How do I resolve these issues in my life?
February 2, 2015 11:53 AM Subscribe
Hi there,
I have thought about my life up till today and I would like to share it with you to see what your thoughts are. Maybe you have been in such a situation and you were able to solve it,if you could help me with getting out of this cycle that I can't resolve by myself, I would really appreciate it.
1. Dealing with rude people
Im really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. Sometimes they would get angry at me out of the blue and for I don't know what reason??? This makes me want to punch them or tell them off as they were being ridiculously angry at me.
How can I deal with it and not be boiling with rage? No wonder, I am becoming such and angry person.
When this happens to me, i don't know where to put this anger and annoyance. Like why am I wronged for something I did not do. Sometimes I internalize this anger and it stresses me a lot and gives me a lot of bitterness and annoyance for life. I do not know how to control that anger that was put on me and it affects me mentally and physically.
I know that rude people are everywhere and I will certainly come across them again but how do I learn how to live with as these rude people are not going to change.
I am tired of those rude and condescending people who don't treat me well. It takes a lot of energy and i constantly think about them and how i should have talked to them and even if i know it is not worth it, I waste too much fighting the injustices that can't be fought.
2. Past hurt
I find it hard to let go of the past hurts, disappointments. How to let go?
3. Constant sadness
I am constantly demotivated, sad, stressed, bored and i have lost joy in life. I carry this emotional burden that i can't get rid of. And i keep thinking that another bad thing will happen to me.
4. Strong emotions
My emotions are quite strong and sometimes I don't know how to control them. For instance, i get those negative feelings like anger, irritation and sadness and suicide thoughts that can stay a while on my mind and then I have to stay really strong and say "this too shall pass" so those feelings go away. It is not easy for me to stay grounded and to stay strong continually with such overwhelmingly negative emotions. Sometimes, i have to wait for more than 1 day so that these negative feelings fade away but this is ruining my emotional state. Why can't I just forget these bad events fast and move on and just be happy?
Sometimes when i feel in distressed, i do not know who to turn to. I feel so bad and so much sadness about life and my current situation and because I don't see any hope. Sometimes, because i am in so much pain, i have to drink alcohol and sleep for hours so that i forget this pain.
5. Forgiving people
I find it extremely hard to forgive people. Even if I do pray and ask God to forgive and bless them, i just find it so hard to forgive them. If a friend betrays me, i find it harder to become friends again and I prefer not being friends anymore unless we both are willing to solve it.
6. Conflicts at work
How to deal with conflicts at work?
7. Embarassment
I get embarassed when someone gets angry or criticises me in public. And i don't know how to deal with this hurt.
8. Work
Since I left uni 7 years ago, I lost 5 jobs, all of which had their reasons and it makes me so fed up as to why I couldn't stay in one same job as long as I could. Why is it that there has to be something that happened at work? It could be either financial, difficulty dealing with colleagues, unfit job reasons. This makes me not want to apply for a job as I fear that another bad event will happen and I will have to lose my job again and looking for a job is not easy.
9. Future
Due to all these problems, I have lost hope and joy living here despite the fact that I get unemployment benefits, good transport and other amenities. The fact that this year I am going to be 30 years old and that I am unemployed, have no good friends and no boyfriend means that I am a complete failure and that I am doomed.
10. Relationships
I had had 2 major breakups with my 2 ex-bfs and I dated other guys but they didn't go well. The last date I had was last year when I was about to begin a relationship with a guy but then just before we were about to become official, problems occur. Problems such as I was being scared to start a relationship with him because he was 3 years younger than me; I couldn't trust him; I couldn't feel at ease with him. Even if we knew each other for less than 3 months, the breakup was so painful and heartbreaking that I told myself that I would stay single and if ever someone were to be interested in me, I would have to befriend him for at least 6 months.
11. Friends
I have friends but no close friends and I feel lonely and sad. The last close friend who I thought was my closest friend got angry at me because I had too many issues at work and she told me that she cannot be my crutch. I understand that she cannot be there for me all the time but why is it that she was not honest with me back then when I was in trouble instead of telling me that she doesn’t like when I call her if I have problems. I felt betrayed as she was not honest with me and had she told me, that she cannot listen to me, I would have respected her decision.
12. Everyday, I am by myself and I feel sad and mostly bored. I used to go out and meet people but after all those problems and hurts, it seems like every people I interact with will let me down and hurt me sooner or later. I do not know who to turn to and it makes me wonder if life is meant to be like this.
Conclusion
What i really really want is to be happy, to get my joy, my laughter back. To love life.
Not to be affected by other people putting me down or being mean to me. To have a good stable life with good friends. And when there is another setback that happens to me, that it does not affect me this much and that I can forget and forgive easily.
1. Dealing with rude people
Im really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. Sometimes they would get angry at me out of the blue and for I don't know what reason??? This makes me want to punch them or tell them off as they were being ridiculously angry at me.
How can I deal with it and not be boiling with rage? No wonder, I am becoming such and angry person.
When this happens to me, i don't know where to put this anger and annoyance. Like why am I wronged for something I did not do. Sometimes I internalize this anger and it stresses me a lot and gives me a lot of bitterness and annoyance for life. I do not know how to control that anger that was put on me and it affects me mentally and physically.
I know that rude people are everywhere and I will certainly come across them again but how do I learn how to live with as these rude people are not going to change.
I am tired of those rude and condescending people who don't treat me well. It takes a lot of energy and i constantly think about them and how i should have talked to them and even if i know it is not worth it, I waste too much fighting the injustices that can't be fought.
2. Past hurt
I find it hard to let go of the past hurts, disappointments. How to let go?
3. Constant sadness
I am constantly demotivated, sad, stressed, bored and i have lost joy in life. I carry this emotional burden that i can't get rid of. And i keep thinking that another bad thing will happen to me.
4. Strong emotions
My emotions are quite strong and sometimes I don't know how to control them. For instance, i get those negative feelings like anger, irritation and sadness and suicide thoughts that can stay a while on my mind and then I have to stay really strong and say "this too shall pass" so those feelings go away. It is not easy for me to stay grounded and to stay strong continually with such overwhelmingly negative emotions. Sometimes, i have to wait for more than 1 day so that these negative feelings fade away but this is ruining my emotional state. Why can't I just forget these bad events fast and move on and just be happy?
Sometimes when i feel in distressed, i do not know who to turn to. I feel so bad and so much sadness about life and my current situation and because I don't see any hope. Sometimes, because i am in so much pain, i have to drink alcohol and sleep for hours so that i forget this pain.
5. Forgiving people
I find it extremely hard to forgive people. Even if I do pray and ask God to forgive and bless them, i just find it so hard to forgive them. If a friend betrays me, i find it harder to become friends again and I prefer not being friends anymore unless we both are willing to solve it.
6. Conflicts at work
How to deal with conflicts at work?
7. Embarassment
I get embarassed when someone gets angry or criticises me in public. And i don't know how to deal with this hurt.
8. Work
Since I left uni 7 years ago, I lost 5 jobs, all of which had their reasons and it makes me so fed up as to why I couldn't stay in one same job as long as I could. Why is it that there has to be something that happened at work? It could be either financial, difficulty dealing with colleagues, unfit job reasons. This makes me not want to apply for a job as I fear that another bad event will happen and I will have to lose my job again and looking for a job is not easy.
9. Future
Due to all these problems, I have lost hope and joy living here despite the fact that I get unemployment benefits, good transport and other amenities. The fact that this year I am going to be 30 years old and that I am unemployed, have no good friends and no boyfriend means that I am a complete failure and that I am doomed.
10. Relationships
I had had 2 major breakups with my 2 ex-bfs and I dated other guys but they didn't go well. The last date I had was last year when I was about to begin a relationship with a guy but then just before we were about to become official, problems occur. Problems such as I was being scared to start a relationship with him because he was 3 years younger than me; I couldn't trust him; I couldn't feel at ease with him. Even if we knew each other for less than 3 months, the breakup was so painful and heartbreaking that I told myself that I would stay single and if ever someone were to be interested in me, I would have to befriend him for at least 6 months.
11. Friends
I have friends but no close friends and I feel lonely and sad. The last close friend who I thought was my closest friend got angry at me because I had too many issues at work and she told me that she cannot be my crutch. I understand that she cannot be there for me all the time but why is it that she was not honest with me back then when I was in trouble instead of telling me that she doesn’t like when I call her if I have problems. I felt betrayed as she was not honest with me and had she told me, that she cannot listen to me, I would have respected her decision.
12. Everyday, I am by myself and I feel sad and mostly bored. I used to go out and meet people but after all those problems and hurts, it seems like every people I interact with will let me down and hurt me sooner or later. I do not know who to turn to and sometimes I wonder why do I have such a miserable life. I am scared that these events such as losing a job again, a breakup, getting betrayed and other bad events will happen to me.
Conclusion
What i really really want is to be happy, to get my joy, my laughter back. To love life.
Not to be affected by other people putting me down or being mean to me. To have a good stable life with good friends. And when there is another setback that happens to me, that it does not affect me this much and that I can forget and forgive easily.
1. Dealing with rude people
Im really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. Sometimes they would get angry at me out of the blue and for I don't know what reason??? This makes me want to punch them or tell them off as they were being ridiculously angry at me.
How can I deal with it and not be boiling with rage? No wonder, I am becoming such and angry person.
When this happens to me, i don't know where to put this anger and annoyance. Like why am I wronged for something I did not do. Sometimes I internalize this anger and it stresses me a lot and gives me a lot of bitterness and annoyance for life. I do not know how to control that anger that was put on me and it affects me mentally and physically.
I know that rude people are everywhere and I will certainly come across them again but how do I learn how to live with as these rude people are not going to change.
I am tired of those rude and condescending people who don't treat me well. It takes a lot of energy and i constantly think about them and how i should have talked to them and even if i know it is not worth it, I waste too much fighting the injustices that can't be fought.
2. Past hurt
I find it hard to let go of the past hurts, disappointments. How to let go?
3. Constant sadness
I am constantly demotivated, sad, stressed, bored and i have lost joy in life. I carry this emotional burden that i can't get rid of. And i keep thinking that another bad thing will happen to me.
4. Strong emotions
My emotions are quite strong and sometimes I don't know how to control them. For instance, i get those negative feelings like anger, irritation and sadness and suicide thoughts that can stay a while on my mind and then I have to stay really strong and say "this too shall pass" so those feelings go away. It is not easy for me to stay grounded and to stay strong continually with such overwhelmingly negative emotions. Sometimes, i have to wait for more than 1 day so that these negative feelings fade away but this is ruining my emotional state. Why can't I just forget these bad events fast and move on and just be happy?
Sometimes when i feel in distressed, i do not know who to turn to. I feel so bad and so much sadness about life and my current situation and because I don't see any hope. Sometimes, because i am in so much pain, i have to drink alcohol and sleep for hours so that i forget this pain.
5. Forgiving people
I find it extremely hard to forgive people. Even if I do pray and ask God to forgive and bless them, i just find it so hard to forgive them. If a friend betrays me, i find it harder to become friends again and I prefer not being friends anymore unless we both are willing to solve it.
6. Conflicts at work
How to deal with conflicts at work?
7. Embarassment
I get embarassed when someone gets angry or criticises me in public. And i don't know how to deal with this hurt.
8. Work
Since I left uni 7 years ago, I lost 5 jobs, all of which had their reasons and it makes me so fed up as to why I couldn't stay in one same job as long as I could. Why is it that there has to be something that happened at work? It could be either financial, difficulty dealing with colleagues, unfit job reasons. This makes me not want to apply for a job as I fear that another bad event will happen and I will have to lose my job again and looking for a job is not easy.
9. Future
Due to all these problems, I have lost hope and joy living here despite the fact that I get unemployment benefits, good transport and other amenities. The fact that this year I am going to be 30 years old and that I am unemployed, have no good friends and no boyfriend means that I am a complete failure and that I am doomed.
10. Relationships
I had had 2 major breakups with my 2 ex-bfs and I dated other guys but they didn't go well. The last date I had was last year when I was about to begin a relationship with a guy but then just before we were about to become official, problems occur. Problems such as I was being scared to start a relationship with him because he was 3 years younger than me; I couldn't trust him; I couldn't feel at ease with him. Even if we knew each other for less than 3 months, the breakup was so painful and heartbreaking that I told myself that I would stay single and if ever someone were to be interested in me, I would have to befriend him for at least 6 months.
11. Friends
I have friends but no close friends and I feel lonely and sad. The last close friend who I thought was my closest friend got angry at me because I had too many issues at work and she told me that she cannot be my crutch. I understand that she cannot be there for me all the time but why is it that she was not honest with me back then when I was in trouble instead of telling me that she doesn’t like when I call her if I have problems. I felt betrayed as she was not honest with me and had she told me, that she cannot listen to me, I would have respected her decision.
12. Everyday, I am by myself and I feel sad and mostly bored. I used to go out and meet people but after all those problems and hurts, it seems like every people I interact with will let me down and hurt me sooner or later. I do not know who to turn to and it makes me wonder if life is meant to be like this.
Conclusion
What i really really want is to be happy, to get my joy, my laughter back. To love life.
Not to be affected by other people putting me down or being mean to me. To have a good stable life with good friends. And when there is another setback that happens to me, that it does not affect me this much and that I can forget and forgive easily.
1. Dealing with rude people
Im really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. Sometimes they would get angry at me out of the blue and for I don't know what reason??? This makes me want to punch them or tell them off as they were being ridiculously angry at me.
How can I deal with it and not be boiling with rage? No wonder, I am becoming such and angry person.
When this happens to me, i don't know where to put this anger and annoyance. Like why am I wronged for something I did not do. Sometimes I internalize this anger and it stresses me a lot and gives me a lot of bitterness and annoyance for life. I do not know how to control that anger that was put on me and it affects me mentally and physically.
I know that rude people are everywhere and I will certainly come across them again but how do I learn how to live with as these rude people are not going to change.
I am tired of those rude and condescending people who don't treat me well. It takes a lot of energy and i constantly think about them and how i should have talked to them and even if i know it is not worth it, I waste too much fighting the injustices that can't be fought.
2. Past hurt
I find it hard to let go of the past hurts, disappointments. How to let go?
3. Constant sadness
I am constantly demotivated, sad, stressed, bored and i have lost joy in life. I carry this emotional burden that i can't get rid of. And i keep thinking that another bad thing will happen to me.
4. Strong emotions
My emotions are quite strong and sometimes I don't know how to control them. For instance, i get those negative feelings like anger, irritation and sadness and suicide thoughts that can stay a while on my mind and then I have to stay really strong and say "this too shall pass" so those feelings go away. It is not easy for me to stay grounded and to stay strong continually with such overwhelmingly negative emotions. Sometimes, i have to wait for more than 1 day so that these negative feelings fade away but this is ruining my emotional state. Why can't I just forget these bad events fast and move on and just be happy?
Sometimes when i feel in distressed, i do not know who to turn to. I feel so bad and so much sadness about life and my current situation and because I don't see any hope. Sometimes, because i am in so much pain, i have to drink alcohol and sleep for hours so that i forget this pain.
5. Forgiving people
I find it extremely hard to forgive people. Even if I do pray and ask God to forgive and bless them, i just find it so hard to forgive them. If a friend betrays me, i find it harder to become friends again and I prefer not being friends anymore unless we both are willing to solve it.
6. Conflicts at work
How to deal with conflicts at work?
7. Embarassment
I get embarassed when someone gets angry or criticises me in public. And i don't know how to deal with this hurt.
8. Work
Since I left uni 7 years ago, I lost 5 jobs, all of which had their reasons and it makes me so fed up as to why I couldn't stay in one same job as long as I could. Why is it that there has to be something that happened at work? It could be either financial, difficulty dealing with colleagues, unfit job reasons. This makes me not want to apply for a job as I fear that another bad event will happen and I will have to lose my job again and looking for a job is not easy.
9. Future
Due to all these problems, I have lost hope and joy living here despite the fact that I get unemployment benefits, good transport and other amenities. The fact that this year I am going to be 30 years old and that I am unemployed, have no good friends and no boyfriend means that I am a complete failure and that I am doomed.
10. Relationships
I had had 2 major breakups with my 2 ex-bfs and I dated other guys but they didn't go well. The last date I had was last year when I was about to begin a relationship with a guy but then just before we were about to become official, problems occur. Problems such as I was being scared to start a relationship with him because he was 3 years younger than me; I couldn't trust him; I couldn't feel at ease with him. Even if we knew each other for less than 3 months, the breakup was so painful and heartbreaking that I told myself that I would stay single and if ever someone were to be interested in me, I would have to befriend him for at least 6 months.
11. Friends
I have friends but no close friends and I feel lonely and sad. The last close friend who I thought was my closest friend got angry at me because I had too many issues at work and she told me that she cannot be my crutch. I understand that she cannot be there for me all the time but why is it that she was not honest with me back then when I was in trouble instead of telling me that she doesn’t like when I call her if I have problems. I felt betrayed as she was not honest with me and had she told me, that she cannot listen to me, I would have respected her decision.
12. Everyday, I am by myself and I feel sad and mostly bored. I used to go out and meet people but after all those problems and hurts, it seems like every people I interact with will let me down and hurt me sooner or later. I do not know who to turn to and sometimes I wonder why do I have such a miserable life. I am scared that these events such as losing a job again, a breakup, getting betrayed and other bad events will happen to me.
Conclusion
What i really really want is to be happy, to get my joy, my laughter back. To love life.
Not to be affected by other people putting me down or being mean to me. To have a good stable life with good friends. And when there is another setback that happens to me, that it does not affect me this much and that I can forget and forgive easily.
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