Is forgiveness only for the unforgivable?
May 7, 2012 2:28 PM Subscribe
How to forgive yourself and others healthily
posted by grokfest to Society & Culture (21 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
I've been thinking about the concept of forgiveness lately and realized that when I have forgiven someone in the past, I have either:
- not included the problem in question into my idea of who that person is (i.e., ignored/forgotten about it)
- changed the problem into a non-problem by pretending it doesn't present a problem, or convincing myself not to worry about it (i.e., been a doormat or repressed the negative feelings against them)
Neither of these really amounts to what forgiveness should be, but I don't know what healthy forgiveness would look like. I want to hear from you on how to forgive in a productive way that requires neither ignoring the problem or pretending it isn't a problem. What circumstances deserve forgiveness and what circumstances preclude it? What does "forgiving" ultimately mean? I'd appreciate personal anecdotes, literary sources, philosophical musings, or practical resources that can lend advice to this question.