What kind of routine should I have for my baby? Also - spoiling?
August 9, 2014 9:37 AM Subscribe
I have a great four month old daughter. Due to a weird timing situation, both my husband and I have been home with her for the last four months, sharing duties. Also due to weird timing, we are moving around a lot. Our kid has no routine right now, and I'm started to think my mom is right that we're spoiling her. Help?
Our daughter was born in April; we moved in June to a few different temporary places when our lease ran out, and then we're moving again in a month to our (hopefully final) city, but also in temporary accommodation until we get to know the city & find a longer term place. All for a job relocation.
Yes, I am going crazy.
Anyway, we don't have any kind of routine or schedule for our daughter. Well, not entirely true -- she eats on demand (exclusively breastfed), takes naps when we can get her down when we see she's sleepy, plays on her activity mat. She's sleeping terribly, and we've started co-sleeping, which I wouldn't do if I was so desperate, in the name of sanity. I'm starting to think some kind of routine would be much better for all of us, esp, since everything else changes so much (house, bed, etc.). The only real stability she has is to enthusiastic parents around her all the time (no outside babysitters.)
So what do you do with your infant all day? I'm open to anything, and I need new ideas. How strict are you with it? How did it benefit you/your kid? Now that we're out of the fourth trimester period of "let's just keep this kid alive" I'm stumped as to what we should be doing all day, and when.
Bonus question: when we've stayed with my parents, all my mother talks about is that she's spoiled. She wants to be held a lot, and my mother says she won't go to sleep because she wants to be near us. Also, she thinks the no routine thing is also spoiling. I told her you can't spoil an infant, but now I'm second guessing myself. I feel like everything is entirely in the baby's control now, and I'm not sure that's healthy -- and it's not what we want in the long run.
Help? Book suggestions, pep talks, etc. also very welcome.