How to deal
June 15, 2006 4:46 PM Subscribe
How should one deal with an irrational co-worker with whom one is having an argument?
posted by worstkidever to Human Relations (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I got into an argument today with a co-worker over a project we are working on. I entered the conversation with intentions of listening and comming to consensus, but none of his statements were based in fact. Every time I tried to get a quantitative fact for a claim he was making, he would evade and make another unsupportable statement based on his frustration levels. He was all over the map. He would launch into speeches and discount my opinion without countering it. I became angry, and got stuck engaging him on his terms. I've seen him do this before, and swore I would never let him frame the conversation. This guy is really not a bad guy, he just can't seem to distinguish between a logical argument and an emotional, impulsive argument.
I have a meeting with him and some others on the same subject next week and expect some of the same. I want to force him to be rational and reasonable or to shut up; without resorting to anger or acting like a jerk. Any suggestions on how to make this happen would be welcome.