How do I make peace with winter?
May 10, 2014 4:00 PM Subscribe
I grew up in Wisconsin, and have hated winter for most my life. As a kid it was okay, but since being a teen I was sure that I'd move out to a part of the country that had mild winters. Recent years though, I've come to realize I don't want to move away from friends, and I actually like parts of the city and am starting to see myself growing old here.
I just really really hate winter. Can I come to terms with my hate of winter and my new found love of the area?
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For me that means half of the year I'm cranky and cold. I dislike winter outdoor activities, and even going out in the cold to get to indoor activities makes me angry. I become a hermit. This past winter has been especially enlightening into the idea that I have a real mental issue with the cold. Part of it is health related, but even when I didn't have health problems, I just disliked most everything that comes with winter. The cold, the driving, snow removal, scraping ice of the car, you name it. All feel like a personal slight. I'm particularly pissy about the inability to do the summer activities I enjoy. I don't completely hate snow related activities for their own sake (say, sledding or skiing), but I hate being cold and no amount of winter clothing seems to help with that. Everything is harder, going about your daily business is a slog.
Even if I don't live here forever (part of me still wants to be closer to the ocean), I at least am going to be here for the next few years. I feel like I have to get past this because losing half a year because of a bad attitude isn't healthy.
I do like a few things about winter. Snow in small doses is okay; I love the first snowfall, and it's fun to snuggle up with a good book when there is a blizzard raging outside. I love buying and wearing winter clothing. I'd probably be fine with winter if it was a month long. Places I've wanted to move to are those that do have winter that consists of a couple dustings of snow. But for me, winter is much better as some place to visit than to live it all the time.
I'm sure part of it is my lifelong bad attitude towards winter, but I'm not sure how to get past that. I think it's become irrational at this point. The specter of winter coming back in as little as 7 months hangs over my head now in early spring.
I'm hoping for suggestions on how to deal with my mindset and maybe change my mind. Suggestions to go out and partake in winter activities probably aren't going to help, I am quite irrational about avoiding cold at this point and I've tried, all I do is find a reason not to go.