Creative parenting help needed
June 6, 2013 10:09 AM Subscribe
I would like suggestions regarding an age- and behavior-appropriate punishment for my 14-year old son.
posted by littleflowers to human relations (72 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I just received a call from the assistant principal at my son's middle school advising me that son is suspended for the rest of the school year, which amounts to three full days and two half days. His crime was throwing milk in the cafeteria. (It's normally a ten day suspension, he informed me, and apparently there were more students involved.) My son is currently taking his last exam, and will come home at the end of the day on the bus.
I will take away electronics, including i-pod, x-box and television. We do not have a land line so I will have to find a way for him to keep his cell phone for emergencies when he is home.
Staying at home is going to be a pleasure for him, since he hasn't wanted to go to school at all for the last two weeks. What I want to do is to make the next week (possibly more) as uncomfortable and miserable as possible for him. He can come to my office for a few days. I'm not sure what I should have him do while he is here. I'm looking for creative solutions.
To top it off, the kid is smart as a whip. He just started public school last year, and because they don't recognize the testing standards he had in his other school, he was put in some of the lower scoring classes. What I mean to say is that he is in with students and teachers who in no way challenge him, and his grades have been mediocre. He knows this.
What suggestions do you have for punishing him and teaching him a lesson about consequences of ignoring rules? Honestly, I do realize this isn't the end of the world, and that this will pass, but it's not the first problem he has had with self control/following rules. Also, I don't want him to be happy about not being in school. I want him to WISH he was still at school.
Additional information: Single mom, barely involved dad, elderly grandmother, no other family nearby who can help. I'm on my own here. Also, I love this kid more than anything.
Thanks to all, and if you need any clarification, I'll be checking back periodically.