What is involved in a Catholic wedding couples consultation?
February 26, 2007 7:59 PM Subscribe
Pre-marriage Catholic priest consultation - what to expect?
posted by anonymous to Religion & Philosophy (29 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I am an atheist. My girlfriend is from a Catholic family. Apparently, Catholic wedding services require (or strongly expect) the couple to visit a priest beforehand and get some kind of approval. This approval takes the form of some signed document. This is a couple months out, but what should I expect from such a meeting? Do I need to hold my tongue with regard to my religious beliefs, or lack thereof?
In general, I am not especially good at asking authority figures for their permission. I do not share what seems to be a fundamental element of some religions; having respect for someone based only on their position or title. Respect, to me, is earned on a personal level. I seem to be in the minority in this regard. Naturally, I expect this might present some problems, since by default I have no more respect for the priest we meet than any other person I would meet during my day.
Privacy-wise, I am not too keen on someone asking me questions along the lines of "How do you plan on raising children?" This question is out of line coming from a stranger, which is what the priest would be to me. However, I expect such a response may be unwelcome.
Lastly, as far as politics go, I am not likely to share much common ground with the priest. It's possible, but unlikely. Therefore, any questions along these lines would also be unwelcome.
Indeed, this is my main problem: I can't think of any questions about my future marriage that I'd like to discuss with a stranger.
Practically: What does such a meeting entail? What questions or subject matters should I expect?
Philosophically: Should I consent to such a meeting? Is it actually required? My girlfriend and her family are intent on having a Catholic service, though not one including a mass. This doesn't bother me. However, a direct questioning that could end badly would put this process into jeopardy.
I am not interested in lying to placate the priest. Any suggestions you have would be very helpful.