How to bail on plans made with a new acquaintance who has my real number?
March 2, 2012 9:57 PM Subscribe
So I got picked up while visiting a friend in a different city, and I made myself seem available but I have a boyfriend and have a lot of other things on my plate. How do I get out of following up?
posted by maykasahara to human relations (15 answers total)
I was eating dinner by myself at a cafe where people often take things to go and I got into a conversation with someone who was doing just that. We talked for a while and his food came out. I got picked up and switched numbers/email with a vague promise of emailing each other and seeing each other again since I have friends who live there as well.
After I finished my dinner and started walking home, I checked my phone and got a few text messages about hanging out again a specific point in the future, soon. And in a fit of social anxiety I said I was too busy the rest of the month and then contradicted myself and agreed to meet again the next weekend. I actually am insanely busy with schoolwork and then the weeks after that I'm going to visit my boyfriend for Spring Break then he's coming to visit me.
I was too flirtatious and made myself seem more available than I really am. Now this person knows my real name and school email (why did I do this?). But I'm not keen on starting a new relation since I have a lot on my plate and easily frazzled by the ebbs and flows of normal life.
How can I reasonably let this person down and cut off most relations and especially bail on the plans that I made?