How can I learn to be more assertive?
July 8, 2011 1:07 PM Subscribe
I want to be more assertive - to be able to express my needs, ask for and state things clearly without feeling guilty or being whiny. Please give me suggestions for how to learn and especially how to practice/build up to this
so it becomes a habit.
posted by needs more cowbell to human relations (20 answers total) 43 users marked this as a favorite
Ideally I'm looking for things that could function sort of like training wheels - small, easy, low- or no- stakes things I can do to help myself get in the practice of being more assertive without feeling like I'm making a giant leap. Or opportunities I can create to practice, if there aren't a lot of opportunities in my day-to-day life.
I'm also interested in books or workbooks that will help me learn or have confidence in my understanding of what it means to be assertive vs being needy, being assertive vs being aggressive/walking all over someone, etc.
Any other ideas are welcome too - I've heard interesting ideas about things like certain forms of partner dancing teaching people who to be assertive physically. I realize therapy helps some people with this, and I'm looking into it, but I haven't found a good fit in my budget yet.