How to treat people who can do nothing for you?
June 6, 2013 12:25 PM Subscribe
My mother sent me a text when I asked what dad had conversed with her that she pleaded me not to speak harshly to him. I was so hurt reading that text because this is the first time ever in my waking life that he has spoken to mom out of my earshot about something he wanted to say to her. He wanted to go back to our town.
I have not made him feel appreciated of his efforts for us coming here and cooking us our daily meals admist our schedules. I can cook myself too, yes even admist a schedule. He comes here because of other personal work concerned with my brother.
He's not exactly a great role model, just an average man who provided the basics to get the family up and running. He doesn't have a single hobby and constantly seeks validation by making small talk with strangers and relatives. He is pained over the rather average career and personality outcome of his only son who makes much less than me when I joined workforce. He's unable to find a match for him.
How can I make a person who can do nothing for me feel appreciated?
I have not made him feel appreciated of his efforts for us coming here and cooking us our daily meals admist our schedules. I can cook myself too, yes even admist a schedule. He comes here because of other personal work concerned with my brother.
He's not exactly a great role model, just an average man who provided the basics to get the family up and running. He doesn't have a single hobby and constantly seeks validation by making small talk with strangers and relatives. He is pained over the rather average career and personality outcome of his only son who makes much less than me when I joined workforce. He's unable to find a match for him.
How can I make a person who can do nothing for me feel appreciated?
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This question doesn't make a whole lot of sense. It's like a few random sentences were pulled from a much longer, more elaborate question.
It sounds like maybe your father is currently living with you and your brother and doesn't feel like you're taking the time to say, "gee, dad, we sure do love having you around every day?"
Because if that's what's happening, taking a moment to stop and hug him and say, "gee, dad, we sure do love having you around every day," even if it's a bit forced, might make all the difference.
posted by phunniemee at 12:31 PM on June 6, 2013
It sounds like maybe your father is currently living with you and your brother and doesn't feel like you're taking the time to say, "gee, dad, we sure do love having you around every day?"
Because if that's what's happening, taking a moment to stop and hug him and say, "gee, dad, we sure do love having you around every day," even if it's a bit forced, might make all the difference.
posted by phunniemee at 12:31 PM on June 6, 2013
Are your parents visiting you from out of town? And your dad said he wants to go back home? And you think he's an asshole?
Am I reading this correctly?
posted by mr_roboto at 12:31 PM on June 6, 2013
Am I reading this correctly?
posted by mr_roboto at 12:31 PM on June 6, 2013
And you're his daughter and your brother (his only son) is considered a disappointment? "Unable to find a match"? Are you from a culture where arranged marriages are typical?
Your question is rather cryptic.
posted by mr_roboto at 12:33 PM on June 6, 2013
Your question is rather cryptic.
posted by mr_roboto at 12:33 PM on June 6, 2013
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posted by small_ruminant at 12:30 PM on June 6, 2013