Path to better self-esteem
December 20, 2012 7:10 AM Subscribe
Has anyone here genuinely moved from a sense of low self-esteem to a sense of high-self esteem? How did you do it?
posted by anonymous to human relations (29 answers total) 82 users marked this as a favorite
I am 27 and male.
1. I have read Burns' Feeling Good, and seen several therapists. I work-out regularly and am in the best shape of my life. My diet is reasonably good.
2. I have no sense of self-esteem that is not contingent on approval or success or achievement.
3. In moments of sanity, I recognize that I am - in very plain terms - doing well for myself. (i.e. most people would say that I am on track for a great career)
4. When I see someone doing better than I am (or so I perceive), I feel a tremendous sense of envy.
5. My girlfriend is a few years older than me, and doing very well for herself. In my dark moments, I am cripplingly envious of her and I hate myself for this.
6. I believe that a lot of these feelings have their roots in my own poor sense of internally generated self-worth.
7. I know that whatever I do, there'll always be someone, somewhere doing better than me. I realize that my self-esteem needs to come "from within", otherwise I am doomed to a life of depressed "comparison-shopping".
But how do I do this? Has anyone ever done this? Does this come with age?