Persistence pays off?
May 20, 2013 7:09 AM Subscribe
I was having a conversation with an old high school friend I hadn't seen in ages yesterday and we got on the subject of a gal we went to school with. This gal was in love with a guy but all throughout those glorious high school years, he resisted her advances. And then...
...Apparently now they're married, with a baby, living abroad and the happiest people ever!
In high school her persistent insistence that they were right for each other was sort of weird to all of us other judgey teenagers. She was slightly stalk-y in her behavior towards him, made it clear to any- and everyone she would have him, and we all thought she was half silly.
Otherwise, this gal was totally normally (whatever that means in terms of high schoolers). She was popular, smart enough to get tons of scholarships, gorgeous, and a happy nice individual to be around. I had no idea they had married and I was delighted to find that her persistence had paid off and that now my old friend was living a lovely life and was indeed right about how right she and her man were for each other.
So my friend and I were wondering: Is this a one off thing or does, sometimes, persistence pay off? When is persistence okay and not firmly on the You Are A Creeper Scale? I'd always assumed (as did my friend so I know I'm not the only one) that when your initial advances were rebuked in matters of love, you should give up and walk away but apparently that is not always true. For the record, there is no situation in either of our lives where any stories or anecdotes would apply (we're both happily single) but specifically, I'm looking for your tales of that guy / girl you refused to let get away just out of curiosity.
Typically, I view those sorts of romantic ideas about not giving up as sort of hokey and rather weird but I recognize my This Is Odd Meter might be off. After our long, interesting conversation about this sort of thing yesterday, I'm wondering, did persistence in your romantic life (or one of your friend's or family's) pay off? Do you care to share the details?
I know this is the internet so obviously sharing these stories will be out there for all to see but I wanted to also mention that I'll be sharing these with my non-Mefite friend, if that matters at all in regards to what response you feel comfortable giving :).
...Apparently now they're married, with a baby, living abroad and the happiest people ever!
In high school her persistent insistence that they were right for each other was sort of weird to all of us other judgey teenagers. She was slightly stalk-y in her behavior towards him, made it clear to any- and everyone she would have him, and we all thought she was half silly.
Otherwise, this gal was totally normally (whatever that means in terms of high schoolers). She was popular, smart enough to get tons of scholarships, gorgeous, and a happy nice individual to be around. I had no idea they had married and I was delighted to find that her persistence had paid off and that now my old friend was living a lovely life and was indeed right about how right she and her man were for each other.
So my friend and I were wondering: Is this a one off thing or does, sometimes, persistence pay off? When is persistence okay and not firmly on the You Are A Creeper Scale? I'd always assumed (as did my friend so I know I'm not the only one) that when your initial advances were rebuked in matters of love, you should give up and walk away but apparently that is not always true. For the record, there is no situation in either of our lives where any stories or anecdotes would apply (we're both happily single) but specifically, I'm looking for your tales of that guy / girl you refused to let get away just out of curiosity.
Typically, I view those sorts of romantic ideas about not giving up as sort of hokey and rather weird but I recognize my This Is Odd Meter might be off. After our long, interesting conversation about this sort of thing yesterday, I'm wondering, did persistence in your romantic life (or one of your friend's or family's) pay off? Do you care to share the details?
I know this is the internet so obviously sharing these stories will be out there for all to see but I wanted to also mention that I'll be sharing these with my non-Mefite friend, if that matters at all in regards to what response you feel comfortable giving :).
This post was deleted for the following reason: Heya, without a clearer reason for asking this or more concrete result than "I want to hear some anecdotes", this is chatfilter. -- cortex
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