Dealing with local harassment. Would like to implement legal boundaries.
November 19, 2017 4:07 PM Subscribe
Group of creeps harassing me in my city. Don't wish to file a police report- do wish to incite boundaries, potential legal restrictions. What are my options? Please help.
Hi.
In the past year, I've dealt with harassment from a small, petty social circle in my city. Most of the time I could go with ignoring a lot of the nonsense that comes from a group of weird, destructive thirty year olds, but over the past six months, it had gotten a bit worse.
Some of the following has occurred:
- Someone I was interested in momentarily, romantically, installed a phone mirroring application on my cell while I was sleeping, and essentially recorded all of my activity for about 8mos. This includes sexual material. Or just me, going to the bathroom, because I totally, occasionally bring my phone with.
- One woman in particular, was visiting establishments I worked, and deliberately seeking out friends, or friendly acquaintances of mine, to share videos of my private life, to intentionally slander me.
- One of these clowns joked about placing a GPS tracker on my personal vehicle, and may have actually done so. Still awaiting results.
- I'm fairly certain a website exists somewhere, with some of this material uploaded on it. I've seen excerpts, but I'm uncertain exactly where to place it.
Sounds really cool, and fun, right?
Normally this is something I'd consider a little too insane, and dodge- but now I need to do something about it. I've been in consistent legal contact with lawyers, which is a bit slow- so I'm waiting in the mean time. I've also written two of these individuals personal cease and desist letters(admittable in a court of law, regarded as the first step toward a C+D order from a lawyer, and perhaps then-on, a restraining order, etc.). I don't wish to ruin these people's lives(they're clearly a little.. off balance, to begin with)- but I do wish to slap them in the face legally, and place a firm boundary between they and I- so my personal, and creative space and work is protected.
I am utterly serious about all of this. None of it is a joke, and none of it is paranoia. I saved the phone that my activity had been recorded on. I have some records referencing the rest(message exchange, witness from other friends, etc.).
..What can I do? Begrudgingly, some of this experience has pushed me toward my wit's end, it's clear it needs amendment.
Please offer any and all advice, especially for a person in their late twenties, with not much money, who would mostly like to relay their time to other varieties of work, and supporting themselves. I don't particularly wish to make a police report(and have not, though I've spoken with police officers a few times), as I don't wish for this to completely absorb my life- and honestly, these individuals are total creeps, but I don't want to incapacitate them- I just want them to stay the hell away from me. I just want boundaries, and to put out the fire.
Thank you for reading, and your efforts. I may continue to take answers to DM, as I have been using a proxy, and wish to keep matters private, despite using an internet forum.
Hi.
In the past year, I've dealt with harassment from a small, petty social circle in my city. Most of the time I could go with ignoring a lot of the nonsense that comes from a group of weird, destructive thirty year olds, but over the past six months, it had gotten a bit worse.
Some of the following has occurred:
- Someone I was interested in momentarily, romantically, installed a phone mirroring application on my cell while I was sleeping, and essentially recorded all of my activity for about 8mos. This includes sexual material. Or just me, going to the bathroom, because I totally, occasionally bring my phone with.
- One woman in particular, was visiting establishments I worked, and deliberately seeking out friends, or friendly acquaintances of mine, to share videos of my private life, to intentionally slander me.
- One of these clowns joked about placing a GPS tracker on my personal vehicle, and may have actually done so. Still awaiting results.
- I'm fairly certain a website exists somewhere, with some of this material uploaded on it. I've seen excerpts, but I'm uncertain exactly where to place it.
Sounds really cool, and fun, right?
Normally this is something I'd consider a little too insane, and dodge- but now I need to do something about it. I've been in consistent legal contact with lawyers, which is a bit slow- so I'm waiting in the mean time. I've also written two of these individuals personal cease and desist letters(admittable in a court of law, regarded as the first step toward a C+D order from a lawyer, and perhaps then-on, a restraining order, etc.). I don't wish to ruin these people's lives(they're clearly a little.. off balance, to begin with)- but I do wish to slap them in the face legally, and place a firm boundary between they and I- so my personal, and creative space and work is protected.
I am utterly serious about all of this. None of it is a joke, and none of it is paranoia. I saved the phone that my activity had been recorded on. I have some records referencing the rest(message exchange, witness from other friends, etc.).
..What can I do? Begrudgingly, some of this experience has pushed me toward my wit's end, it's clear it needs amendment.
Please offer any and all advice, especially for a person in their late twenties, with not much money, who would mostly like to relay their time to other varieties of work, and supporting themselves. I don't particularly wish to make a police report(and have not, though I've spoken with police officers a few times), as I don't wish for this to completely absorb my life- and honestly, these individuals are total creeps, but I don't want to incapacitate them- I just want them to stay the hell away from me. I just want boundaries, and to put out the fire.
Thank you for reading, and your efforts. I may continue to take answers to DM, as I have been using a proxy, and wish to keep matters private, despite using an internet forum.
This post was deleted for the following reason: I don't think this is something AskMe can help you with, and taking answers to DM isn't an appropriate way to engage with the forum. -- Eyebrows McGee
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posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 4:18 PM on November 19, 2017