Help me overcome my fears
November 13, 2006 2:20 PM Subscribe
How can I stop being so scared?
posted by elquien to Human Relations (24 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I feel really stupid even asking this question, but here goes. As I get older, I find myself more and more being scared of totally irrational things. For example, the thought of being alone in the woods terrifies me, as does sleeping in the woods. While this probably stems partially from the “normal” fears of bears, getting lost, etc., what terrifies me is the thought of psycho killers/homicidal maniacs waiting in the woods to kill me. Another example: it’s really difficult for me to be alone at night in homes (I live in an apartment, which isn’t nearly as scary for me), because every noise I hear or shadow I see leads me to believe that someone or something is in the home. I am generally a completely rational and collected person, but I can somehow convince myself that every little creak or rattle is a crazy killer waiting for me in the basement. Basically, my brain creates scary/creepy scenarios, and I’m apparently unable to separate what could happen from what actually might happen.
Why is this important? Well, it’s starting to affect my life. I can’t go camping with friends because just the thought of it strikes fear in my heart. It’s very difficult for me to spend time alone at night at my significant other’s house, and I definitely can’t go into the basement. I’d like to own a home someday, but the thought of someone being able to break in scares me to death.
So I guess I’m looking for personal anecdotes or advice that anyone can offer. It’s not so bad that I think I need a therapist at this point (it doesn’t have a huge impact on my life), but I’d like to be able to think less, I guess. How do you address and/or deal with your fears (not necessarily just the ones I have)?