Why do men suck at flirting?
October 18, 2018 7:46 PM Subscribe
This is more of a request for thoughts than a need for specific advice.
I'm a man. I consider myself queer, for the sake of simplicity, but in the practical sense I'm not terribly far from straight either. Women don't flirt with me, in general. When they do? It's felicitous, effortless, and effective. Women are good at flirting. Men flirt with me more often than women, and they suck at it. They talk funny, and put a lot of effort into talking, and forget the normal rules for talking. I don't mean in a disrespectful way, but just in a structural way. You can sear a steak on a man's nerves when he's trying to flirt. And he's trying to make me like him, but (poor guy) his methods just make me uncomfortable.
Bits about me that might provide context for my flirtation atmosphere: I get Dressed in the morning, I've been told maybe I'm intimidating, but I'm soft-spoken and deliberate if not repressed in my manner of speaking except in debate, average height (not intimidating,) I make plenty of eye contact (unless I really like them and I don't know if they do) and my posture could use some work. I don't smile much.
I'm a man. I consider myself queer, for the sake of simplicity, but in the practical sense I'm not terribly far from straight either. Women don't flirt with me, in general. When they do? It's felicitous, effortless, and effective. Women are good at flirting. Men flirt with me more often than women, and they suck at it. They talk funny, and put a lot of effort into talking, and forget the normal rules for talking. I don't mean in a disrespectful way, but just in a structural way. You can sear a steak on a man's nerves when he's trying to flirt. And he's trying to make me like him, but (poor guy) his methods just make me uncomfortable.
Bits about me that might provide context for my flirtation atmosphere: I get Dressed in the morning, I've been told maybe I'm intimidating, but I'm soft-spoken and deliberate if not repressed in my manner of speaking except in debate, average height (not intimidating,) I make plenty of eye contact (unless I really like them and I don't know if they do) and my posture could use some work. I don't smile much.
This post was deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this really is mostly just a "thoughts?" thing and not looking to try and work out a solution to a specific problem, it's pretty far into chatfilter territory. -- cortex
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