Ghandi for Girls?
May 20, 2011 10:43 AM Subscribe
Looking for movies with a female protagonist who fights back in a controlled way. In other words, someone who stays within the rules of the system and is always considered a 'good girl' (even exemplary) even during and after fighting back. Personal info inside.
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My 13-year-old stepdaughter is very passive, to the point of sometimes even refusing to answer questions like "do you like this skirt?" or "what do you want to eat tonight?" Post her mother's remarriage and move to a different community, she is currently in a pretty awful situation - she doesn't want to change schools, but her mother wants her to change because of convenience. Her older brother already said "no way" and is staying at current school. She just says "I dunno," or makes dismayed squeaking noises, and as a result is about to be railroaded into the school she doesn't want, because she won't speak up to her mother in any way. She has told me, privately, that she wants to stay where she is, and I've let my husband (her father) know, but if she's not willing to fight for herself I fear it's a losing battle. Problem is, her older sister was a classic temperamental teenager who had screaming tantrums on an almost daily basis to get what she wanted, and ended up dropping out of school and alienating a lot of people, including family members. I am almost certain that part of what is going on with my stepdaughter is not wanting to be seen as acting badly or in any way like her sister. She's a really good kid.
I would love for her to see a counselor (even one at school), but that doesn't seem to be in the cards. So as a poor substitute, are there any good examples of films where the main character stands up for herself in a quiet, strong way that doesn't make her a rebel or a rule-breaker? Basically looking to find a subtle way to show her that passive but firm resistance (for lack of a better term) is also a way to get what you want. Needs to be pg-13 or below.