Sex Therapists/Counselors in Seattle?
January 8, 2008 12:31 AM Subscribe
Short version: sex therapists/counselors in Seattle?, WA [Slightly longer version after the break]
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (8 answers total)
Long version: I have a bigger sex drive than my girlfriend. Not immensely higher, but we have sex, on average, once or twice a week and I would (like many men, I assume) prefer to have sex more often.
I end up associating sex with intimacy and closeness, and whenever we don't have sex (even if it's for a completely rational reason, such as one of us being sick or just not having enough time), I end up feeling rejected. Immensely so. To the point of me lying awake that night in tears, just wanting that sex.
I've come to realize that my attitude is probably damaging to our relationship, in more ways than one. This may ultimately come down to a question of libido (as in, how best to deal with differing sex drives). My girlfriend has been immensely supportive, but at this point she has done all she can and I feel like I need some outside help.
Which brings me to my question: where should I be looking? I'm assuming that this is the kind of thing a sex therapist would deal with, but if there are other resources out there, I'd be glad to look at them. I am open to one-on-one sessions and/or sessions with my girlfriend there. Specific and/or personal recommendations are great [again, for therapists or counselors in the Seattle area].
Finally -- I don't know how these sorts of things work, but I am insured through Premera Blue Cross. Can insurance cover some of the fees associated with this kind of therapy or counseling?
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P.S. I realize that this may be a pretty common problem, and it sounds like your garden variety "I want this more than she does" question. I assure you that it's not. Responses that suggest that I find a sexual surrogate, masturbate more often, or DTMFA are not really what I'm looking for.