Couples Therapists in NYC: recommendations
June 21, 2015 12:02 AM   Subscribe

My partner and I are looking for a couples therapist in NYC - preferably Brooklyn and Manhattan. We tried one therapist about 8 months ago but we both felt he wasn't a good fit and quit after a few sessions. I'm looking for someone who really engages us and is both professional and empathetic. We have CIGNA and United Oxford insurances and would like to remain in-network if possible. Please share your recommendations, therapist hunting is really hard. Thanks!!
posted by whatdoyouthink? to Human Relations (3 answers total)
Feeling an interesting good connection is important, good for you both that you agreed on finding a better fit. Have you looked into EFT, Emotionally Focused Therapy (for couples)? I see there's two hits in googlemaps in Manhattan. There is a book for couples, so you can see if this therapy approach would be suitable for you both.
Author Sue Johnson (you can find her on Youtube too) has a humorful but gentle and also strong approach (she works a lot with trauma as well).
You could also check out the international association and inform about registered therapists in your area. Find some that will agree to a first meeting to see if there is enough connection to continue, or tell the center you inquire at what you both didn't like about the last therapist and they will help you find a better match or refer you to a colleague.

Another good option might be therapists working with the Gottman approach to couples' therapy.

They are both internationally renowned options, both grounded in good psychotherapy models. So my advice would be to use the type of therapy as a starting point and to find a practicing therapist (f.i. by using the "find a therapist" tabs), and see a few to see who connects best for you both. Hope this is of help.
posted by Dutchmeisje at 5:01 AM on June 21, 2015

You might want to call Ackerman Institute for the Family.

It is a training institute that has, I believe, an excellent reputation. You can see one of their therapists-in-training, who are well-supervised. But you can also ask them to refer you to Ackerman-trained therapists who are now in private practice, and I believe that if you tell them your insurance, they can limit their recommendations to therapists who are in-network for you.

Fyi, my husband, daughter, and I had family therapy at Ackerman, to work on typical young-adult-still-living-at-home issues. The therapist we were assigned to was not brand new; she already had a practice of her own, but had come to Ackerman for further training. I think it was helpful, but the downside was that when the therapist graduated, our time with her ended. I guess we could have followed her into her private practice, but her office location was not at all convenient for us, whereas Ackerman was walking distance. We also could have switched to a new therapist at Ackerman, but we felt that the 20 or so weeks that we had with the one therapist were helpful, and felt ready to graduate ourselves at that point.

So while I thought seeing a therapist at Ackerman, who was going through their training, was helpful, I would also recommend calling them for a referral to an Ackerman-trained therapist in private practice.

Fyi, our insurance is different from yours, but Ackerman was in-network for us, and we paid only a $20 co-pay for each session.
posted by merejane at 7:21 AM on June 21, 2015

I would recommend Jennifer Fleming
posted by paul_smatatoes at 9:15 AM on June 22, 2015

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