It will be OK being with all of them; we aren't close, but friendly. It's a barbeque. I feel I need to bring something for my father, but nothing personal. [more inside]
Examples of invite- or appointment-only "retail stores"?
I'm considering opening an appointment-only retail "store" out of my Toronto loft (legal in my building, which is zoned for commercial, and verified with my landlord) and am looking for examples of people doing similar around the world. I recall a few years ago reading about a kid who was doing so with skateboards (in NY?), and another with sneakers, but cannot now find those articles. What are some examples you know of of people doing likewise? Articles, websites, advice appreciated. Better description in the more inside. [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 7:44 AM PST - 22 comments
posted by dobbs at 7:44 AM PST - 22 comments
Discount contacts website, without a prescription?
Hi all. Probably two years ago I ordered Acuvue moist contacts online from a dodgy website where I typed in my prescription info but didn’t need to upload the actual script. Fast forward, I just used my last pair and I want to order more, but I can’t find the site for the life of me. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:15 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by pintapicasso at 6:15 AM PST - 13 comments
Research as assembling a jigsaw puzzles: some ideas and request for info
I am writing a paper about the role of economic policy in GDP growth rates I want to start with an exploration of the roots of knowledge to provide a framework for my approach to the subject. [more inside]
Complex PTSD in the workplace
Lately the stuff that has always previously manifested for me as a mood disorder has started manifesting more like complex PTSD, and it's beginning to impact my work. I've started a conversation about this at work with my manager and HR; I imagine someone's going to ask me what would be helpful in terms of accommodations at work fairly soon, and I have no idea what would actually help. Looking for advice and experiences from other people who've been through something similar. CW: childhood abuse. [more inside]
Veranda pesto
Best practices (for lady with black thumb) growing basil, cherry tomatoes, and habaneros on veranda. [more inside]
Relationship troubles at a boiling point
I think the “Four Horsemen” are here, but I’m just having so much trouble understanding what’s happening. Trust issues, etc. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:09 AM PST - 50 comments
posted by stoneandstar at 3:09 AM PST - 50 comments
Help me overcome my seafood fears
My family didn’t often eat seafood aside from pre-filleted fish and pre-prepared shrimp. I want to get over my hurdles with eating shellfish and dealing with whole fish. If you’ve done the same, any tips? [more inside]
Fear has become a big part of my life
In my younger days, I used to be fearful about things going wrong in life. Eg not paying bills on time, paying excessive attention to details, making sure I locked the doors. I would always plan for bad scenarios.
Then I sorta relaxed and became more at ease with my life. I attributed much of this to my passage of becoming an adult and don't really look back on those habits. For over a decade I have been much less worried about these things.
But I think the fear is back now. Details inside. [more inside]
May 12
Articles on survivors and experiences of childcare as parents
Where can I find articles on how adult survivors experience childcare settings as parents? [more inside]
Best app for tracking gas spent for mile
I'm doing an experiment with a rental car to see if having a car makes my life easier. I would like to get an app that will let me track how much I'm spending on gas per mile. What's the best iOS app for that? There seems to be a lot of options and I'd rather not have to do a bunch of trial and error. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 7:09 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by bleep at 7:09 PM PST - 12 comments
How do I tell my awesome manager that I’m leaving to go to grad school?
How and when should I tell my manager I'm leaving to go to grad school? I've only been at this company for a month, and I'll be leaving at around 4 months. Should I say something sooner rather than later, or play it safe? [more inside]
biochar 101
In simple terms, what's biochar all about? How does it work? Is it actually good for the environment? Should I make it or should I just compost the yard waste? [more inside]
Need to Sharpen My Casual Look
I'm a 40-ish lady and look great when I'm dressed in business attire, but my casual clothes don't look sharp or stylish or quality. What under-$125 pieces will trick the eye enough to convey I'm classy or something? [more inside]
Where on the Berkeley-Stanford corridor should I try to live?
I live in Berkeley but work at Stanford. I like Berkeley and have a good living situation, but I do not like the commute. So I'm thinking about moving nearer to Stanford, but I don't know which cities I should look at that might have some of what I like about Berkeley and be within my means. Details/criteria within... [more inside]
What to do with scheduled first-dates when you don't feel it anymore?
I've been 'swipe dating' for a bit, and I've met someone with whom I'm a bit smitten. We've been on two dates over the past month (busy professional schedules), with a third scheduled soon. I feel amazing rapport, we flirt by text almost daily. We've not been undressed or intimate with each other. This is to say, it's 'early days.' Like way too soon to consider exclusivity, per se. And yet, I don't want to date other people. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 4:05 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Doc_Sock at 4:05 PM PST - 8 comments
Looking For Good Laying Hens
A friend is ready to go with her coop. I am researching good layers for her. Requesting good recommendations to start me off.
She is a designer so stunning lookers are a plus
posted by goalyeehah at 3:59 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by goalyeehah at 3:59 PM PST - 12 comments
Novels about contemporary immigrant / refugee / expat experiences
I'm looking for great novels (or exceptional memoir / creative nonfiction) that use the experience of being an expat / immigrant / refugee as a way to explore the cultures of both the home country and the new country. Americanah's exploration of race in America from a Nigerian point of view is exactly what I'm looking for; more like that, please. [more inside]
posted by Jeanne at 2:41 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by Jeanne at 2:41 PM PST - 27 comments
Need a product to fill hole in orthotic
I have a pair of custom-made orthotics that has developed a small hole in the surface of one of them. I don’t want it to spread, so I’d like to seal it somehow. Duct tape gets rubbed off pretty quickly. There has to be some sort of product that will fill the hole, dry, and not get rubbed off; I just don’t know what it is. Thanks!
posted by persona au gratin at 2:38 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by persona au gratin at 2:38 PM PST - 13 comments
question about co-op fees for Queens, NY cooperative apartments
So I'm in the market for a co-op apartment in Queens, NY and I have a question about the monthly co-op fees. [more inside]
posted by the hot hot side of randy at 11:44 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by the hot hot side of randy at 11:44 AM PST - 6 comments
Sizing a battery for 12v transfer pump
Can you help me with sizing a battery for this 12v transfer pump? I'll be using this occasionally to pump water from a rain barrel for irrigation. Here is the pump I have, and here is the user's manual. I will probably use it for 20mins at a time approximately 1-2x per week. I'll be able to recharge the battery between each use. [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by pilibeen at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments
Sources of black-owned business data
I'm looking to identify black-owned businesses in the metro Atlanta area. Are there databases, APIs, or other data sources available with this information?
I've poked around on data.gov, www.programmableweb.com, and the databases available via my local library and haven't found anything promising.
What to do in Salt Lake City?
After some camping further south, my partner and I will be in Salt Lake City May 20-22. We have some flexibility and could be there May 19 for something awesome. We are looking for cool but low-key things to do. [more inside]
posted by alligatorpear at 10:14 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by alligatorpear at 10:14 AM PST - 11 comments
What is a small avocado?
I do not have a food scale so cannot use weight as a measure, but want to know in inches. I realize this is very inexact. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 8:35 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by velveeta underground at 8:35 AM PST - 7 comments
Recommend a great vegetarian food in east Midtown
I need recommendations for a vegetarian restaurant in NYC somewhere relatively on the way between 56th @ 3rd and 27th @ 7th. [more inside]
Can you help me find a sewing pattern similar to this blouse?
I really love this top and would just buy it to deconstruct it but who wants to pay pay 98.00 for a pattern? [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by the webmistress at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments
Twitter - list curation as a service? NLP curation?
I follow a lot of people on Twitter (more than two thousand), in a lot of different categories. Right now, I see what everyone is posting either through scrolling through my Twitter timeline, or by looking at Nuzzel to see what people are posting en-masse. However, I feel like I am a late consumer because I don't have true live timeline engagement with the clusters of people I follow. The natural solution to that is to use lists on Twitter. But I follow so many people! Is there a company that would help me create lists of all my followers? Or a tool that could cluster on twitter bios? [more inside]
Help me solve my sleep problems?
What time to go to bed and what time to get up? Should I nap in the afternoon? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:30 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by whitelotus at 6:30 AM PST - 29 comments
Out-of-state car buying logistics
I am a carless Virginia resident who will be moving to North Carolina in a couple months and will need to buy a car prior to the move. How do I do this without paying taxes/fees twice? [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 6:24 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by basalganglia at 6:24 AM PST - 7 comments
How to be more present and interested in my marriage?
I am a 33F who has been married to a 40F for 10 months. Though I was excited to marry my husband, afterwards I became disinterested. I have written here before only 4 months after the wedding but was not ready to open up and now I am. [more inside]
Can I walk or should I play it safe?
I'm hopeful that I'm going to have a new job soon. The interview is next week. If I get it, I'd like to start ASAP—no two weeks' notice at the old job. Is it possible to tell the new job this without looking flakey? [more inside]
May 11
Are off-brand digital stylus pens any good?
I've just bought a Microsoft Surface Pro but at the time I balked at the thought of spending an extra £99 on the official Surface Pen. There are third-party alternatives on Amazon for closer to £30-35; are these a worthwhile alternative or would I just be wasting money? It'll be used for note-taking and annotating far more than drawing.
posted by A Robot Ninja at 9:46 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by A Robot Ninja at 9:46 PM PST - 3 comments
How to prep for radio interview & debate?
I started an online petition which is having its intended effect: the (rather large) public organization's head officer I'm petitioning has been invited to a radio show. As have I. I will be sitting across from / debating him. How do I prep? [more inside]
posted by vert canard at 9:23 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by vert canard at 9:23 PM PST - 8 comments
How do you solve a problem like dog poo?
Someone in my large apartment building is letting their dog poop and pee inside the lobby of our building. It’s like RIGHT at the door leading outside, so it seems like they consider going outside, and then they just let their dog relieve itself inside. There’s carpet inside and tile in the foyer/lobby and the pee has soaked in. There are large amounts of poop as well that we (neighbors) have all stepped in. I learned from my neighbors that this is a frequent event and not a one time thing. [more inside]
Is caffeine withdrawal causing my debilitating headache?
The last two weeks have been the most miserable of my life. Some of it is definitely the anemia I'm going through. but I'm starting to think some of my pain is caffeine withdrawal. But I would love a more knowledgeable opinion. YANAD, or even if you are, YANMD, because my doctor has been useless. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 8:20 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by greermahoney at 8:20 PM PST - 22 comments
Off-beat, off-key, incredible, inspiring
I love this cover of Route 66 by Yo La Tengo. A child named Lila sings while Yo La Tengo backs her up on Yo La Tengo is Murdering the Classics. I saw a superhero band in LA at the Mar Vista Farmer's Market a few years ago, where a number of parents and their children dressed up as superheroes and made music and sang songs. I am looking for other things with this aesthetic. If you could direct me to the superhero band that would be great. Thanks!
Neighbor bass noise is bothering me. How to stop it?
How much neighbor bass noise is too much? And how can I get it to stop? [more inside]
What to do with too many kiwis?
What to do with all these kiwis?
My produce box accidentally came with 9 kiwis that I didn't order. I don't even like kiwi that much, but before I offer them to my neighbors I thought I'd ask if anybody has any great recipe involving kiwis?
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:34 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:34 PM PST - 14 comments
Another "how should I feel about this job offer" question
I got a job offer but it starts out as a short-term contract that may or may not be renewed. I thought it was a long-term job. So what now? Details below. [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 3:51 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by AppleTurnover at 3:51 PM PST - 19 comments
Asphalt content for Canada
We need to repave our driveway. We asked one company about the percentage of gravel to the hot mix asphalt and they said it's 50% gravel. We can't find what percentage is best especially with our Canadian winters with its fair share of snow. Looking for feedback.
I know what size it is, but what size will it be?
I would like to be able to single-click to select (not double-click to open) an image file in Windows Explorer and have the print dimensions displayed. Is there a plug-in or add-on to do this? [more inside]
posted by komara at 3:01 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by komara at 3:01 PM PST - 12 comments
Positive peeps, inspiring tweets
I'm recently changed my Twitter account to be mostly organized by topic using the lists option, and I've un-followed 90% of those feeds so they no longer are reflected in my timeline. I did this to make my automatic feed more positive and inspiring. This leaves my Twitter feed a little sparse, and I'm wondering what are some of your favorite, positive/inspiring blogs, individuals, Twitter feeds, etc.? [more inside]
Being single in your mid-to-late 30s – positive stories?
This really is just that – a request for positive, hopeful anecdata re. being single and then finding love when you're over 35. I'm usually at peace with it but as 37 looms and I'm still the most single person I know, I'm struggling an unusual amount. [more inside]
posted by considerthelilies at 2:33 PM PST - 26 comments
posted by considerthelilies at 2:33 PM PST - 26 comments
shaving the back of your own neck
I've looked, and I can't believe this hasn't been asked yet. How do other men deal with hair on the back of their neck? [more inside]
Mysterious one-of-a-kind electric kettle?!
I covet this Kitchenaid kettle, in this colour. Hard. But very suspiciously/confoundingly, that particular site is the only place I've seen it for sale in this colour, or even referenced as existing, including after searching resale sites like ebay. The kettle is widely available in other, less desirous (to me) colours all over the internet. But the green apple version seems to be a kitchen-gadget version of the Polkaroo....
So: Is this site a scam? Is my google-fu just awful? (spoiler: probably yes to both...) Can you make my day and find me this kettle for NOT one billion dollars? [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 9:58 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Dorinda at 9:58 AM PST - 14 comments
What's the best subscription service for hosting private Composer repos?
What are my best options for hosted, private Composer repositories? My main requirement is that it should integrate easily with GitHub, but that seems to be pretty standard. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 9:57 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by escape from the potato planet at 9:57 AM PST - 5 comments
... and facebook and instagram and tumblr and twitch and ...
Is there something that will let me post to multiple social networks from one interface? Ideally there's a program/app that I can create my post in and it will post it like a native post in each chosen media? [more inside]
Surprise Surprise, what should I write on our gift-wrapping stickers?
I'm tasked with designing our custom gift wrapping elements for our online shop selling botanical accessories. I want to order large stickers to finish the look, with a fun saying on it. This look is similar to what I have in mind.
What should the sticker say?
I would love something that works for any occasion/recipient, and bonus point for something related to plants, growing things, green things. [more inside]
posted by PardonMyFrench at 9:29 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by PardonMyFrench at 9:29 AM PST - 18 comments
A problem which threatens to rip my extended family apart...
I'll try to keep this shortish and to the point. My sister is 25 and she's dating a guy who is 27. We have a daughter (3) and my sister and this guy she's dating have routinely looked after my daughter once a week. They've mainly done trips into the city, been to the park. Once or twice they've been swimming or to a play barn. [more inside]
Cheapest way to ship vinyl record collection from US to Japan?
I need to send about 450 vinyl records to Japan. What are the cheapest options? Is it cheaper to ship them a certain amount at a time (like a 30-pack mailer), or are sending 14x14x14 inch boxed record crates the most efficient way? [more inside]
What do I need for a simple home recording studio?
I am looking at recording some combination of the following:
electric guitar,
midi keyboard (connected to computer synth software),
KORG Volca Sample [more inside]
Mental hacks when you have to be around someone who has hurt you
I can't believe I'm asking this ridiculous question, but here goes. I've always dated people outside of my social circle because of the break-up drama that is prone to happen in social circles. I made the mistake of dating someone newer to my social circle who turned out to be far different behind closed doors than his persona as a friend. Basically, it turns out that our ethics conflict and underneath the charm he's not a kind person. I was realizing these things and was planning to gracefully end things when he broke up with me in a way that was so baffling that I spent several weeks feeling quite awful. We were out together and out of no where he told me that he was using me, but felt like he was becoming attached and that he didn't want to see me again. Then, he just walked away without waiting for a response from me. [more inside]
Listing video on YouTube through the app
I recently posted a video that I had to post unlisted (only visible if you have the link). I’m ready to make it public. I only have access to the account I posted it on through my phone. Is there a way I can make the video public in the app?
Discreet things to do while working at the checkout
I work in a store and a lot of the time I end up being the main cashier. I usually go a few minutes without any customers to ring up and I get bored. Any suggestions for what I could do? I can only do discreet things, so no book reading unfortunately. I have access to register paper and pens. I could get something else to supplement that if need be. [more inside]
Tell me more about our neighborhood frogs
We (myself and Mr. Sacchan) live in northern Honshu, Japan (also known as Tohoku) and are surrounded by rice fields. When the paddies are filled with water, the frogs go nuts croaking. We want to know the specifics on what they're up to. [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 4:19 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by sacchan at 4:19 AM PST - 2 comments
Replacing a lost US passport
I'm separated from my child's Other Parent, we share custody (see previous questions). OP borrowed child's US passport, and lost it. OP has shown no inclination to either report or replace. I will now do this, so: In these circumstances, is there anything I should specifically be aware of, before I begin the application/replacement process? Thank you!
posted by life moves pretty fast at 3:56 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by life moves pretty fast at 3:56 AM PST - 6 comments
May 10
Patiently Dating
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend and am re-entering the dating scene. But how can I be patient in looking for love when I feel so heartbroken -- not just over this past relationship, but also (maybe mostly) over not finding love yet in general? How do I handle these feelings of desperation without self-sabotaging (falling for incompatible guys, accepting lukewarm relationships as "better than nothing," making dating too heavy and fraught, etc) by being too desperate? [more inside]
posted by static sock at 11:55 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by static sock at 11:55 PM PST - 21 comments
dog filter: getting a very skittish stray to come inside?
I came home tonight to find a cute, skittish little dog with no collar hanging out in my backyard. Closed the gate, posted a photo on every neighborhood group I could think of, no response. I've given the dog food and water, but I need it to come inside for the night. How? [more inside]
What is this skin-pain condition? Is it related to shingles?
A friend (80 y.o.) has had some severe shingles episodes in recent years, and I've been helping his son keep this log of I-wonder-if-this-is-shingles-related stuff, in the hopes that it is helpful for asking Metafilter, in case someone here has any input. He's concerned about having to go through the same thing his father has. Is this kind of thing related to shingles? He's concerned that it is, and wonders if he should do anything about it. YANMD, etc. [more inside]
Describe this Siding
What term would you use to describe the wood siding on this garage built in the 1960s? The siding has vertical surface holes running the same direction as the grain. What kind of wood could this be, what caused the holes, and is there a term describing wood with this texture?
posted by ShooBoo at 9:24 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by ShooBoo at 9:24 PM PST - 2 comments
Taking birth control mid cycle to skip a period?
I‘m having a very important date in 3 days, which is the same day my period starts. Is there any way to delay it? [more inside]
Did Richard Feynman or another scientist do this?
Does anyone remember the following anecdote about Richard Feynman: He was arguing with a friend or a colleague about the behavior of sperm in water. Finally to prove his point, he proceeded to the bathroom and returned with a sample (sorry for the image). I can swear that I read an anecdote like this but I cannot remember from which book and if it was indeed Richard Feynman or maybe some other physicist or mathematician. Does anyone remember anything at all close to this? [more inside]
What is the logic behind this spam?
I received a Survey Monkey-esque email asking me to take a "Store Keeper Exhibition Survey." The strange part is where my name should be is an old password of mine. Obviously some old account I never use anymore was compromised. Doesn't this alert people to change their password? Why do this?
Autocomplete woes
How do I get google autocomplete to suggest my business's new website instead of my old etsy shop? [more inside]
How should I spend this Saturday on my own in Brooklyn/NYC?
I'm visiting a friend in Brooklyn (Crown Heights) this weekend and due to unforeseen circumstances he won't be around at all on Saturday, so I'll be on my own. I want to spend the day reading, journaling, wandering, and reflecting on turning 25 -- where should I go and what should I do? [more inside]
posted by kylej at 6:23 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by kylej at 6:23 PM PST - 16 comments
One romantic(?) night in London
Where should a couple stay for their 20th anniversary while traveling in and around London? [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 6:00 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by turtlefu at 6:00 PM PST - 10 comments
Scan and Upload Analog Photos... Filter
I am looking for a cloud-based website on which to store scans of my analog photos. My concerns are that these photos will no longer belong fully to me if I upload them. I want a site that will not assume some sort of rights to my photographs, or have the right to claim rights on these images in the future. Does such a site exist? Or does all content in such cloud-based storage sites automatically remain the sole property of the person uploading the pictures?
Suggestions for sites and general info on how this works is much appreciated.
A flea mystery needs to be solved.
Best Burt's Bees replacement that won't melt in my hot car
I love Burt's Bees lip balm (the peppermint flavor) and keep a tube of it in my car. This is great in the winter, and less good in the summer, because I inevitably forget to remove it and all the lip balm melts, seeps out of the tube, and makes my car all greasy. What are good substitutes that won't melt (or if they do melt, are in a container that won't make a mess?) I am looking specifically for things that give that good minty (not menthol; no Carmex, plz) tingle.
posted by coppermoss at 3:56 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by coppermoss at 3:56 PM PST - 12 comments
Think Nina Totenberg meets Law & Order (the 2nd half) meets Undisclosed
I'm looking for a legal/lawyer procedural podcast, maybe not unlike Undisclosed*, but not limited to guilty-but-innocent, social justice, or otherwise sensational cases. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 2:59 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 2:59 PM PST - 8 comments
Appropriate to have a Dia de los Muertos at a mostly white school?
Mother (who's African) wants to do Dia de los Muertos celebration at mostly white elementary school. PTA chair says it's insensitive to celebrate a culture we don't understand (there are a few Hispanic and other minority kids but again mostly white non-immigrants)
Is it truly insensitive or is this more a concern of optics, and either way how to proceed?
posted by angrybear at 2:56 PM PST - 33 comments
posted by angrybear at 2:56 PM PST - 33 comments
Selling Paper Stock Certificates
I have to sell some stocks for an estate. I have the paper stock certificate. I have no idea what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by gregoryg at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments
Relocating from LA to Chicago. What to expect?
Moving from Los Angeles to Chicago. What are some of the non-obvious things to know? [more inside]
Let's play another round of What's That Rash?
A busy and stubborn friend of mine has had a non-itching rash on both legs, below the knee and mostly on the ankles and feet, for about 2 months now. Doctor seen at beginning of rash gave him anti-fungal meds, he used them, but no change. He won't go back to the doctor unless something changes. With his permission and some photos, I'm asking Metafilter for opinions on what it could be. [more inside]
posted by monopas at 1:41 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by monopas at 1:41 PM PST - 12 comments
Gift Suggestions for our most amazing Cat Sitter
My neighbor (very willingly) looks after our two cats on a semi regular basis. We maybe take one or two trips a year that last longer than a week, but we go away a lot for weekends in the summer and she always feeds and looks after our babies while we are gone. [more inside]
cool function curves?
I'm working on some AI music algorithms and need mathematical curves on which to base certain aspects. What are the equations/names of some beautiful/interesting/unusual 2D function curves?
Japanese Drugstore or Beauty Products Store in Chicago Area?
I am trying to put together a gift basket of Japanese sunscreens for a friend who used to live in Japan and who feels nostalgic for the variety, quality, etc. of Japanese sunscreens. I want to find a store where I can see them and select them in person, in the Chicago area. Any ideas?
"And I need you more than want you...
And I want you for all time".
Some more artistic endeavours that express that same sentiment, please.
tightly controlled blood sugar and dementia
I was recently told that there is an association between tightly controlled blood sugar levels and future risk of dementia even when the blood sugar control is achieved through diet and exercise instead of medication., i.e. not associated with hypoglycemia or any acute low blood sugar episodes. I have not been able to find any data on this. Can you find anything?
Hiring a contractor
I am trying to hire a contractor for the first time and could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments
Vox gun control article/video: rebuttal to the rebuttal?
Vox made a called "America's Gun Problem, Explained". A right wing guy made what looks like a legitimate rebuttal. What is the rebuttal to the rebuttal? [more inside]
posted by 4midori at 11:51 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by 4midori at 11:51 AM PST - 15 comments
Strategies for getting in problem-solving frame of mind for the anxious!
When confronted with any kind of problem these days, I seem to instantly hit rock bottom. What can I do in the moment to enter problem-solving mentality? [more inside]
Side effects of now normal blood pressure are unbearable.
Long time high-blood pressure now well under control. However, the results are causing vast complications [more inside]
Looking for BBC Israel and Syria interview
Thing I partially heard on BBC Newshour (WHYY) this morning that I'd like to hear again and recommend: A woman interviewing spokesmen individually from Israel and Syria and pushing them both pretty hard about what their governments were doing and whether it made sense. Now that I think about it, she was much better than their average political interviewer, and I'd like to find more of her work. Anyone else hear it? Able to find the link? [more inside]
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 9:44 AM PST - 1 comment
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 9:44 AM PST - 1 comment
Travel insurance for American Expats Abroad -- to America
I know this has been asked before but it was a while ago so I'm hoping for updated information! I am an American living abroad with insurance in my resident country that does not cover the US. I am going back to the US for several months with my family (mix of US and non-US citizens.) What kind of health insurance do I get? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 9:39 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by caoimhe at 9:39 AM PST - 2 comments
CFO in a week?
Recommend me some training options for a small biz CEO to develop a high level of understanding of managing the finance side of her business. Are there 2-3 day seminars for this? Several-month trainings that only require online attendance? If I could wave a wand for the optimal solution, I'd get her in to a mixed online/in-person workshop with 6-10 other young professionals like her. If physical presence is necessary, Seattle for the win, or maybe SFO, but open to any for the perfect fit. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments
What company was this?
Back in the late 1990s, I lived in NYC and signed up for a landline plan through an alternative carrier. All I remember about them is that they billed themselves as green and good for the environment, and they would send monthly coupons for a pint of Ben and Jerry's. Trying to remember this is driving me and my old roommate up the wall. Does anyone remember this?
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:34 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:34 AM PST - 12 comments
What was this patch?
A woman on my bus had an inorganic patch thing on her arm. What was it? [more inside]
How do I not fail the Voigt—Kampff test?
I need to communicate with long-distance SO. It's about my mental health, treatment, and the impact on my work and our roadmap for the future. However, fear arising from past experiences grapples me. How do I keep myself intact while reaching true communication and understanding? [more inside]
posted by runcifex at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by runcifex at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments
how do i be a less bitchy manager?
so, I worry that I tend to come off as mean or bitchy with my direct reports (who are admittedly undertrained, not that I can do much about that); and I tend to snap at them when they make stupid mistakes or ask stupid questions. how do I stop behaving that way?
Looking for more information on abdominal surgery
I have abdominal surgery scheduled for next week and not finding many online resources about what to expect immediately after and long term and would appreciate any links, resources or personal anecdotes about what to expect. [more inside]
Seeking book recommendations on parenting gifted kids
I’m looking for books on how to parent gifted kids, ideally with a focus on kids who have some discrepancies in their abilities. [more inside]
posted by eirias at 6:42 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by eirias at 6:42 AM PST - 4 comments
Help me clean my floor
I seem to be unable to clean my bathroom floor. When I tried I made it worse. Help? I feel a failure as an adult. [more inside]
How to learn to sing simple harmony when you can't read music?
I would love to be able to sing simple harmony to equally simple folk songs but I have no formal musical training or knowledge and can't read music. Help? [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 5:50 AM PST - 27 comments
posted by jeszac at 5:50 AM PST - 27 comments
Upper body commuting exercise with skateboard and ski poles?
I'd like to exercise my upper body and core. I'd like to do it during my 6km commute, which involves stairs at one point but is otherwise mostly along a flat bike trail with many stops. I'm thinking of getting some sort of skateboard, putting some sort of brakes on it, getting some sort of poles, and arm-pumping my way there. I don't want to spend too much up front in case I flake out. Thoughts/warnings/suggestions/better options?
posted by clawsoon at 5:43 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by clawsoon at 5:43 AM PST - 21 comments
RSS-ify my Facebook news feed?
This morning Facebook is trying out a new "feature" in my news feed: after about ten posts from people or pages I have actually friended or subscribed to, it stops showing me activity that I specifically signed up to view, and instead shows random crap labelled "Posts from around Facebook". I.e., paid content. [more inside]
What to do with an extra water line?
We’re buying a house with an extra water line in the kitchen. It’s a flexible hose that’s supposedly to hook up to a second refrigerator/ice maker, but we don’t want an second refrigerator or ice maker. We’ll probably just cap off the pipe and cut the line, but before we do: can you think of any good uses for the second water line?
car shopping for a growing family
with kiddo #3 on the way, i’m looking to upgrade my 2009 prius to accommodate more my growing family and all of the car seats that come with it. [more inside]
Why wouldn't the medical marijuana doctor want to tox screen me?
I had an extremely shady MMJ experience. I'm interested in some reasons for one aspect of the shadiness. I have my card, and I'm not interested in taking action against the doctor. Just curious. [more inside]
May 9
Name that '70s synth tune
Synth instrumental, ca. 1975, used as broadcast news theme music as late as '80s. Haven't heard it since. No matches on the music search sites. I lost my original off-air recording; below is a wav file of a midi reproduction. URL is obviously temporary for this ask. [more inside]
posted by zaixfeep at 8:25 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by zaixfeep at 8:25 PM PST - 9 comments
Animal, vegetable, mineral?
Help me ID this stick I found? San Diego, about a month ago.... [more inside]
How can I find the right CMMS?
I need a computerized maintenance management system. I don't want to spend two weeks entering information into a free trial, and then have pressure to use that software. Is there a service/consult/sizing guide for my options? [more inside]
Visually gorgeous movies that don't overuse closeups
Lately it seems like every movie I watch consists solely of close-ups of people talking in uninspired settings designed half-heartedly. Please recommend movies that feature (1) incredibly gorgeous, detailed, distinctive visuals and scenery (like The Handmaiden, Inception, In the Mood for Love, or any Wes Anderson film), and (2) a directorial style that shows off those visuals through long shots and excellent mise-en-scene (like Playtime or A Brighter Summer Day).
Seeking gallery of video game menu screens
I am interested in viewing a gallery of menu screens from all sorts of video games on any and all platforms. Google Image Search is actually a pretty good match for this, but is there anything similar yet put together intentionally, maybe even with some commentary? Bonus if there's any way to show screens together that serve similar functions within their respective games, e.g. a bunch of character configuration menus, a bunch of level select menus, a bunch of root menus...
posted by one for the books at 4:01 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by one for the books at 4:01 PM PST - 5 comments
Programmatically validating an informal API
I need to create an automated solution for ensuring several client and server software modules of various versions can successfully interoperate. They don't have a formally specified API, so what are the best approaches? [more inside]
How do I stop seeing my books as trophies?
I have - way too many books. I'm pretty sure I need to have fewer. But I don't know how to get over the mindset that having too many books is actually a point of pride. [more inside]
Groovy Los Angeles Vacation Recommendations
I'm visiting Los Angeles for the first time in early June, and would love recommendations for things to do and see related to the Sixties and Seventies. [more inside]
Dinner in San Francisco: nice-casual, PoC-owned, sharable
Where should my partner and I go for dinner in San Francisco next week? Last time we were in town, our nice dinner was at Kin Khao, which we liked a lot. We prefer sharable plates when eating out, and don't want to go anywhere super formal. I would love to support a restaurant owned/chef'd by a person of color, or at least not go to a Mexican or Asian restaurant helmed by a white person. [more inside]
posted by silby at 1:44 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by silby at 1:44 PM PST - 14 comments
I'm a woman, should I take a security guard job?
We moved to a city where we could afford to buy a house. Great, but I haven't been able to find work in my previous field here. [more inside]
Home appraisal to remove PMI - good idea?
I bought a house about 3 years ago in the dead of winter and got a good deal on it - the house itself is in very good shape, but the actual landscaping is very much a work in progress. The average house right now is going for +70K over what I paid for mine and I'm wondering if I should get a home appraisal to drop the PMI? [more inside]
Protect My arms
I'm looking to keep myself from sunburn while staying cool this summer. Is there a magical shirt that will do this? [more inside]
Help me do right by my cat with congestive heart failure & URI
I have a cat situation and I am not sure how to proceed. My 11 year old cat Mama was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. She had been running around playing like normal and then all of a sudden she was lying on her side obviously having difficulty breathing. [more inside]
Any empirically supported methods for helping a new mom learn to nap?
I've had troubled sleeping for most of my adult life. It's improved in recent years (34 now), but I've never been a napper. Once I'm up, it's very hard for me to get back to sleep. With my adorable 6 week old, I'd love to follow the advice of napping when the baby naps, but so far it's garbage for me, I can't nap. Help? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 11:06 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by namesarehard at 11:06 AM PST - 19 comments
Night weaning a spirited toddler
I am so tired. It's just me and potato Jr most nights, and I'm hesitant but ready(?) to night wean. I've had one false start interrupted by toddler illness and sheer exhaustion. Please give me some new methods to try. [more inside]
Materials for a more diverse Diversity Training
Our corporate diversity mission is supposedly made of 2 parts: supporting different EEO classes (race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy, gender identity, and sexual orientation), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information) and supporting all "Other Diversity". In practice, we only ever train about EEO classes. I am looking for materials which can support some trainings which focus on all Other Types of Diversity. [more inside]
FartFilter
Is it permissible to audibly pass gas in front of strangers, while using a urinal?
Fan running non-stop w/Ubuntu 14.04
I have an older Toshiba Portege laptop running Ubuntu 14.04, and starting about 6 months ago, the fan began to run constantly, at full speed, whenever it's turned on. I've tried to troubleshoot to no avail, so I'm looking for some help from folks with more Linux background than me that can ID the problem.
queer friendly psych hospitals in Mass, BC/BS insurance
Hi MeFi. I have a friend in need that I'm trying to help. They need to be hospitalized [psych ward] and have some special needs that need to be considered. They are queer and need to have queer-friendly/focused care and they prefer to stay in MA. I did some googling and just came up with one partial hospitalization program, which isn't enough [for Reasons]. What are some good psych hospitals/facilities in MA that are queer-focused that take Blue Cross/Blue Shield?
Noob runner needs help
I am participating in a C25K program and feel like I'm plateauing/hitting a wall. Please help this struggling runner get better... [more inside]
posted by widdershins at 9:15 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by widdershins at 9:15 AM PST - 28 comments
What is my browser reporting as my referral source
As I follow a link from one page to another, I'd like to be able to see what my browser is reporting as my referral source. Is there a way to expose that to the user outside of waiting for it to show up in Google Analytics?
posted by willnot at 9:10 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by willnot at 9:10 AM PST - 6 comments
Event Manager Mefites: Help me BEO!
We're suspending our subscription to Gather... [more inside]
Get up and GOTV
What are the most effective GOTV and voter registration organizations? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 8:31 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by kristi at 8:31 AM PST - 8 comments
Have you used an online mortgage lender?
We had an offer accepted on a house (we currently own a home and plan to sell our current home and move to our new house in a year for retirement) and are shopping for a mortgage. Have you used an online mortgage lender? [more inside]
Recipe for a British/Euro style Shandy?
In the U.S. - what type/brand of beer, which type/brand of carbonated lemon soda, and what proportions do I need to make a regular old beer-and-lemonade shandy? [more inside]
posted by hiker U. at 8:10 AM PST - 22 comments
posted by hiker U. at 8:10 AM PST - 22 comments
Nonprofit seeks free cloud based shared password protected calendar
The community darkroom I'm involved with needs a better way to schedule darkroom time. We would like people to be able to add their own time reservations to a shared calendar but not write over any currently existing reservations. We also need to be able to pull and restore access via, I guess, a password system. And all this needs to be smartphone accessible. Is it out there? [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 8:01 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by mygothlaundry at 8:01 AM PST - 6 comments
Suggestions for Béchamel-based Pizza Sauces
I've successfully done 1+1 with tomato sauce, blended with blanched kale/spinach and basil.
What are other herbs or ideas that I can use to up my pizza game?
posted by tedious at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by tedious at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments
Weed or plant?
Are these weeds I should be eradicating, trees that might end up being nice at some point with some cultivation, or delightful perennial plants I should leave alone to do their thing? [more inside]
The opposite of what most people search the internet for...
Parents, teachers, health educators - do you have any recommendations for online videos that teach abstinence, appropriate for a high school audience? [more inside]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 6:00 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 6:00 AM PST - 5 comments
May 8
How can I improve this self-esteem issue?
I have something like a social form of Impostor Syndrome, where I believe that everyone that likes me is being deceived and will one day notice I'm not likeable. I'm sick of it, and want to know if I can switch from "managing" to "eradicating" or at least "seriously reducing" it. [more inside]
Like Cazadores but gentler
I really like tequila. Specifically, I like the flavor profile of Cazadores Reposado. I like the notes of white pepper and pears, the little bit of oak that backs up a delicate fruitiness. I'd like it even better if this taste didn't come bound to a shiver-inducing alcohol bite or the stink of witch hazel upon pouring. What is my next tequila?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 11:20 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by DirtyOldTown at 11:20 PM PST - 5 comments
Repurposing Parasitic Signage for Art
You know those signs made out of corrugated plastic that pop up in interstitial grassy areas by the side of the road? The ones that usually have dodgy real estate offers written in marker or ads for weird diet supplements? Do the people that put them there get permission from the property owners or just plunk them down there like so much litter? [more inside]
posted by picea at 8:20 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by picea at 8:20 PM PST - 14 comments
Building a webapp in 2018
Help me pick a framework/language for building a database-backed web app [more inside]
Always in key, but don't know which key?
I don't have absolute pitch, but someone who does has told me I tend to sing in actual keys (i.e. I'll sometimes sing the same tune in G, sometimes G♯, but never halfway between G and G♯). Is that likely to be true? Is it common? [more inside]
Should I follow up with my boss after he made an inappropriate comment?
My boss came up to me during a meeting break and told me I was starting to show (I am 10.5 weeks pregnant), and it made me feel uncomfortable. Should I ask his boss to follow up on this incident? [more inside]
What's safer, a VPN as a standalone app or as a browser extension?
I'm considering three VPN candidates.
I understand the way they work, but there's something I don't understand.
What's the difference, if any, in security between using, say, Private Internet Access as an app on my Mac desktop and using it on the same desktop but as a Chrome extension?
Thanks.
posted by holdenjordahl at 6:38 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by holdenjordahl at 6:38 PM PST - 5 comments
Probiotic suggestions please!
If you're currently taking a probiotic, I want to know how you like it and why you picked it! [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by madonna of the unloved at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments
Seeking Sonoran Desert nocturnal animal photo prints
A few years ago, I saw some photos in a magazine (probably New Scientist). They were black-and-white photos of desert animals (Sonoran Desert, perhaps?) taken by automated motion-detector cameras for a research study. I remember javelinas or other wild pigs, a hare, coyotes, maybe a lizard, maybe an owl or other birds. I’d like to buy prints of these or similar photos. I really liked the raw aesthetic of the animals visiting the automated camera, but I’d settle for something similar without that exact feel.
In Search Of A Lovely Day....
Can anyone help me track down a short film by Ed Burns, from 2001? It was part of the 9/11 Concert for New York City. [more inside]
Procrastination, avoidance, laziness, prioritising - advice please
I'm having some major problems with procrastination and avoiding things I don't want to do or am worried about. I'm at a stage now where one of the issues is there are so many things I haven't done that I don't know what to prioritise. Looking for advice and strategies to get out of this rut and actually get something done. [more inside]
Walk out
Can I walk out of my postdoc? The environment is toxic. I would rather stab my own eye out then finish my publications. I have a great industry offer. [more inside]
Lathe experts: can you identify this lathe brand?
I recently bought a second-hand lathe from an estate auction. It's in good condition, but didn't come with a manual, and the lathe itself doesn't seem to carry the brand name. [more inside]
Are these the bugs that are biting me?
Awhile ago our cats got fleas. We did all the things to get rid of them and thought we had.
But recently I started getting itchy bites again, mostly at night, and right in the same places I had gotten flea bites before (lower calf, upper ankle) so I put out some leftover flea traps to see if we needed to treat again. [more inside]
receiving paycheck for overseas friends?
I live in the USA. I have several friends in South America who do a fair amount of work online. However, the service through which they were being paid recently closed its doors, and the replacement services won't be ready for a few months. I've been considering the possibility of receiving their deposits here, cashing them out, and sending it to my friends via Western Union. Is this legal/practical? What are the tax implications of this? Should I receive them under my name and report it as business income/expenses on my taxes? Any help appreciated.
Requiring an MLS listing before a coop sale?
Members of our townhouse coop association frequently sell their units privately, without going through a realtor. Because the units are not listed on the MLS, the sales aren't getting used as comparables for future sales, and we are concerned that this is depressing prices and/or interfering with the ability of buyers to get mortgages. Help me understand whether it might make sense to require sellers to list their property on the MLS before a sale! [more inside]
posted by wyzewoman at 2:08 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by wyzewoman at 2:08 PM PST - 12 comments
creepy beady eyes
Trying to remember a specific children's book with a drawing of a cockatrice. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 2:07 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by phunniemee at 2:07 PM PST - 12 comments
A 48-hour trip to Indianapolis
This weekend, my spouse and I will be visiting Indianapolis. A longtime friend of ours is at IU Health University awaiting a liver transplant, and we want to show our support for her and her family. There will be time for us to explore parts of the city when we're not at the hospital, so for the 48-ish hours we're there, what recommendations does the crowd have? [more inside]
posted by stannate at 1:51 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by stannate at 1:51 PM PST - 11 comments
Can't Edit Audience in Boosted Facebook Post
I am a new, wary user of Facebook. Boosted posts have been working fine until recently. Now, for some reasons, I can't change a former set of locations and audience preferences before boosting the post. Facebook is calling those formerly used preferences "default" when I never intended it to be a default. [more inside]
Summer outdoor games
Are there some amazing outdoor games you like to play with adults and tweens at get-togethers? [more inside]
Improve credit score by paying rent? Does it work?
There are a couple of apps/websites out there, like pinch and renttrack that claim that if I set up my rent payments to go through them they'll report that to the 3 major credit agencies and that this will likely have a positive impact on my credit. Is this for real? [more inside]
posted by dis_integration at 1:33 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by dis_integration at 1:33 PM PST - 5 comments
Grand Canyon Rim to Rim
If you were planning a four to five day trip to the Grand Canyon, how would you spend your time? [more inside]
posted by Missense Mutation at 1:29 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Missense Mutation at 1:29 PM PST - 8 comments
Neat freaks, help!
You are a person working full time with lots of hobbies and interests who also manages to keep your living space very clean--without the help of a hired cleaning person. How do you do this? What does your cleaning schedule look like? How many hours per week do you devote to cleaning? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 1:21 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by whistle pig at 1:21 PM PST - 19 comments
Are these TOSLINK connectors defective?
One end of this optical audio cable is fine, but the other end has a piece of the optical fiber sticking out from the connector about 1/4". Photos. Is this broken? [more inside]
posted by zachlipton at 1:01 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by zachlipton at 1:01 PM PST - 5 comments
How to best conceal a pee in the bed accident?
What can I do to lessen the smell of pee in a bed without access to a washing machine, and which won't leave a noticable trace behind? [more inside]
Should we bank our baby's cord blood / cord tissue?
We are a very racially-mixed couple expecting our first child next week. Should we bank the baby's cord blood and/or cord tissue? [more inside]
Things to do in Chicago on a Friday evening
I'm heading to Chicago for a meeting on Thursday and Friday, and flying back home early on Saturday. What should I do on Friday evening? Can I get some birthday shopping done, and if so, where? Or is there a "don't miss" thing I can fit in between 5 PM and 10 PM? [more inside]
posted by RedOrGreen at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by RedOrGreen at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments
Summer Runnin' / Sweatin' So Fast
I think I'm in the market for lightweight, knee-length running tights, but I'm a dude and they only seem to be marketed to women. I've found reference to so-called ¾ length running tights for men, but most of those hit at or below the calf (19-22" inseam) and I'd really like something that comes just below the knee (16.5-17" inseam). Does the product I want exist? [more inside]
posted by fedward at 12:25 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by fedward at 12:25 PM PST - 11 comments
Where is this logo from?
Seeking info on a logo on a pin [more inside]
Android speech-to-text without the extras?
I'd like to use Google offline voice recognition on my LineageOS (Android) phone without all the baggage. Gapps Pico is too bulky and overkill. Can this be done? [more inside]
Wants to date casually, worried I should "keep working on myself first"
I'm a 32 year old sensitive/slightly awkward/nerdy guy with very little experience with dating and romance who is interested in "putting myself out there" after a long dry spell (keeping in mind a history of depression and anxiety, currently under control but not completely absent). I'm more or less together when it comes to most aspects of my life, but I haven't been on any sort of date in years-I've deliberately avoided trying to date because I felt like I needed to focus on self improvement. Unfortunately, I've made a lot of progress, but I don't know if it's enough to look for dates again. Any advice? Should I go for and set up an online profile, see what happens, despite not having my life completely "together" or being super-confident? [more inside]
Landlord: "I don't believe you need a service dog." Huh?
I live in reduced-income housing in the Boston area, but am moving out in a month. I have been without a signed lease for over 4 months. Today, in signing a notice that I was moving, a board member said they did not believe my son needed a service dog and he asked for documentation. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 10:57 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 10:57 AM PST - 14 comments
Books about MRIs, hospitals, surgery for a 3-4 year old
I am searching for books to read with a child who will go through an MRI (sedated) and maybe surgery. Also books or resources and books for a caring sibling. Thank you.
posted by anya32 at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by anya32 at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments
Dayhiking for the complete non-hiker
I have volunteered myself to go hiking and I know nothing about hiking. I would like to not look like a complete moron and show up relatively prepared. [more inside]
Selling item on Craigslist and buyer who made deposit not communicating
Should I sell my item to someone else since the original buyer from Craigslist who put a deposit down on the item is not responding to my calls, texts, or emails? [more inside]
Medical Travel Insurance for U.S. Citizen traveling to the U.S.
I'm looking for an medical insurance plan I can buy for 10 ten days that will cover me while I'm in the U.S. [more inside]
posted by Lingasol at 9:22 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by Lingasol at 9:22 AM PST - 5 comments
Car insurance/ownership conundrum
What is the best way to give/sell my daughter my car and do we have to register and insure in expensive Michigan? [more inside]
What's your work-appropriate daily sun protection regimen?
I need a plan for daily sun protection that has the following: high UVB and UVA protection; not itself too damaging to the skin (so, none of the bad/cheap UV filters like avobenzone-- maybe Euro active ingredients?); and plays well enough with makeup to look polished for work. What should I try? [more inside]
Buying a PC to Minecraft
I'm looking for advise on buying a PC so my 9 year old son can play Minecraft. Would it be a bad idea to buy a used computer online? I'd like to spend as little as possible, but if I should purchase a computer new, is there a particular model that is low-cost but will allow him to install Minecraft? [more inside]
Book recommendations! Furiosa edition
It’s that time again. Right now I’m feeling in the mood for something that has a sort of...how do I put this? Manic Tarantino-ish energy, but without the misogyny, and with ladies? I do not know if this exists, but I’m sure if it does, it is loved. Furiosa-ish, I guess. I’m looking for Furiosa’s book list.
So what have you read lately that left you feeling energized and enthusiastic and all fuck YEAH? Or just what have you loved lately?
Products available in Canada for fine, curly hair
What's an alternative to Deva Curl products for my nightmare hair? [more inside]
Which day trip from Zagreb should I pick?
Should I go to Plitvice Lakes National Park, the Krapina Neanderthal Museum and “Grgos Cave”, or the Varaždin and Trakošćan Castles? [more inside]
posted by bardophile at 7:23 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by bardophile at 7:23 AM PST - 10 comments
I'm too old for this ... stuff
How can I best extricate myself from/manage this absurd level of roommate drama? [more inside]
What can I do with granular citric acid?
I want to descale my OXO Barista Brain Coffee Maker, and I understand that OXO brand descaler is essentially citric acid. It's also very pricey. The buy-in-bulk price points for granular citric acid seem too good to pass up. If I buy a 5lb or 10lb bag of granular citric acid to make descaler on the cheap, what else can I do with it?
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 6:56 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 6:56 AM PST - 23 comments
August 2018 Plans
I'm a poor traveler—I tend to bounce around between famous sites/museums, not actually meet any locals, and then leave feeling like there wasn't much point—so how should I do better if I have this August off? Ideally in Japan (I speak some of the language). [more inside]
is it too soon for another nail polish question?
Seeking new quirky, yet work appropriate and subtle, nail polish shades. [more inside]
Tips and tricks for building nests
My partner and I are moving into a 1br apartment this weekend and will basically be starting from scratch, stuff wise. We have a kitchen table and a dresser and some assorted kitchen things. We are looking for your best furniture and grown-up stuff recommendations, do's and dont's, and any other advice. Bonus: I have a decent salary now! [more inside]
Harry Potter themed school year - give me your ideas!
Our elementary school is going to have a Harry Potter theme throughout the next school year, focusing on the first Harry Potter book. What different elements from the wizarding universe can we incorporate into the day-to-day life of the school? [more inside]
May 7
Where to get the good GIS stuff free?
GIS historical datasets for national / provincial boundaries? [more inside]
Attempting to get back together with an ex after a decade
I want to get back together with my ex from a decade ago but I'm upset by his recent behavior and can't decide how much of it to chalk up to past baggage/resentment. [more inside]
Chicago 1) Shopping 2) Eating and 3) Interview Spot
I'm doing one of those interviews where the writer spends a day with the celebrity, and I've discovered...I'm not really good at planning fun days with celebrities. Can you help me plan our day in Chicago? [more inside]
shoes as cheap and durable as rubber clogs, but breathable?
My shoes for the last year and a half have been a pair of rubber clogs I got from the half-off bin at a chemist's. I love everything about them except that they don't breathe at all. They don't scuff. Salt rinses right off. Tread is barely showing wear after eighteen months. No need to alternate pairs. What styles should I explore if I want a similarly durable and cheap shoe with a breathable upper?
Windfall or mistake?
My property assessment always seemed high, and I just found out why - my assessment was square footage plus "additions" which listed all the rooms in my house. Rooms are supposed to only be counted under square footage, so I have been paying taxes on twice the house. I did see the assessment sheets before, but didn't realize this accounted rooms erroneously, so I've been paying an extra $2000/year in taxes. It's late for an appeal (90 day limit), but do I have any recourse to get back ~$8000 in extra taxes paid?
posted by tasty at 9:31 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by tasty at 9:31 PM PST - 5 comments
Circling back for direction in life
What are some examples in fiction, TV, or film of characters returning to a location in order to revisit something from their past in order to move on with their lives? [more inside]
What is the church mentioned in the end credits to Infinity War
I said I would remember and look it up when I got home but I, of course, forgot. In the end credits to Avengers' Infinity War there is a line about thanks to a church of some kind, something like 'New Way Church' or something like that. It's not in IMDb so does anyone remember seeing that and remember what the name was, or does anyone know anything about what that was about? Thanks.
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 8:35 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 8:35 PM PST - 5 comments
Please let me leave the toilet
What... is this illness, and what are the possible outcomes? Lots of fun bathroom flu issues below the fold. [more inside]
Move or build?
My wife and I are currently trying to figure out if moving or adding on to our current home will be 'best.' We don't know how to even start approaching at the cost of doing an addition. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 8:19 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by furnace.heart at 8:19 PM PST - 6 comments
Looking for a very specific kind of travel deal
I know how to set a fare alert for a flight between two specific cities on specific dates. I know how to use airline websites to look for flexible dates. And I know how to sign up for "last minute travel deals", which are primarily to places I am not interested in going. Does my unicorn exist? [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 8:15 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 8:15 PM PST - 7 comments
How to support my quirky kid toward independence
My 15 year old has never been successful in school. What should we do? [more inside]
How can I sell unused nights at a conference hotel?
I’m going to a conference later this month and have booked a room at the conference hotel for the duration of the event. However, it turns out my stay will be abbreviated, so I will not use the original first and last nights of my hotel booking. The conference block of rooms has been sold out for ages, and ideally, I’d make money on the two unused nights. However, I’m not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 6:17 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Atrahasis at 6:17 PM PST - 9 comments
Netflix recommendations please!!
Due to some dental work gone wrong, i’m mildly doped up on painkillers, drooling like an idiot, still in pain and fighting for couch space with the cats. What can i watch on Netflix? Difficulty: looking for content where nothing bad happens while Canadian. [more inside]
Can I fix this?
I was trying to change a lightbulb on an overhead light (a recessed light fixture I think it's called? With the string hanging down to turn it on) and the entire thing fell out of the ceiling and is now dangling by a wire. Yikes. [more inside]
Some music education for old men.
What books or online courses would you recommend to get the basics of music theory down? What's music theory 101 that a reasonably smart person could digest in his spare time? [more inside]
gmail weirdness
Why does a single gmail message not show up in my inbox on my macbook air, but does show up in "All mail" (and on my iphone?) [more inside]
Yo Ho, Yo Ho, an Ocean Topic for Me!
Every week, I give a talk at a retirement home on a different piece of history. I do a few days of research and put together a powerpoint with images, summaries and some video clips. I usually follow themes for a few months at a time.
In June, we will be doing activities around World Oceans Day on the 8th. I would love to do a series of oceanography or nautical stories. Some ideas I've had include the Kon-Tiki, development of SCUBA diving, and.... help! What else would make a compelling hour of new information?
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 4:14 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 4:14 PM PST - 16 comments
Is this what pancetta looks like or is it bad?
I bought some sliced pancetta at the grocery store today and just opened it. The middle of each slice is like, soft and mushy. It is like that the whole way through the packet. See inside for photos. [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 3:21 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by cpatterson at 3:21 PM PST - 3 comments
celebratory week-ish long SF stay/cation
I've been a grad student living in San Francisco for the past two years. I'll be graduating this weekend, and then I'll have roughly two weeks before I start working full time, for the first time. Where should I go? What should I do? [more inside]
Can I install a keypad deadbolt lock system upside down?
I have an antique - not in good condition, but antique nonetheless - front door that I need to change the locks on. I rent and therefore am trying to do the least damage/change.
I bought a newfangled keypad lock (this one) but the only way it will fit with the existing (antique) handle, is upside down.
Is there any reason NOT to do this, do you think? Assume we can read #s upside down. Thank you.
Buy a new sewing machine, or repair a vintage one?
I want to have a sewing machine that's good for a upper-basic to intermediate sewer. It seems my options are either to repair a vintage (metal, solid, simple) Husqvarna machine or buy a new one. Are new machines (plastic, LCD screens etc) going to last as long as a well-repaired vintage machine? [more inside]
Looking for inexpensive tinted lip balm with SPF. Difficulty: in Canada
I really like tinted lip balms (like Burt's Bees Red Dahlia) as a lighter lipstick substitute, especially in the summer. I am specifically looking for a tinted lip balm with SPF, but I am not coming up with anything reasonably priced AND easily available in Canada, despite seeing plenty that is available in the US. So does anyone have suggestions for tinted lip balm with SPF that I can easily get in Canada but won't cost me double the US price? [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 2:24 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 2:24 PM PST - 7 comments
Moving: I Hate It
I hate moving more than anything. In four months I'm moving for grad school. What am I not thinking of to make it less of a nightmare for me? [more inside]
To whom near NYC can I donate a new 55" LCD display?
After repeated attempts to buy a specific hard-to-find 55" LG display on-line, I now have the one I want – and also have one of these, new in its box, which I do not want. To whom in the New York City area can I give it as a tax-deductible donation? [more inside]
posted by nicwolff at 12:19 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by nicwolff at 12:19 PM PST - 4 comments
Do I have to clean my car?
I'm planning to trade in my 12-year-old junker. Will it make any difference if I fully clean the interior? [more inside]
Is this fountain real or CGI in the Wonderfalls show intro?
I was watching the intro to Wonderfalls on Youtube for episode 1 and I saw this fountain.
However I cannot find any other evidence that this fountain of the Indian woman in the canoe/maid of the mist is actually real. The video is too low resolution for me to tell if it is CGI or not. Does it exist?
posted by clockworkjoe at 11:29 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by clockworkjoe at 11:29 AM PST - 7 comments
Take me out to the ball game!
We will be visiting Palm Springs this weekend. We are Twins fans and just realized they will be in Anaheim during our stay. We want to attend the game on Sunday the 13th, which is the only option that doesn't result in us driving back to Palm Springs in the wee hours of the morning. We have some itinerary ideas and would like a local's insight. What can we fit in? [more inside]
Behavior Tracking App (For Kids)
My wife and I are looking for an iOS app that will allow us to track behavior over time for our five (almost 6) year old, so that he can receive a reward after having "good behavior" for some period of time. We'd like something visually interesting, so that he is interested in it, and ideally it would be something where we could set the conditions (length of time, times per day, specific issues) it is tracking. Any suggestions?
Moving cross country, Yikes!
We are moving from Los Angeles to Southern Maine and boy is it getting a bit intense around here and would love some feedback on a few things: [more inside]
Gluten Free in Iceland and the Baltics
Does anyone have any advice regarding trying to eat gluten-free in Iceland and the Baltics? [more inside]
posted by LegallyBread at 10:02 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by LegallyBread at 10:02 AM PST - 5 comments
Peridots Are a Girl's Best Birthstone
I've got a string of peridot chips I want to use to make into a necklace similar to the one in this photo of actress Sierra Boggess. But my jewelry making skills may not be up to the task so I'm turning to the jewelry makers of MeFi for tips. [more inside]
The majesty of stone
I'm aiming to set up a 4-5 day vacation over Labor Day to check out the Grand Canyon as well as Antelope Canyon for that wild sandstone natural architecture. Caveat - I've never been anywhere near those places before, and know zilch about canyon hiking in the region or what else there is to do out there. Suggestions? [more inside]
AirBnB by proxy?
I would like to get my husband a night away from home for Father's Day. Hotels are very expensive in our city, but I'm not sure it's kosher for me to book an AirBnB through my account but have him stay there....help? [more inside]
Does IKEA ever bring old patterns back?
I had an IKEA duvet cover that I loved but they no longer make the pattern. It came out probably 15 years ago. Do they ever bring patterns back, or is it gone for good? Been going through old pictures and feeling quite sentimental about it!
Irrelevant doctorate helpful for a future therapist?
I will be graduating with my master's degree in a counseling field which will allow me to obtain a license to practice independently after accruing a number of hours of work experience which I have already began.
My school offers a doctorate in organizational psychology which isn't at all therapy or clinical. However, I really love my school, I would love the idea of using the title of doctor which is ethical according to the licensing board because I wod still practice under my masters level counseling license, and I figure a few extra years of honing my academic writing skills would only be a good thing. [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 2:02 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by livelikegold6 at 2:02 AM PST - 13 comments
May 6
Pitching potential new clients in South Korea
I have a high profile music composition/arrangement gig in South Korea. I normally work in Los Angeles. While in South Korea, I was hoping to make some professional connections - I normally work on a contract basis doing orchestration, arrangement and composing music for movies, theatre and entertainment. [more inside]
What's wrong with me - and how can I start to change?
I'm in the first half of my thirties and I've realized that life seems to pass by me. I mean my life is more or less okay - I can pay my bills, I have a job that's at least partway interesting. My life hasn't changed much in the last ten to fifteen years. But that's not really a good thing. [more inside]
I'm just feeling sad about the disintegration of a friendship
How do you "get over" the disintegration of a long-term (10 year) friendship? The friendship between me and my best friend (well, former best friend now) has completely disintegrated and we aren't talking anymore. I have been feeling so sad about the ending of our friendship and I don't really know what to "do" to get over it. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Conflict of Interest in Individual Therapy?
It's hard to find a great therapist but I've found one... And she once provided couple's counselling for me and my partner. Is it for sure a bad idea to seek individual counselling from her? [more inside]
Should we let our 16-year-old son go to a party in another town?
We live in Vancouver. Our 16-year-old son, who I'd describe as fairly responsible (but still 16), has been invited to a party on Vancouver Island, a couple hours away by ferry, hosted by someone about the same age - a friend from summer camp who we haven't met. Our son expects that there'll be drinking, possibly marijuana. I'm inclined to say no. Any advice?
posted by Ye Olde Socke Puppete at 9:02 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by Ye Olde Socke Puppete at 9:02 PM PST - 19 comments
Can I stop iTunes from loading podcasts on my laptop?
I listen to podcasts exclusively on my iPhone. I want to use iTunes on my laptop for music only. I want to keep the podcasts on my phone, but not have them automatically load onto my laptop. Is this even possible? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 7:32 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by FencingGal at 7:32 PM PST - 12 comments
Convenience Store of the Universe
I love 8 Films/Tobira by Uchu Conbini. Please suggest other similar music I might like. [more inside]
What to do in Bologna?
I'll be in Bologna, Italy for a week in May. What (preferably offbeat, science-related) places should I see, or do? [more inside]
What temperature range is comfortable and safe for cats?
How warm can a room be and still be comfortable and safe for cats? [more inside]
Pink bike cargo rack?
I’m trying to find a basic rear mounted cargo/utility rack for one of my bikes. This is strictly a 10-20 mile daily commuter bike and I’m unlikely to have more than 5 pounds across two panniers so it doesn’t need to be super tough. The challenge is that I can pretty much only find these in black. Where do I go shopping for colorful bike racks? I’m specifically looking for a pink one right now but am probably going to grab another color for a different bike, so same criteria apply.
Calling all Londoners! Where can I live and be happy?
My cup runneth over! I am an American who wants to move abroad, and I have three job opportunities in the UK. I have always wanted to live in a city like London. Not all of the jobs are right IN London, and I need to start thinking about the commute and what's possible before I make a decision on which job I should take. Commute won't be the only thing, but it is a factor. [more inside]
Where in the Village(?) Was This Photo Taken?
This photo was taken in August 2004 on my parents-in-law’s trip to New York City along with their friends. They think it was in the Village, although, since they really didn’t know the city, it could easily have been in an adjacent neighborhood. Does any recognize where it was taken? I’m not sure, but I’m assuming it’s from the POV of the sidewalk looking at the front of the bar/restaurant. Does it ring any bells?
Coloring over root touchup?
I have my hair colored at a salon about every 5 weeks now that it is getting pretty gray. Last week I tried Clairol's root touch up to get me through a weekend event because I had a lot of roots showing. It worked pretty well, actually. [more inside]
posted by mmf at 1:04 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by mmf at 1:04 PM PST - 4 comments
How does one go about even finding remote jobs not in tech?
My wife got a really prestigious grant to go study in Japan next year as part of her PhD. I'm hoping to follow along. We're trying to square the circle of me not shooting myself in the foot career wise if I do so. More details inside. [more inside]
Please explain This iMessage Quirk
I'm having a text conversation with another iPhone user. I see, by the icon, that they're composing....then the composition icon disappears (which I believe means their composition field was cleared). Then, like 10 secs later, a text arrives fully formed. This happens with about 1/3 of my iOs correspondents (and it's always that same 10 sec gap). Any idea what they're doing? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 12:26 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Quisp Lover at 12:26 PM PST - 8 comments
How to best get clothes to someone in Brazil from the US
Hi, I have a person in Brazil that I would really like to ship a gift of clothes to. What is the best way to do this? I'm wondering if I should just buy them and mail them, if there's a store that folks use to ship right to Brazil, any ideas about what works best. I'm okay with spending a bit I think but want to make it easy for the other person.
Thanks!
posted by fairlynearlyready at 11:44 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by fairlynearlyready at 11:44 AM PST - 4 comments
My whole house hold loves the cat fountain but me.
So we have solved the cats not drinking by following ask mefi advice and getting a cat fountain. Its great! BUT I CANT STAND LISTENING TO IT. Bonus Pet tax inside [more inside]
posted by zara at 11:07 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by zara at 11:07 AM PST - 16 comments
How do I find these adorable white wire patio chairs?
Found these on craigslist and of course they sold already. The seller says they think they were made by Zuo but I can't find anything similar. Can you help me find them (or similar)?
Need ID help - landscape edition.
We have these two large shrubs/small trees in front of our new house and have no idea what they are. We don't care for how they look together, so we plan to have them removed and will likely give them away. We'd like a little more information about them first, but have no landscaping experience whatsoever (first time home owners). We haven't had luck with getting any local nurseries to help consult so we thought AskMeFites may be able to advise us.
posted by Katie8709 at 10:09 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by Katie8709 at 10:09 AM PST - 5 comments
Can we overthink ramen bowls?
I'd like to get some ramen bowls - is there anything I should look for? Do you have an especially awesome ramen bowl that you recommend? Of course, I'd love for it to be microwave/dishwasher friendly. Bonus question - your go-to ramen/rice/noodle bowl favorite recipe or source for recipes?
Being deliberately excluded from work social event – how to resolve?
My department (about 12 people), plus a few others, are all going on a group vacation abroad. I have deliberately been excluded, which makes me feel awful, and I don’t know what resolution I could get from the whole situation. [more inside]
Anyone recognize these shoes?
Help me find some shoes I saw in the wild this morning! [more inside]
posted by janepanic at 8:39 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by janepanic at 8:39 AM PST - 7 comments
Looking for a good coffee pot with cleanable/removable interior parts
The title pretty much says it. My Cuisinart makes a decent pot of coffee, but its insides (water reservoir, etc.) have gotten gunky over the years. This has been true for every similar, pour-the-water-in-the-top pot that I've used over the years. I'd like to find a pot where as much of the interior workings as possible can be removed and washed, or at least wiped out. [more inside]
Bell Hooks's best book.
Which Bell Hooks should I read first? Which is her key text? What other feminist texts should I be reading?
Who buys special event clothing for kids after divorce?
Wedding outfits are expensive, and I'm not even invited! [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 8:23 AM PST - 31 comments
posted by MiraK at 8:23 AM PST - 31 comments
Help finding specific type of box fan, please?
This room fan I experienced in France was effective, quiet, and slim. Just what I'm looking for....and having trouble finding. This Polish site seemed to have had it once? The usual search-pects are not bringing up any good contenders. (The Dyson fans are too large and expensive to dissuade me from my French dream fan.)
Any pointers?
posted by cocoagirl at 7:34 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by cocoagirl at 7:34 AM PST - 8 comments
What to do after dropping laptop
I just dropped my laptop (2014 MacBook Pro) on the train. It seems to be working ok, but I have a few questions about what I should do next. [more inside]
Where can my girlfriend and I pet a baby pig in the NY area?
I would like to give my girlfriend the opportunity to hold, or at least pet, a baby pig. [more inside]
Sleeping with a stiff neck
I can't figure out how to position my head/neck/pillow when I sleep to avoid aggravating muscle stiffness in my neck. [more inside]
Short story ID - cataloguing knowledge
In the corner of my mind, I recall a story, published around 1966 I think, about a man who is cataloguing all knowledge. Or he is the librarian. Or ... [more inside]
posted by bwonder2 at 3:44 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by bwonder2 at 3:44 AM PST - 8 comments
Un-shower the people
Sure, "first sight" stuff is a myth, and how long depends on your shape/size/hair, etc., even weather. But: on average, about what % of your post-shower wetness do you estimate resolves itself (by drying or dripping away) if you just stand still in the tub for one minute? [more inside]
Why, yes I was watching Harry Anderson videos on YouTube (RIP)
So, what exactly is Sam Malone (Ted Danson) wearing over his shirt in this clip from Cheers? [more inside]
posted by themanwho at 12:55 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by themanwho at 12:55 AM PST - 13 comments
May 5
That web site that connects stuff?
There used to be a web site that would tell you how different things were connected based on (I think) what amazon shoppers also bought. So you could enter any two books, movies, or albums (or a book and an album or any combination) and it would go from one through however many number of other items until it got to the other. [more inside]
Must I walk barefoot over Legos to get to the good stuff?
Third-life crisis here. I find myself thinking about whether or not I want to have kids, and unable to come up with a good answer. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 10:35 PM PST - 52 comments
posted by cnidaria at 10:35 PM PST - 52 comments
Drooling vs Spitting - Solve This Debate!
My husband and I are at an impasse between the definition of drooling versus spitting. What's your vote? [more inside]
I need information on adult braces, especially eating with them..
I have had adult braces fitted,fixed train tracks.They are a lot more painful(it has just been a week) and uncomfortable than I thought.I have been looking for online support for adult brace wearers (yes I can use google) but I haven't found many resources. if anyone has suggestions I would really appreciate it.The biggest problem I have at the moment is eating, I find it difficult and painful.I have recently lost a lot of weight through being ill and I want to keep my calories and vitamins UP!Any suggestions would be welcome,soups,liquids,I would consider liquid food supplements in interim and hopefully this will be short term until I adjust but, as I said,it's been harder than I thought!Any suggestions welcome. Thank you.
posted by hitchcockblonde at 5:25 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by hitchcockblonde at 5:25 PM PST - 20 comments
How to cope with long (possibly illegal) work hours?
In February I started working as a septic truck driver for a portable toilet company. The weather has warmed, business has increased, and the number of hours have become kind of ridiculous. [more inside]
How do working parents get everything done?
...and have time for anything else? I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. My wife and I work full time, demanding jobs. We have 45 minute commutes. The kids are in day care. We have a babysitter once a week for date night or working late. Between groceries, cooking, haircuts, taking care of the house (ie managing people who take care of the house), doctor appointments, staying home with sick kids, occasional business travel, school visits, etc, etc, we’re exhausted and have little time and energy for fun. The weekends and evenings are like second jobs but with screaming kids in the background. How do other couples in this situation manage? Are we being unrealistic to try and both work full time?
Mother's Day etiquette for boyfriend's family
I was invited to a Mother's Day brunch for my boyfriend's mom and sister. Do I need to bring them presents? [more inside]
What can I keep private while applying for a NYS teaching position?
This year was my first year employed teaching at a NY City Public Junior High School, and I was forced to resign early. I was targeted for administrative abuse by an Assistant Principal, to the point where I was vomiting from anxiety every morning, and myself and another new math teacher both quit before the end of the year. If I am applying to teach next year at a school in New York State, but NOT in NYC, what am I obligated to divulge? [more inside]
Question about Amazon SellerCentral account
I recently created a single-member LLC for tax and retirement purposes and am a sole practitioner. I would like to begin selling on Amazon but am confused about whether I must give up my individual Amazon account in order to register my LLC as a seller account; the information I've found online and on Amazon Seller support boards is contradictory and/or wildly out of date. (I'm in the US.) [more inside]
Which PC makers offer a "clean" load of Windows?
I need to buy 2 new computers for my business, 1 desktop and 1 laptop. They need to be Windows machines, unfortunately, due to the software we have to run on them. [more inside]
posted by nickthetourist at 1:35 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by nickthetourist at 1:35 PM PST - 11 comments
Teach me to like eggplant
I've never liked eggplant. I think for texture reasons, although now it's been so long that I've eaten it, I don't really remember why I don't like it. I have some extra garden space and have decided to plant a couple eggplant plants. Please tell me how to cook it so I become a convert. Vegetarian ideas preferred. (Dairy is fine.)
posted by mudpuppie at 1:01 PM PST - 42 comments
posted by mudpuppie at 1:01 PM PST - 42 comments
Mozart's clarinet concerto pulls my heartstrings. Tell me why.
I am obsessed with this chord progression in the adagio from Mozart's famous clarinet concerto (1:18-1:36 in the linked video). Can any musically-minded people tell me why it is so effective? I'm specifically interested in what it is about the interplay between chord progression, melody and instrumentation that feels so yearning and poignant. Get as technical and music-theory-y as you like.
posted by Jellybean_Slybun at 11:46 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by Jellybean_Slybun at 11:46 AM PST - 11 comments
Craft cocktail bars in New Orleans
Heading to New Orleans next week for the first time ever, and excited to check out the cocktail scene. The one place on my list to check out is Jeff Berry's Latitude 29, so very eager for other suggestions. Bars prefered, but suggestions for restaurants with great cocktail programs also appreciated. Thanks!
I need a swimsuit from the ONLINE please.
I need a one-piece swimsuit that I can swim in. I don't need competitive sportswear, but I do want it to stay put if I swim vigorously. My problem: One-piece swimsuits usually aren't sized for me. Can you help me find the right shop or suit? More inside. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 11:25 AM PST - 22 comments
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 11:25 AM PST - 22 comments
How Salty Is Your Undercarriage?
That's not a euphemism. Does vehicle undercoating really protect from corrosion? Salty details inside. [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by baseballpajamas at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments
Outdoorsy pants for mildly curvy women?
I just purged my closet of all my pants that don't fit and am now left with two pairs of sweatpants. I'm looking for pants with pockets, that I can hike in, that are loose in the hips and thighs but that come in at the waist. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 9:13 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by The corpse in the library at 9:13 AM PST - 21 comments
Are newer Roombas better than older ones?
We have a Roomba 530 that we bought in 2009. It does... alright. We've never used it too much since it seems like we're always cleaning hair out of the brushes and out of the bearings on the end of the brushes. Do newer Roombas need less maintenance? How about other robot vacuums like the Neato or the seemingly endless variety of other brands available on Amazon and other places online?
posted by zsazsa at 9:08 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by zsazsa at 9:08 AM PST - 8 comments
Looking for a summer sublet /apartment in North Portland OR
Asking for a friend [more inside]
What to do about a child's last name?
Should I change my young daughter's last name to my own since her father has virtually abandoned her? [more inside]
posted by scrubbles at 8:17 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by scrubbles at 8:17 AM PST - 20 comments
What gets pine sap off a car's windshield?
What gets pine sap off a car's windshield? I've tried lots of things that don't work, so what does? Looking for things you've personally had success with in the past.
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 7:34 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 7:34 AM PST - 17 comments
It's a spoiler, so I can't
We have seen "A Quiet Place" and my wife has a question ... [more inside]
Who watches the cloth men?
Does regulation or standardisation rules for garment size exist within the UK/EU?
What steps can a consumer take to ensure that retailers who sell items of apparel as one size on the label, when the actual fit size is drastically different, are disclosed responsibly? [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 4:07 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by Vrai at 4:07 AM PST - 13 comments
MS Outlook and responsive email
You guys are smarter and nicer than Stack Overflow, so... I'm trying to make an HTML email template that looks OK on newer iPhones as well as desktops running Outlook 2010. It only has to work in Outlook 2010, nothing else. I have googled my fingers to bloody stumps but none of the purported solutions work for me. Maybe you can help? [more inside]
May 4
Job creep but no salary adjustment, and also my spine is made of jelly
I wear multiple hats at my job, but some are worth more than others. My employer has gradually been assigning me tasks I’ve already said I would only do for $X, but paying me my standard rate of <$X (“task creep”). How do I assert myself here? Details below! [more inside]
posted by shalom at 11:28 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by shalom at 11:28 PM PST - 13 comments
My wife is sick, we don't know why, and we don't know what to do.
My wife and I have been together for four years now. Before we met, she had had a history of mild but chronic odd symptoms: reproductive issues eventually leading to a tubal ligation and endometrial ablation, intense insomnia, near-daily hot flashes (she's nowhere near menopause), muscle cramps, and a lot of nerve tingling, pain, and numbness. After years of frustration, she had stopped trying to see doctors to address these issues; I convinced her to get medical help. Now things are getting much worse, and we don't know what to do. Help? [more inside]
AirBnB IDs
So I'm new to AirBnB, and I think I'll need to add a government photo ID for verification purposes. They mention driver licenses and passports, and you have to scan or take a picture of one of them to upload. Ignoring for now the creepy feeling about uploading official IDs to websites, is there a 'better' choice between those two ID options in terms of personal security? [more inside]
Already saw a doctor, but would like advice
YANMD. I have come down with a moderate case of stomach flu... already saw a doctor, but how much should I worry? [more inside]
Books by folks with disabilites?
It’s been my mission lately to read books by non-cishetwhitedudes, but I realize I should change that to non-cishetwhitedudeswhoareablebodied. My tastes screw towards literary fiction and academic historical non-fiction. Also always down for a good memoir. But honestly, I’ll read most things happily and have no problem returning your recommendation to the library unfinished, or being pleasently surprised by something I never would have picked up. RAIN YOUR RECOMMENDSTIONS UPON ME! [more inside]
Advice 4 non-monetary compensation 4 upcoming job offer from start-up
I'll be receiving a job offer that I want to accept from a start-up soon. The company is less than 6 months old, has ~25 employees including 2 co-founders and they just put a President in place this week that I will report to. I know that salary cash is not in great abundance now and am looking for ideas they can offer to augment my earnings. [more inside]
Choosing options for nose surgery to improve breathing
I'm planning to get surgery on my nose to improve my breathing. I'm wondering about people's experiences with this type of surgery, and how they weighed options for different combinations of procedures. [more inside]
strength in solitude? or weakness?
I do a lot of work that is by turns intensely solitary and intensely collaborative creative work. While I love the solitude, it gets a little lonely. I can't figure out whether I should push through the loneliness (because it will make me stronger) or seek out more social interaction (to make the problem go away). Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 7:26 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by icosahedron at 7:26 PM PST - 10 comments
Do I need an electrician or just a handyman?
I'm not very handy myself and am outsourcing a lot of smallish home improvement projects. I'm unsure whether the following tasks can be done by a handyman (so far extremely reliable but, you know, not an expert) or whether I'd be better off with a professional electrician: [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 7:19 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by TwoStride at 7:19 PM PST - 5 comments
Old New Car - How Old is Old?
I have an opportunity to buy a 2017 VW wagon that has been sitting at the dealership for approximately 480 days. How concerned should I be that it has been at the dealership this long? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 7:05 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by tafetta, darling! at 7:05 PM PST - 7 comments
Six year old protein treatment: can I use it?
I have the bottles for the Aphogee Two Step Protein treatment and Balancing Moisturizer. I probably used them once in 2012. They've been in a dark cool closet since then. Can I still use it or will it not work? Or will it damage my hair if I use it? I'm kind of wary of using it since it probably has a complex formula that can degrade, but I also don't want to pay $20 for something I already have.
Help me iPhone users, you're my only hope!
I'm considering switching back from Android to an iPhone, but I have some very specific questions around iOS 11 widget functionality. I primarily use my phone as a tool, and it's really important to me that I have quick, at a glance access to time, date, day of week, next alarm, battery, calendar, weather and to do via widgets, and not by needing to repeatedly open apps. There are multiple questions inside, but I'd really appreciate if you even answered one question. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by cnc at 6:59 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by cnc at 6:59 PM PST - 15 comments
Looking for a German painting from the industrial revolution
I remember it being in some museum in Berlin (likely the Deutches Museum) last May. The painting was of a group of people heartbroken, grieving a dead factory worker. I remember there being a lot of gray in the painting, as well as the wrenched look of suffering in the mourner's faces. I didn't think to take notes of it when I saw it, and all of my google-fu has failed me. [more inside]
posted by Philipschall at 6:53 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Philipschall at 6:53 PM PST - 5 comments
Can I eat this? - Warm Kale Salad Edition
I am flying BOS>LAX tomorrow evening, and I am planning to bring along a kale salad that I made this evening.
Yummy kale salad recipe here
It’s about 1 1/2 hours drive to the airport, and I would probably eat the salad within the first hour or so of the flight.
I thought this was a solid plan, but dorkyhusband think’s it’s a recipe for food poisoning. What do you think? There is no dairy or mayo in the salad at all. Just kale, fruit, onions (don’t like radishes), almonds and a vinegarette.
posted by dorkydancer at 6:51 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by dorkydancer at 6:51 PM PST - 15 comments
In search of cookies without brown sugar or chocolate chips 🍪🤤🤤🤤
I want to make cookies this afternoon. I have all your standard baking ingredients EXCEPT I only have a quarter cup of brown sugar and no chocolate chips. Hit me with your recipes please!
Help me DVR
So, I want to get a DVR because I often miss shows that are not otherwise available OnDemand or elsewhere. Jeopardy! for example. In my mind, a DVR works like a VCR did, back in the day, except it's even easier to program(?). Is this correct? [more inside]
posted by hydra77 at 10:47 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by hydra77 at 10:47 AM PST - 12 comments
Summertime Sadness
Every time summer comes around (in my country/city it means temperature in high nineties, merciless sun and very high humidity), it hits me with sledgehammer force. My body acts weird. Details after the jump. [more inside]
a series of increasingly poor decisions
So I finished shooting with an SLR and put film away. Then I picked up a twin lens reflex camera from an estate sale for very cheap. Initial inspection and test shots show its in good working order. What do I need to know about 120 film stock, 6x6 composition, TLR quirks, and the film-digital hybrid workflow? (I'm using GIMP) [more inside]
Same Levi's, Different Body
I only wear Levi's jeans, and I've worn 514s forever (I like that they are simple, comfy and classic, and have a slim leg but it's not super-skinny and tight), but metabolism/being 49/beer has changed my body and they way jeans fit me at the waist (they fit lower now!). Can anyone who's had lived experience with this issue suggest a similar Levi's style to 514s but with a waist that's a bit higher...but not so high that I look like a Dad from 1996? [more inside]
Insect identification, part 300. What are these little black flies?
Only one terrible picture, I'm afraid - they're about the same size and shape as fruit flies. Fifty or so tend to swarm about in a 2 x 2 x 2m area above our stone patio (in London) as the weather gets warmer. The mystery is there doesn't seem to be anything nearby for them to do or land on; no immediately proximate plants or standing water or fruit or any other visible food source. What are they and how do we get rid of them?
Superior Hiking Trail - 3 day recommendations?
Planning a mid-June backpacking trip on the Superior Hiking Trail with my wife. Looking for recommendations for a route. I'd prefer to start by taking a shuttle and hiking back to the car. [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 9:09 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by caution live frogs at 9:09 AM PST - 3 comments
What can you NOT bring on a plane?
I have not taveled in 10 years, so I was wondering if there is something I cannot bring onto the plane. For example, razors for shaving, or do I have to bring my electric razor, shampoos, hair gel, medications, contact eye solution, snacks? And what about cash? I want to bring some but I'm worried about when it goes through different checks that I might not be able to see; can I have the money on my person? And I want to make sure my carry on bag will fit in the overhead area, so do I just call the airline and ask them the measurements? [more inside]
Where should I stay in Los Angeles?
I'm visiting LA in August--I plan to be there for 3 nights. But the city is so massive I have no idea what part of it to stay in. [more inside]
posted by Automocar at 8:35 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Automocar at 8:35 AM PST - 10 comments
Can I in good conscience apply herbicide once to my lawn?
We messed up a little and let our lawns go to the dandelions. They're extremely pervasive and the grass is thin and patchy. A lawn guy recommended a one time application of a commercial grade herbicide to get the dandelions under control. But I don't want to hurt bees! [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 7:51 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by LKWorking at 7:51 AM PST - 16 comments
You can’t plan on the heart
When a short-term relationship ends (in this case on happy but bittersweet terms), how do you “learn” from the experience when seeking out future partners without trying to replicate the relationship? A few snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Is there anything vaguely equivalent to NoScript for iOS?
Can I achieve the same kind of protection NoScript provides on desktop systems on iOS, despite NoScript not being a thing on that platform?? [more inside]
I'm not sure how to find a new job in business management
Failed med school applicant seeks help to advance in a business management career [more inside]
posted by ticktickatick at 6:31 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by ticktickatick at 6:31 AM PST - 3 comments
What established companies failed by trying something new?
Basically: what companies failed (or were badly wounded) by aggressively pursuing new tech, new markets, new products, etc.? Who bet big on the next big thing and lost? What's the opposite kind of failure from Blockbuster and buggy whips? [more inside]
Explaining the importance of basic cleanliness
How do I get my husband to understand that things like washing his hands and picking up after himself are important? [more inside]
How do I find mentorship in Technology?
I'm working in technology (hardware/software) in a director level position. I'm looking for mentorship in order to further my career but it has to come outside the company. Is there any way I can do this? [more inside]
Fun ideas for a very small child's bedroom.
I'm just (hopefully) finishing up turning an old sail locker into a child's bedroom so now's the time to think about features, decorations, storage. Anything cool and fun that a child person might like in their room. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 5:10 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 5:10 AM PST - 9 comments
Bing / Chrome / China firewall, please stop doing this thing!!!!!1
Bing on Chrome / Windows, homepage is behaving oddly now, help? [more inside]
How do I access the swooshy characters in this font set?
This font has lowercase and uppercase letters but also has caps with swooshy tails. I feel decidedly stupid, but no keyboard combination produces swooshes for me. Can someone please unstupid me?
posted by DarlingBri at 3:50 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by DarlingBri at 3:50 AM PST - 8 comments
May 3
Rebooting a large Wordpress Site
I have a large wordpress site that needs some modernization. It uses a custom built theme done in 2012 which is no longer really compatible with the current versions of WP and WooComm. [more inside]
For better or worse: What is considered normal "worse" and what is not?
My marriage isn't even 11 months old yet & I am rapidly losing hope. Some serious red flags are emerging but I can't decide if these are severe enough to consider ending a marriage. In other words, when I vowed to love my wife "For better or for worse", is what I'm describing qualify as "worse" or am I describing behaviors that could qualify as marriage dealbreakers? Trust me, I 100% want this marriage to go the distance but not if I am going to spend a lifetime being the victim of emotional abuse. [more inside]
Help me find the perfect storage cuboid
I move very often. At least once every year or so, I'm in a new place. So I've become accustomed to keeping all my stuff inside of various cardboard boxes and bins to minimize packing when I inevitably move. I just put the boxes in my car and go. It's practical, to an extent, but they're just so ugly??? I'd like to keep all my stuff in nice sturdy but stylish containers. Preferably something like big opaque plastic storage cubes with lids... why can I not find something like that? [more inside]
posted by picklenickle at 7:23 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by picklenickle at 7:23 PM PST - 16 comments
Should I eat these?
Accidentally put some grapes through the wash. I had one bunch in my bag and forgot about them after dumping my bag in the washing basket intending to take the grapes out later, so they went for a spin after I emptied the basket into the machine. They've mostly all split and come off the stem, but stayed in the bag apart from a few strays. I guess I'm mostly wondering how much chemicals and whatnot they might've absorbed after splitting and marinating in washing powder stew for an hour. They smell slightly like washing powder even after a quick wash (in the sink) and sitting in a bowl of tap water for a while. [more inside]
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 6:47 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 6:47 PM PST - 22 comments
Mirroring iPad Mini on Mac computer
I'd like to know if there is a way to mirror my iPad mini on my Mac computer without using wifi. There used to be a way to do this using Quicktime and a lightning cable, but apparently this does not work anymore. Basically, I want to browse the web on my iPad using the cellular internet connection and view it on my Mac computer monitor without using wifi to connect the two devices.
posted by ericthegardener at 6:37 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by ericthegardener at 6:37 PM PST - 4 comments
Body zaps from psych med
YANMD. I'm having terrible electric shock sensations throughout my body, and they are most likely a side effect from the Vraylar I started recently. I'm happy with the Vraylar otherwise but need relief from this. I'm waiting for my psychiatrist to call back. In the meantime, does anything bring relief? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:53 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:53 PM PST - 5 comments
Where in the world should I go in the first two weeks of Oct. 2018?
My best friend lives in China. I live in North America. We try to get together every couple years for about a week. His work schedule means that early October is usually best. We're both seasoned travellers and we like to meet up somewhere we've never been before. I have ideas of where I'd like to go, but I want to go somewhere different where something unique might be happening. Where is that? [more inside]
posted by fso at 5:11 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by fso at 5:11 PM PST - 7 comments
Family trip advice wanted: WA or OR, shore plus forests plus city?
We (me, wife, boy 18 & boy 14) think we want to vacation in early August in Washington or Oregon, to enjoy the shore, tide pools, forests, parks, hikes, etc. that we've seen amazing pics of. We like city stuff too (museums, markets, record stores), but Portland seems a bit far from the shore and Seattle seems (maybe?) a bit much? (Expensive? Crowded?) We want tips from folks who have vacationed in the northwest or live there - are there smaller WA or OR destinations that have these NW things we are craving?
Temporary solutions for sealing my window air conditioner
I have a window air conditioner. I rent. The windows are aluminum framed. There isn't a way for me to drill holes in the window to secure the accordion extensions so there's a small gap between them and the frame. I also see cracks where the extensions contact the unit. How do I best seal this up? [more inside]
Resources to help me learn when to use different Spanish verb tenses
I’m studying Spanish, and trying to learn when to deploy the various Spanish past tenses. Looking for a book of exercises to help me practice. [more inside]
posted by penguin pie at 4:00 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by penguin pie at 4:00 PM PST - 9 comments
How can I exercise around a bum hamstring?
I pulled my hamstring (I think). I know the best remedy is rest, but I fear for my waistline and mental health. How can I keep up my fitness routine without making things worse? [more inside]
Relocating to Orcas Island
Tell me about your experience living on Orcas Island. i want details deeper than what the internet knows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by anonymous at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments
seeking your favorite chill, instrumental-only beat based electronica
like the title says. I am fully aware of streaming and search tools of course. - More on the insides. : ) [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 2:41 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by bitterkitten at 2:41 PM PST - 20 comments
Nonprofits/Women's Groups to Assist a Displaced Chronically Ill Person?
Much to my dismay, I am chronically ill and am really in need of help. I recently left a toxic home environment, so while some stress has been relieved, I'm still in an unsettled situation without the ability to fully support myself. I am young, unmarried and currently staying with professional contacts who have been a great help, and they've advised I reach out to women's groups or nonprofits/organizations who may be able to help. I'm asking here for help in my search. [more inside]
San Francisco: Dinner for a Group
Anyone have thoughts about good restaurants that would be good for a crowd and also be reasonable for people driving in? [more inside]
Wide-brimmed sun hat with a ponytail hole
I'd like to buy a hiking sun hat with a wide brim that goes all the way around the hat, and has a ponytail hole. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 2:07 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by medusa at 2:07 PM PST - 4 comments
A Word For Projecting A Single Incident onto an Entire Population
Is there a phrase for when someone has a single incident or interaction, and then decides that the entirety of the population or scenario in which that interaction occurred is true for ALL subsequent interactions? [more inside]
Marriage Counseling in Los Angeles (or nearby)?
We've used the "Find a Therapist" tool but the results are so broad that we'd appreciate firsthand recommendations. [more inside]
Gay 15yo nephew in Ohio, Super-Religious parents reaches a crisis: help?
My nephew is 15 years old. He lives in Ohio. His parents are very, very Pentecostal. He is very, very gay. Last week he sent out a call for help and I've not been able to reach him. Please offer any wisdom or advice you have. [more inside]
posted by n9 at 12:56 PM PST - 41 comments
posted by n9 at 12:56 PM PST - 41 comments
Forbidden Gift Basket
Mothers’ Day Is coming up and my very best friend has a one-month old. For her first Mothers’ Day, I’d like to make her up a gift basket full of the stuff she couldn’t have while pregnant. Please help! [more inside]
Should I try to get a PhD? Where? What don't I know about getting a PhD?
I think I want to apply to Georgia Tech's Digital Media PhD program. Do I? Do I have a chance of getting in? What other programs should I be considering? [more inside]
Restaurant eti-filter: what does your culture think of doggie bags?
For those of you reading this outside the US, is it currently considered okay in your country to take home the uneaten portion of your restaurant meal? Or is this just terribly awful and you would die of embarrassment if someone at your table did this? [more inside]
220, 221. Whatever it takes.
We need to buy a home air conditioner that will be plugged into a dedicated 240V socket. What's the best thing to do here? [more inside]
relocation: Charlotte or Winston-Salem?
So I'm applying for work & the two top contenders for location with one employer are Charlotte & Winston-Salem, NC. Q1: Opinions between the two? Q2: Recommendations for/against areas & neighborhoods within/around each? I'm very liberal, have lived comfortably in Boston, Seattle & Austin. I have a car but access to public transit would be a plus.
posted by scalefree at 12:22 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by scalefree at 12:22 PM PST - 17 comments
Motor City Shopping Filter: good cocktail and evening dresses in Detroit
Asking for a friend who will be in Detroit tomorrow and will have a car. She is looking for the best selection of evening or cocktail dresses. [more inside]
posted by pointystick at 11:05 AM PST - 1 comment
posted by pointystick at 11:05 AM PST - 1 comment
Please help me figure out how to fund my life
As I’ve noted before, I suffer with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I can’t do most of the things I used to do. Like hold a job. I hate being here with this problem, but I do need your help. [more inside]
What are the loneliest public institutions in NYC?
With the weather getting hot, I want to hang out in cool, dark, maybe slightly musty-smelling places with interesting stuff to look at, and nobody else around. Museums, historic houses, libraries or whatever - especially in New York City, but if you know of amazing ones elsewhere, maybe I can go there someday. [more inside]
What Video Doorbell Should I Get in Canada?
I am getting two video doorbells for my new house, which one should I get? I am in Canada (Toronto) where it can get cold. I understand that not all video doorbells work well in the cold. [more inside]
What are the best options for a cell phone plan?
What are the current best plans and deals for an unlimited data cell phone plan? [more inside]
What do you wish you'd known about chemotherapy?
I'm starting chemotherapy for non-Hodgkin's lymphoma tomorrow. Beyond the standard medical guidance, what should I know about going through chemo? [more inside]
Can we do better than "reneger" to replace "Indian Giver"?
... Research shows there are several close words, the closest being 'reneger'. We can do better ... [more inside]
Nurse aide? Companion? Need help for grandmother with colon cancer
Grandmother has been diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer, and we anticipate more hospital etc stays in the next year. Added complication - dementia/memory loss. We need someone that could potentially stay at the hospital with her. What are we looking for?
Any recommendations or experiences for elderly with colon cancer also welcome. [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 8:06 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by needlegrrl at 8:06 AM PST - 9 comments
How to stock a mini-library of diverse kids books?
How do I spend PTA money to buy gift books that will appeal to the widest possible audience of elementary school kids? [more inside]
posted by secretseasons at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by secretseasons at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments
Free meeting scheduler, anything better than Doodle?
I am trying to schedule a meeting with a core team of high-level leaders (read REALLY busy folk). I don't love Doodle. Is there an alternative application that you recommend?
Another group I belong to uses groupmindexpress. Basically, you just say what times you are available each day during a certain time period. It looks like there is a fee though. Anything similar, or easy to use (for the leaders and me) that is free?
My shins hurt when I run. Should I stop?
IKYANMD. I get muscle pain in my shins when I run. I don't think it's shin splints - I think it's chronic compartment syndrome, affecting my tibialis anterior. Do I need to stop running (for a while? forever?), or can I push through it? [more inside]
posted by rd45 at 7:15 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by rd45 at 7:15 AM PST - 15 comments
What's fair??? Hamilton Tickets edition
My friend wants me to pay 4X her cost for a ticket to Hamilton. Her reasoning is that it worth at least that on the open market. [more inside]
Hiring a house painter
Our little house needs to be painted. We will get quotes from each of several painters that have come with personal recommendations from neighbors on our street. What questions or parameters should we ask or provide? [more inside]
Do animals have faces?
Please help adjudicate a debate. Do animals have faces, or is face a word that can only apply to humans (and anthropomorphic animals like cartoon characters or pets)? In case this is a regional / dialect thing, please note your background when answering. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 3:14 AM PST - 52 comments
posted by lollusc at 3:14 AM PST - 52 comments
May 2
Need amusing, funny easy to read book recommendations
I need something light and funny to take my mind off things because I've been under a ton of stress and my best friend died today. [more inside]
ASL books for tiny tots
I'm looking for books for the 2-4 year-old set (think pre-K) that include some American sign language. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What do I do with 20 lbs of rice?
Long story short, I bought 20 pounds of jasmine rice, and there are only 3 of us. Sure, I could return it, or freeze it and use it slowly, but is there anything I could do in one fell swoop, something that would use all (or most) of it in one go?
posted by kerf at 7:45 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by kerf at 7:45 PM PST - 23 comments
Ask bread-afilter: is a lame worth the money?
I’ve been baking my own artisan loaves with great results, and have a lot of specialty tools. But I can’t bring myself to spend the money on a dough blade/lame because I don’t know if it will work better than a sharp knife. Any insight? [more inside]
posted by InkDrinker at 7:35 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by InkDrinker at 7:35 PM PST - 6 comments
Streaming A Movie's Sound to Multiple Devices
I'd like to screen movies with friends on my building's roof patio, but the building doesn't allow amplified/loud sound there. Is there some program or application that would allow me to play the video file on a computer but have the audio stream or be synced somehow to everyone's phone? [more inside]
Choosing a studio apartment in DC, any recommendations?
I need help and outside views on finding a studio apartment that meets my criteria. [more inside]
Whisker-friendly, non-plastic cat dish
My fussy cat just got fussier. He refused to eat last night until I hand-fed him, he refused to eat at all this morning, and tonight he ate only after I transferred his food from his bowl to a saucer, at which point he ate fairly enthusiastically. I'm assuming he doesn't like his whiskers touching the side of the bowl, as he's kind of neurotic about any unusual sensory input (noise, movement) while he's eating anyway. I'm looking for recommendations for bowls, either glass or ceramic, that wouldn't bother his whiskers. (He also won't eat out of plastic. Other non-plastic items considered.)
posted by lazuli at 6:20 PM PST - 31 comments
posted by lazuli at 6:20 PM PST - 31 comments
Am I Latinx enough to wear the t-shirt?
How can I understand what it would mean to identify as both Latinx and white? Recognizing that race/ethnicity are complex social constructs, I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts at 6:04 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by sockpuppetryarts at 6:04 PM PST - 29 comments
What are your favorite podcasts that aren't chatty?
I'm looking for podcasts that are more structured and less chatty, what are your faves? [more inside]
Mother's Day gift for mom returning to Catholicism
My mom has returned to the Catholic church after many years and is very enthusiastic about it. I would like to get her a Mother's Day gift that supports this interest but am pretty lost about what to get. I think that a lot of Jesuit writings resonate with her. She likes religious iconography. Um, and that's all I've got. I'm looking for gift suggestions that go beyond "nice Bible" or "rosary"--something she wouldn't think of herself.
What see through fabrics can I use in the bathroom?
whatever is see through and allows air through- like chiffons or mesh for example which can handle humidity [more inside]
Gas 911! Put diesel in car...standing at pump right now
just put over 2 gallons of diesel in my unleaded fuel only car. wasn't paying attention. what should I do? Again, literally standing at the pump...
posted by BadgerDoctor at 3:06 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by BadgerDoctor at 3:06 PM PST - 14 comments
Gift ideas for post-surgery (hernia)
Close relative (late 50s) is having surgery for a hernia next week. I would like to do something thoughtful besides sending a card (which I plan on doing). I'm far away and it would be nice to surprise them, though. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 2:40 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by onecircleaday at 2:40 PM PST - 6 comments
I want to work in affordable and sustainable housing
I am an (a)architect. Small 'a' because I am not licensed.
Have hit retirement age, and been free-lancing for some time. I need the income, and won't let go of the passion. [more inside]
Do employers have to pay when employees file unemployment claims?
It's "common knowledge" that when you file an unemployment claim, your employer has incentive to deny this claim so they don't have to pay you unemployment. Is this really how this works? [more inside]
posted by seiryuu at 1:34 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by seiryuu at 1:34 PM PST - 16 comments
What is best in turn-based strategy games?
Gamefilter! Seeking your suggestions for free-to-play or relatively inexpensive turn-based strategy games available for iOS/Mac! [more inside]
posted by halation at 1:30 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by halation at 1:30 PM PST - 22 comments
Windows 10 bluetooth shows almost every device as "Unknown Device"
I can't find my devices on the windows 10 bluetooth "add a device" listing on my laptop because they are all "Unknown Device" in the listing.
Is there any way to get around the failure to resolve the names of bluetooth devices. It's detecting them but just not identifying them rendering the list useless since it isn't static and I can't systematically work through the list trying to find the device I want to connect (never mind the security risk of randomly connecting to nearby bluetooth devices).
posted by srboisvert at 12:33 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by srboisvert at 12:33 PM PST - 4 comments
Questions at a second job interview
I have a second interview scheduled for a position at a science journal. I would like to ask some questions about the journal to show my level of interest in the job. When I’ve searched for information about the journal, I’ve gotten a lot of hits involving advanced science that I don’t understand and that wouldn’t have any bearing on my position. How can I ace this interview and communicate that I’m enthusiastic about working in this lab?
posted by pxe2000 at 12:25 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by pxe2000 at 12:25 PM PST - 15 comments
Second chance romance: long distance edition
Through cautious exploration, a former partner and I are going to attempt to try again. We are both single, never married, no kids. Have you successfully navigated this? What questions did you ask yourself and your potential partner to determine best fit? [more inside]
Stupid Cat Tricks
I have a really smart, really sociable cat who could use more entertainment than she gets from chasing my kids around all day. I have trained her to come when I call, and to get off the table when I say "down!" (although not to not get on the table in the first place but whatev). This consistently blows people's minds. What are some tricks I could teach my cat, to keep her busy and entertained, and amaze all my friends when they visit? [more inside]
Really loud portable Bluetooth speaker. No, louder than that.
I'm looking for a very portable Bluetooth speaker that can produce a LOT of sound; it needs to be heard over classes of 45 orchestra kids sawing away. Does anyone have any specific suggestions for a speaker OR suggestions for search terms/specs I might use to find this quality more effectively? [more inside]
Where in Seattle can one watch major league rugby?
I'm not a broadly sporty person but have gotten hooked on Seattle Seawolves rugby via a friend. What bars/restaurants/etc. in Seattle would be likely to be showing their away games, or could be talked into it? Bonus for West Seattle or downtown-ish.
posted by centrifugal at 12:02 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by centrifugal at 12:02 PM PST - 2 comments
Make Audio Only Calls on Skype
I feel like this should be easy, but I just can't find an answer. On the new version of Skype (Skype version 8.20.0.9) on Mac, it seems like they got rid of the option to not show video when making a call. I basically want to use Skype for audio, but can't locate a way to turn the camera off. Thanks in advance for help!
posted by dearleader at 11:47 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by dearleader at 11:47 AM PST - 2 comments
Improving my handwriting quickly!
I need to improve my handwriting within the next couple of weeks. It's quite bad, and if I slow down and take the time to write neatly it's almost legible but still very ugly. I need it to look nice and be legible within the next two weeks. Just block printing, not cursive script. Can I do this, and, if so, how? [more inside]
incentivizing running w/ a return
Can you help me incentivize my runs to challenge myself? Can I make a running bank deposit, and get a payback when my GPS says so? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 10:56 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by raztaj at 10:56 AM PST - 7 comments
Canvassing for recommendations
Newbie studio-less artist seeks recommendations for supplies. [more inside]
Looking for appointment software that also handles tasks & other stuff
I'm looking for software where I can set appointments for my sales team, create tasks/reminders/deliverables for myself, and one that will automatically send confirmation and follow up emails to customers. Basically a calendar on steroids that can handle some lead management and send emails, or at the very least prompt me to.
If there is a mobile option for the salesmen to use for their appointments, then that's a bonus.
Curly hair stylist recs in the Bay/East Bay
Curly haired women in the Bay Area, who cuts your long-ish hair? [more inside]
Vegan dips and spreads without any nuts?
I would like to make at least one vegan dip and one vegan spread this weekend, and they need to be: [more inside]
Referenced based what?
My employer is switching our health insurance from Aetna to an open provider model utilizing referenced based pricing. Does anyone have experience with this type of insurance to share, either as a patient or provider? [more inside]
Personal development blog recs
I enjoy reading a number of blogs about cooking, organization, finance, etc., but now I'm looking for blogs centered around personal development, self-help, or spirituality. Just wondering if anyone knew of any worth reading. Thanks!
Workbooks for anxiety?
I'm dealing with some intense anxiety at the moment. Can you please recommend me some kind of workbook to help work through this (in addition to therapy, of course)? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 2:10 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by kinddieserzeit at 2:10 AM PST - 11 comments
Academic Rank Decisions
I am faculty at a public university and am being aggressively recruited by a larger, far better funded public university in a different state-but to come in at a lower academic rank. [more inside]
How do I keep them from shooting the messenger?
Three months ago I got a new job with a big promotion. However, probably predictably, I took over an organisation thought to be sound, but which is literally falling apart around my ears. I've had three solid months of bad news I needed to deliver and it seems like the end is not yet in sight. They know, intellectually, that this is not my fault-- but they're starting to look at me like Danger-Prone Daphne. How can I turn this around? Bonus: cultural differences and sexism. [more inside]
May 1
How to not make my current boss think I'm heartless and conniving?
I've been offered an interview for a job I am very excited about, and would be great for my career. I am currently on (unpaid) bereavement leave. They're keen to recruit very quickly, and will likely want a reference check from my current boss very soon. How can I manage the process of organising this reference check without my current boss thinking I'm heartless and conniving given the circumstances of my current absence? [more inside]
How to get a career in fraud investigation?
I have been a staff accountant for about 1.5 years and plan to begin taking the CPA exam in the fall. Over the past couple years, I have become extremely interested in working as a fraud investigator. How do I go about it? What should my career trajectory look like? What skills/credentials/experiences should I be getting now, in preparation? What is it like, day to day, being a fraud investigator anyway? [more inside]
posted by static sock at 9:04 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by static sock at 9:04 PM PST - 6 comments
Neurobiology for the drunk
What is the biochemical mechanism of an alcohol-induced blackout? I want genes, I want pathways, and most of all I want to establish whether there is any aspect of the brain's activity during a blackout that could be considered neuroprotective, rather than just a consequence of toxicity. [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 9:00 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 9:00 PM PST - 1 comment
Where to eat in Osaka?
We are spending one night in Osaka, in the Umeda area. What are best (not necessarily fanciest) places to eat? We are interested in everything.
What's the best laptop for digital audio work I can get for <$800?
I've been asked to buy a laptop for a friend on a budget who is looking to upgrade a home studio. My limitations are:
-it has to work with his existing PreSonus FirePod (FP10), so either FireWire input or an adaptable replacement for it.
-it has to run Windows software, preferably in Spanish.
-it should be as sturdy and reliable as possible for the money.
-I need to be able to order it in the U.S.
The top end of my budget is $800. Is this feasible these days? [more inside]
posted by dr. boludo at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by dr. boludo at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments
What to do with orangey simple syrup?
As a byproduct of making orangettes, I have in my fridge about 1 cup of orange peel-infused simple syrup. It is lightly floral and citrusy (but not overly so), and, of course, very sweet. What should I do with it?
What kind of camera's that?
What is the song in this SmugMug+Flickr promo video? Who sings it? [more inside]
posted by maryr at 5:29 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by maryr at 5:29 PM PST - 2 comments
Need Business Name Help.
I helped a friend find a job by fixing up her resume, finding appropriate jobs, writing her cover letters and filling out online applications. She told someone and they asked me to help them. Then someone else. And now it's a thing. What should I call this thing? [more inside]
posted by orsonet at 5:23 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by orsonet at 5:23 PM PST - 16 comments
2nd best way to start new garden beds?
I know you're supposed to cover new beds in fall. I didn't do that. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by ohsnapdragon at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments
I want to make someone's day in Palm Desert, CA
I'm looking for personal recommendations for a variety of delivery-based services in the Palm Desert, CA area. [more inside]
What would a good workplace for mental health look like in practice?
When I've read about this, it seems to usually be at the level of platitudes and "awareness". I'm interested in resources and anecdata about what a workplace that dealt super-well with employee mental health would look like, beyond offering good insurance (which is huge).
How do dial Metropolitan Police (London) from Canada
I loved one is experiencing distress in London, UK. I want to call the Metropolitan police to check on them. I cannot find a number that I can dial from my Canadian cell phone. I have checked online but I can't find anything but 999. If anyone has a landline, it is postcode w1. My Google fu is not working due to nerves.
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 2:17 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 2:17 PM PST - 13 comments
Curly haired Mefites, help me with my daughter
My daughter has has just become curly haired. I do not know how to care and maintain curly hair. What advice, technique, methods or what you wish happened for you on the curly hair front? [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 2:17 PM PST - 35 comments
posted by jadepearl at 2:17 PM PST - 35 comments
Need Tax Advice for 1956
I had the opportunity to read some 60-year-old payroll files from a company that has been out of business for many years. Top managment in 1956 was being paid a salary plus monthly payments of $2000 for the premiums on whole life insurance policies. Was the additional $24000 a year taxed as ordinary income at the time, or was this an end run around the confiscatory income taxe rates of the period?
Someone used my SSN to get a job. How worried should I be?
I recently received a letter from the IRS saying that someone used my social security number to get a job. I immediately initiated a credit freeze with TransUnion (who is supposed to notify the other 2 credit bureaus). I also created an account at ssa.gov, and everything looks legit through the end of 2017 on my report. [more inside]
posted by AlisonM at 1:12 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by AlisonM at 1:12 PM PST - 9 comments
Do you recognize this (1950s? cartoon?) character?
Who is this character?
It looks to be from a 1950s animation, and seems very familiar. A reverse image search and Googling various phrases isn't working. (For me, anyway.) [more inside]
posted by The Deej at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by The Deej at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments
Do you think children suffer from parents' lack of social circle?
If you have kids and a really small social and family circle (no "village"), how did it affect your kids? Did you still throw birthday parties and who was invited? Did your kids ever realize or ask, "How come my parents never have visitors or go see people?" [more inside]
Is USPS informed delivery dead?
Last month, I could get to the Informed Delivery webpage easily, using a bookmark. Today, it won't load. None of the links on the USPS site work. Is ID dead?
Affordable, awesome, short-notice babymoon destination
We are looking to plan a babymoon, but we are procrastinators - where can we go, relatively inexpensively, around the second week of June? Details below the fold. [more inside]
Books to read on short vacation
I'm going on a 5 day anniversary vacation with no kids! That means I can finally get some me-time for reading. Please recommend good books to read on a beach. [more inside]
Planning a beach BBQ for 40+. Difficulty level: Beach is an hour away.
I'm having a Big Birthday soon, and we're celebrating with a bbq at the beach. Seeking suggestions for food for a crowd that travels well with minimal prep. [more inside]
Identify this statue in The Black Cat (1934)
In the 1934 movie The Black Cat, starring Boris Karloff and Bela Lugosi, there's a statue of a reclining woman on Karloff's desk. Does anyone know whose work it is? Is it a famous sculpture or just something made for this movie? Photo 1, Photo 2.
posted by beyond_pink at 10:49 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by beyond_pink at 10:49 AM PST - 4 comments
I AM SO UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE BURS
I am waging war with last year’s dried burdock plants so I can actually use my back yard. Stupidly, I was wearing a tank top and rained tiny itchy ouchy hairs ALL OVER MY BODY. I AM SO UNCOMFORTABLE AND PRICKLY FEELING. I just took a shower and loofahed off, and that helped the immediate itchiness, but I just put a shirt on and realized the hairs are definitely all still on me. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Grandysaur at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments
Whatever happened to the "print" option on news sites?
I've noticed that sometime in the last few years, the option to print out articles on news sites has slowly disappeared. I'm curious as to why this is (and when this happened). [more inside]
posted by leticia at 10:38 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by leticia at 10:38 AM PST - 12 comments
Help me find examples of powerful or sinister lighting
I'm interested in the way light fixtures can project power or authority. I'm looking for images of powerful and/or sinister lighting and fixtures from film, art and architecture. [more inside]
Which non-drowsy OTC medicine do you use for a sneezy runny nose?
I'm trying to work and I can't concentrate with these nose tingles. Is there a spray I can run to the drugstore and get? [more inside]
Help me learn how to identify pitches watching baseball on TV
I love baseball. I love watching baseball on TV. But despite having done so for many, many years, I'm just pitiful at identifying pitch type. Please help me learn how to do so! [more inside]
How to move/migrant documents saved in SharePoint to Google Docs
Greetings,
My organization has been working with a consulting firm. The firm has documents saved on SharePoint. They are shifting the project to me and have asked me to download the files from SharePoint and move them to Google docs.
Is there an easy way to do this?
I have not used SharePoint before, and I am failing.
Thank you in advance
mindfulness healing book thing?
While I know there are specific healing-oriented-style meditations and apps you can use, I was wondering if there was a practical non-woo book in the "healing your body with your mind" area that you guys might recommend (if such a thing exists). Seems like even ones that profess to root themselves somewhere near science are mostly woo and pseudoscience. Maybe such a guide does not exist? but figured I'd ask.
Thanks once again, mefiters. : )
posted by bitterkitten at 8:58 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by bitterkitten at 8:58 AM PST - 11 comments
Add a bunch of self-signed certs to a Windows host
Can a script be written to collect self-signed certificates from a lot of hosts (like 200+), and then add them all to a single Windows PC's web browser (probably IE)? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 8:38 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by wenestvedt at 8:38 AM PST - 7 comments
Looking for a nursing agency/aide near Rockland, New York
Asking for a friend who's been single-handedly advocating for their father, who has been in a nursing/rehab facility since having a stroke six months ago. [more inside]
how to approach landlord about month-to-month extension?
I'm renting while buying, and I expect to move into the new place at least one but possibly more months after my current lease ends. What are some conventional solutions to this problem? [more inside]
How do I get over the relationship hump?
I've had a handful of serious relationships, but they never get past what I refer to as ‘the hump'. The hump happens when the crazy-intimate-in-love relationship feelings start to dissipate, and your partner’s flaws become more and more apparent. For me this tends to happen around the three year mark. I really love my current partner (he is a wonderful man and has so many amazing qualities), but he also comes with some flaws. I am starting to notice them more and more often, and while I try to let them go, there are also times when they spawn arguments and unhappiness. I WANT to accept who he is, but I don't know how. How do you accept another's flaws? How do you focus more on the positive than the negative? How do you manage to have patience, to be less critical? How do you accept your partner's imperfections? [more inside]
Is this the kind of red flag I should be looking for?
I started talking to a guy who was really pushy about getting more face pictures after I had already sent him 3. I've recently talked to my therapist about being attracted to men who end up being really controlling and she said to start paying more attention to early signs of boundary pushing to better protect myself. Is this that? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 3:52 AM PST - 30 comments
posted by blackzinfandel at 3:52 AM PST - 30 comments
Adding transparent Pantone swatch to InDesign
I need to add Pantone Transparent White to my InDesign swatches in order to create a swatch for a custom Pantone. I guess I could hack round it but would like he swatch to be accurate if possible. I can't see Transparent White in the built-in Pantone swatches available. Do you know if it's possible to add it?