Terrified and sad
August 27, 2013 10:37 AM Subscribe
How to deal with devastating and terrifying news about my unborn baby?
posted by CrazyLemonade to human relations (19 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 13 weeks pregnant and yesterday we went to a very comprehensive ultrasound. We were told our baby almost surely has a congenital diaphragmatic hernia
. We are shocked and terrified about our future prospects and while we have good doctors and know we will have to take this one step at a time, I would like to ask the MeFi community for help about how to deal with this. We are telling our direct family and close friends, but how do we deal with those who know I'm pregnant but are not going to be told about this? How do I deal with my own pregnancy now that I'm filled with fear and most of our planning-for-the-baby illusions have been taken away from us? How do I not shut my husband out, when that's what I tend to do with this sorts of things?
We've had two miscarriages before, both at 8 weeks. Then we had a successful pregnancy and now have a very healthy 18 month-old boy. Yesterday was supposed to be about finding out if everything was in order and see if we could discover the baby's sex. Now I don't know what to do. I appreciate your help in any form, anecdotes, resources, books, whatever. Thanks in advance.