Stalking is so 1975
September 4, 2012 8:27 AM Subscribe
How to handle weird notes from apartment neighbor
posted by cartoonella to Society & Culture (68 answers total)
Hubby and I live with our cat in an apartment on the sixth floor of a U-shaped building. The day we moved in a few weeks ago, there was a handwritten note on the floor - someone had shoved it under the door apparently - scolding us that we were leaving our lights on all day and all night, and would we please either turn them off or close the blinds. The note was unsigned, but it had a distinctive handwriting.
We had just moved in, and we figured the light issue was a situation arising from the fact that the unit had been unoccupied for a while. Not our fault! We forgot about it.
Over the summer it got unbearably hot in our place. We eventually bought a portable AC unit, but for a couple of weeks we were just leaving the windows open. The place is a studio, so when the people in the other arm of the U across the way are looking out of their windows into ours, they're seeing our bedroom. We wanted to minimize that as much as possible, so we've been doing what we can to keep the blinds closed but turned at a slight angle so we can still get a bit of circulation.
Yesterday I got home before my hubby and discovered another note on the floor. The paper and handwriting looked similar to the note before. This time it was a super friendly communication:
"Hi, apartment neighbor! I have some extra cans of food I don't need! Let me know if your little black cat could use some of this! Feel free to come over any time! I'm at home in the morning, in the early afternoon, and in the evening, and I'm right across the way from you. Cheers! Barth"
It took me a second to realize that this wasn't our neighbor across the hall, it was the creep who'd left us the first note.
Then I'm thinking: ugh, I'll be he's seen me too! Garden-variety perv, and I'm freaked out thinking that he might have seen me in various stages of undress. And this guy isn't content with just being an anonymous peeping tom - no, now's trying to lure me over there with the promise of free cat food!
I'll be installing some curtains, but in the meantime I don't at all feel safe at home, even with hubby. We were keeping our door open to get a cross breeze, but I won't be doing that anymore. Our relationship with the landlord hasn't been great since we had a late payment, but we're fine otherwise. I've been reluctant to get him involved, but - I really dislike the idea that someone I don't know from Adam is keeping track of me and physically coming over to our unit to shove unwanted notes under the door.
Is it harassment at this point, or? Any thoughts welcome.