Reacting Emotionally to work
January 16, 2014 4:17 PM Subscribe
I'm a bit overwhelmed about how emotionally I am reacting to a situation at work. What are coping strategies I can use to deal with things tomorrow, and for the near short term.
posted by larthegreat to Work & Money (20 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I work in a high pressure, fast paced job, and I've excelled at it. Its never been something I liked (or even wanted to do), but damn it, I do well, I get paid well, and I work with smart people and generally interesting problems. Until recently every year I've either been handsomely rewarded for my work, or promoted.
About a year and a half ago I switched companies, and do the same thing, but managing a team. I got hired at a slightly lower level than I wanted, but assured I'd be promoted within the year; last year's bonus was rock solid, got a raise 4 months in, everything seemed to be on track. 2013 was the year larthegreat busted her ass for the new company- crazy team turnover, insane bosses, ridiculous business demands, yea I got it, did it and got praise from all sides. Up until 2 weeks ago- when I found out that the long promised/supposedly guaranteed promotion was no longer really in the cards. fine. dealt with it. Still have the same responsibilities, still managing a team.
This past week we found out about comp/who did get promoted. Turns out I was the only person in my division who was up for promotion who did not get it. Also turns out I have no increase in compensation. Ok, that's less cool, and I'm dissapointed.
My biggest issue is that I'm reacting to this extremely emotionally. I had to leave work early today because I could not compose myself, and I've been crying on and off since 3pm. I have a headache from this. I'm so frustrated I haven't even managed to feed myself, and pretty amazingly I haven't even had a drink yet.
I very rarely cry, and I very rarely react so emotionally to things. I suspect it's because I busted my ass doing a job I really don't like most of the time, and barely tolerate on the good days, and previously I've always been rewarded for doing so. I've dealt with failure before, but usually I spend some time processing. wrap my head around what happened and what can be done better, and then go and do that.
In any case, I've got meetings with people who made the decision tomorrow. I have to face all of my newly promoted colleagues tomorrow. (and everyone who knew I was up for promotion and didn't make it).
Coping strategies. Please.
I already went for a run today. a crying sniffling run that was gross and sweaty. not sure more exercise will help me tonight. Leaving this particular job is definitely an option, but probably not the industry and not for the next few months