Condom after blow job? Will my saliva make it slip off?
October 17, 2015 10:38 PM   Subscribe

As above - if I give a bj to my boyfriend as foreplay and then put a condom on him, will my saliva make it more likely it will slip off?

I am a late bloomer to the sexing. I have looked for the answer to this question to avoid having to ask it but I couldn't find the answer I'm looking for. If I give a bj to my boyfriend as foreplay and then put a condom on him, will my saliva make it more likely it will slip off? I know you can put a drop of lube in it and that's ok, but this seems different. Or is it? Please help my ignorant self.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite

 
Saliva dries pretty quickly. Give yourselves 30 seconds or so between blow job and condom and you should be fine.
posted by Sara C. at 10:41 PM on October 17, 2015 [1 favorite]


Maybe if there's a giant amount of saliva this might be an issue, but it's not something I've ever experienced. I doubt you need to worry about it being an issue.
posted by backwards guitar at 10:56 PM on October 17, 2015


This is purely anecdotal and doesn't have any scientific validity. However, all I can say is that just about every time I've had sex, I had gotten a blow job earlier in that session. It was often a blow job that went on for a while and involved plenty of saliva. I never made any effort to have any delay between the blow job and having sex. I've used a condom the vast majority of the times I've had sex. And I've never noticed any issues with the condom slipping off. I've never gotten a woman pregnant (as far as I know). I've never had an STD (assuming my negative test results have been accurate). To be clear, in this comment, I'm using "having sex" to refer to pretty conventional heterosexual intercourse.

You shouldn't rely on my comment, since this is just one internet stranger's experience. But I personally would never worry about this, and I feel I have enough experience in this to go ahead and keep doing things the same way, with confidence.
posted by jejune at 11:00 PM on October 17, 2015 [5 favorites]


Oh, yeah, when I say "give yourselves 30 seconds" I don't mean an enforced break or anything. The few seconds it'll take to take your mouth off his penis and get a condom will do fine.
posted by Sara C. at 11:16 PM on October 17, 2015 [1 favorite]


It's a pretty standard recommendation to put a little lube inside the condom, which is way more slippery than spit, so I wouldn't worry about it. I've gotten a lot of head before putting on a condom and it's not been an issue for me.
posted by Candleman at 11:24 PM on October 17, 2015 [9 favorites]


No. Not only is it often recommended to add lube to the inside to enhance feeling; prelubed condoms have lube inside and out.
posted by Mitheral at 12:04 AM on October 18, 2015 [1 favorite]


No. The answer is 'no'.

There is no need to hit you up with all sorts of bizarre situations which would warrant a 'but...'

The answer is 'no'. Condoms are designed for a bit of fluid to be on the inside before ejaculation. That's normal operation.
posted by hal_c_on at 12:26 AM on October 18, 2015 [6 favorites]


You're fine. Go forth and conquer.
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 12:28 AM on October 18, 2015 [1 favorite]


Agreed, the answer to your question is No. Some spare saliva should not cause slippage.
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However, since you're new to sexing - if slippage (or breakage) IS an issue (with your current partner or in the future) - then your dude may not be wearing the right size or fit condom. Brands also vary in size, fit, and feel. This chart may be helpful. So if things aren't working perfectly try different brands, styles, lubricant options, and sizes. It's also a matter of personal preference for both parties. You can usually find the 3-packs online so you can try a variety without having too many extra condoms.
posted by Crystalinne at 12:38 AM on October 18, 2015 [3 favorites]


No. This is fine.
posted by J. Wilson at 6:44 AM on October 18, 2015


The only time I've ever experienced condom slippage was when I was stupidly using a condom that was too big for me. A condom should fit pretty snug. Excess lubrication has never been a thing in my experience; indeed, as others have said, most condoms come with lube on the inside.
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 9:41 AM on October 18, 2015


In my experience, this isn't an issue with latex condoms but is something I have encountered with with polyurethane.

If you are using latex I wouldn't worry about it.
posted by internet fraud detective squad, station number 9 at 11:26 AM on October 18, 2015


no, it won't. unless it's an extremely over-sized condom that doesn't fit snugly which would negate its overall effectiveness anyway. they fit tight for a reason, and are a pain (literally) to get on and off. some people use lubrication before even putting one on and they still don't slip off.
posted by Conrad-Casserole at 11:49 AM on October 18, 2015


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