I love my new sister in law!
July 6, 2008 6:49 PM   Subscribe

My brother is getting married (YAY!) Now what to give to my sister in law?

My brother is marrying a fantastic girl and we couldn't be more excited. She's Japanese and they're having a civil ceremony at the courthouse in her city in September, followed by a western style wedding in Hawaii next year. Since none of my family can attend, I'd like to send something to Asami to say "welcome to the family-I'm so glad you're marrying my brother". Is there something traditionally given in Japan to a sister or daughter in law to welcome a new woman to the family? I'll be sending a box to my brother and he'll be taking things with him when he goes next month.
posted by hollygoheavy to Society & Culture (4 answers total)
 
Whatever you end up getting her, you should include a handwritten note or card that says, "welcome to the family-I'm so glad you're marrying my brother." I bet she'll love that more than any present you'll get.
posted by chiababe at 7:07 PM on July 6, 2008 [3 favorites]


I don't have a suggestion for a big gift, however a 'welcome to the family photo album' might be nice. A photo of members who she will eventually meet ie cousins, uncles, aunts.... Who they are, what they do, how they are related, maybe even a small note from some of them welcoming her to the family.
posted by meeshell at 7:49 PM on July 6, 2008


meeshell's idea is great, especially if you have a large family. Meeting all those people at once can get pretty complicated.
posted by phunniemee at 7:59 PM on July 6, 2008


I like Meeshell's idea, but would caution you to perhaps also include something a little more personal to her. You don't necessarily want to imply "Here's our family and there will be a test tomorrow," even if your family is wonderful and accepting. Make sure to show her how much you appreciate what SHE'S bringing to the family.

I say that as someone with a large, loud and rather difficult family to break into. Not saying that you have that, but coming into a family from a different culture can be tough.

At any rate, how wonderful for her to have a new family so excited for her to join in :) You're a much better in-law than most!
posted by Madamina at 9:21 PM on July 6, 2008


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