I actually dye my hair to make it darker - and I like it that way
September 6, 2011 2:32 PM Subscribe
What to say or how to respond to people who are obsessed with having light features?
posted by raztaj to society & culture (23 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So my brother and his wife just had their first child about a month ago. She's healthy and cute and rarely cries (for now). YAY! Some people in our circle of people and extended family are obsessed with having light features. Now I know skin/eye/hair color does not matter one bit when it comes to beauty and cute-as-a-button-ness, but they believe it matters a whole lot. They're obsessed with "praying" that her eyes stay blue (in all likelihood, they're probably going to turn a pretty hazel). Or whether her complexion will be fair. Or that her hair is "brunette" rather than black.
I come from a mixed family and went through this horseshit growing up, and thought I mostly escaped it - thanks to growing up and spending time around more open minded people in my generation. But now it's starting all over again with my gorgeous little healthy niece (and also comments about my siblings and mine's features being dark or light or whatever, since our mom brought the "white genes")
What's the right way to respond to obsessive, BS comments about light-ness and dark-ness (we all live in a close area, so consider that these comments are made frequently in every conversation).