Why is my mother so against my tattoo?
July 22, 2018 10:23 AM Subscribe
Alright, so I got a tattoo yesterday, and let's just say yesterday was a rocky day at my home. My father got into a huge fight with my brother and my mother was having some issues of her own. Needless, to say yesterday was a happy day for me, it was my first tattoo, I have been wanting it for almost 8 years now and I planned for months now.
This tattoo means a lot to me and I'm very happy that I got it. I even went the extra mile and paid my tattoo artist an extra $40 dollars, it took me forever to find someone who did things properly, I went to a lot of places with a bunch of people that I didn't really like.
Before I decided to get my tattoo I told both of my parents, my mother reacted terribly. My father didn't like the idea but he was glad I trusted and respected him enough to tell him beforehand. My mother threw a tantrum, she tried to pin it on my father saying that he would kick me out, then she said something about ink getting into the lymph nodes or nonsense or whatever and finally she tried to use fear mongering to try and dissuade me from doing. I feel this is some the worst emotional manipulation I have ever experienced. I cannot believe my own mother would do this. She went through my things to find out when I was going to get my tattoo. Even yesterday, the day I got my tattoo, she tried to guilt trip me into not getting it by using the dad excuse again.
I feel that she broke my trust and that this behavior is unacceptable. She doesn't know what this meant to me, or why I did it. I have gone through a lot of psychological issues and the reason why I got it has a lot to do with that. She doesn't know that but even if she knew she would dismiss it as nonsense. I don't think I will ever tell her why I got this tattoo, she does not deserve to know.
To her it should just be ink on a skin but its not she always has to make everything bigger than they should be. No, she has to try and make me unhappy about something I feel happy about. Well she can keep trying, I will not let her make me feel this way.
Honestly I don't think I'm a different person because of getting that tattoo but I think things have changed forever.
Before I decided to get my tattoo I told both of my parents, my mother reacted terribly. My father didn't like the idea but he was glad I trusted and respected him enough to tell him beforehand. My mother threw a tantrum, she tried to pin it on my father saying that he would kick me out, then she said something about ink getting into the lymph nodes or nonsense or whatever and finally she tried to use fear mongering to try and dissuade me from doing. I feel this is some the worst emotional manipulation I have ever experienced. I cannot believe my own mother would do this. She went through my things to find out when I was going to get my tattoo. Even yesterday, the day I got my tattoo, she tried to guilt trip me into not getting it by using the dad excuse again.
I feel that she broke my trust and that this behavior is unacceptable. She doesn't know what this meant to me, or why I did it. I have gone through a lot of psychological issues and the reason why I got it has a lot to do with that. She doesn't know that but even if she knew she would dismiss it as nonsense. I don't think I will ever tell her why I got this tattoo, she does not deserve to know.
To her it should just be ink on a skin but its not she always has to make everything bigger than they should be. No, she has to try and make me unhappy about something I feel happy about. Well she can keep trying, I will not let her make me feel this way.
Honestly I don't think I'm a different person because of getting that tattoo but I think things have changed forever.
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