Marriage Counselor in Manhattan?
October 3, 2017 1:31 PM Subscribe
Please recommend a good marriage counselor in Manhattan. My wife and I have one kid and were trying to have another – we just found out that the infertility treatments we tried didn’t work. My wife’s furious (she blames me) and I’m worried that we’re not going to be able to get beyond this.
Not sure if it's ok to jump in with a non answer, but I will because I've been your wife. MrTaff and I had many rounds of IVF. Our marriage very nearly didn't survive the rounds between baby 1 and baby 2. I blamed him. I was on a shit ton of hormones and in the back of my teeny little brain was fear that it was all my fault and that I was broken and worthless. So I did the mature adult thing and picked fights with him, blamed him, and sulked.
I send you massive hugs and hopes that it turns out ok. And maybe some insight that while your wife may be decompensating, if you can weather this, you can weather most things. I hope you get the details of a good counselor. If anyone can help, it's AskMF.
It was a truly diabolical time for us. One which should have seen us pull together as we did with our first ivf baby... but for some reason we just didn't for all the successive (hideously expensive) failures. Hugs, IVF is brutal on every single level.
(We're still married. 20 years last month. Hugs again.)
posted by taff at 5:26 AM on October 4, 2017 [2 favorites]
I send you massive hugs and hopes that it turns out ok. And maybe some insight that while your wife may be decompensating, if you can weather this, you can weather most things. I hope you get the details of a good counselor. If anyone can help, it's AskMF.
It was a truly diabolical time for us. One which should have seen us pull together as we did with our first ivf baby... but for some reason we just didn't for all the successive (hideously expensive) failures. Hugs, IVF is brutal on every single level.
(We're still married. 20 years last month. Hugs again.)
posted by taff at 5:26 AM on October 4, 2017 [2 favorites]
You can use the Therapy Finder at Psychology Today to look for someone who specializes in marriage counseling and is conveniently located. Yelp often has reviews for therapists which can be helpful once you have a short list.
posted by bunderful at 5:57 AM on October 4, 2017
posted by bunderful at 5:57 AM on October 4, 2017
This is not from personal experience, but a neighbor once highly recommended Phyllis Cohen
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Phyllis_F_Cohen_New+York_New+York_60004
posted by smokyjoe at 2:22 PM on October 6, 2017
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Phyllis_F_Cohen_New+York_New+York_60004
posted by smokyjoe at 2:22 PM on October 6, 2017
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posted by JimN2TAW at 1:58 PM on October 3, 2017