what is good sex for men?
January 8, 2012 3:40 PM Subscribe
What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on.
The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed.
posted by anonymous to human relations (31 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I enjoy sex. I feel happy about my body, and I like men. But my ex's complaint was that I wasn't aggressive and proactive enough.
So now I worry, I would really like to please my new partner, but I'd also like to remain true to my own feelings. I am curious about different views on this. Naturally, I'll be discussing this with my partner, but I really need to not do this from the point of view of former abuse. I want to be free of all that now.