What are the best strategies for getting the most out of preventative therapy?
May 7, 2011 8:33 AM Subscribe
I'm thinking about therapy for the first time, but nothing's specifically wrong
. What type of therapist should I look for, and what can I do in the weeks leading up to it that would help me along the way?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (5 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in my late twenties, with a good job, a great girlfriend and a nice life. I'm also quite happy with where I am; I just had a birthday, and listing the accomplishments of the past year made me really feel good about myself.
With that said, I have some nagging issues I'd like to address with a therapist. Depression runs in my family and I feel, at times, I suffer from it, but it's never overwhelming. Some symptoms:
1) I am a bad drunk; I know everyone kind of is, but in my younger years, I would cheat or steal when I was drunk, and now I just act like a dick to the people I love. I don't drink very often (maybe once a month) but I feel like the severity of my actions when I do is troubling.
2) I am always fighting feelings of being underwhelming to the people around me. I embellish the successes in my life, I suspect, because I feel like people aren't going to be impressed with who I really am. So, I mention to people way before the process begins that I am up for a promotion (when in fact, I'm one of 40 people competing for a particular lateral-move job), and I do this so often that people are impressed and then I feel like I have to keep lying to keep them that way.
In short, I tend to catch myself lying more often than I should be, and I think it's related to issues with self-worth and the need to be something better than I am.
3) I have a difficult time concentrating on and really diving into assignments. I've found it difficult, ever since I was a kid, to sit down and ignore everything and just work on something that needs to be done. It hasn't helped that every step of the way, I've been able to get away with it, but I want to be one of those people who prioritize and don't watch TED talks on YouTube rather than write the blog post they're meaning to.
4)I'm an ideas guy. I like to start things and then I don't do the actions required to make it a reality. I've started 30 or so blogs, each with the intention of analyzing things, and I get 3-4 posts in and never really manifest the "put the work into it" part. Often times, I feel like if I put a ton of effort into something and it doesn't pan out, I'm going to feel terrible. I'm not sure that's ever really happened, though, so I don't know where I got that line of thinking from.
Sorry this is long, but the point is, I want to head to therapist before anything major happens to figure out if I have depression (or ADD, or something) and to do some preventative maintenance to get over some of the nagging things about myself that I feel are holding me back.
Have you done this? What type of therapist should I be looking for? My insurance kicks in three weeks from now, so I have some time to do some work on my own.
Are there things I can do before walking into the office that would allow me to really make significant progress? Any experiences with seeing a therapist when nothing's really that wrong would be helpful.