Is there a "Miss Manners" attachment to this thing?
February 22, 2011 12:42 PM Subscribe
Plate o' wedding beans: We're starting to receive early wedding gifts, both from people attending and not attending the ceremony in 3.5 weeks. Should we open them? Acknowledge their receipt? Send proper thank-you notes? Help me, Emily-Post-i-fites.
posted by supercres to Grab Bag (19 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
We've only gotten a few so far, but I guess more are coming if this is a pattern. They're all from our Amazon registry, and they range from baking sheets (from someone not attending the wedding) to a stand mixer (!!!-- from my family who are attending).
I guess with people who are coming, it's a convenience thing, so they don't have to store the thing and drive up with it. But I feel like they have the tracking numbers, so they know we've gotten it, and I know that they know I've gotten it, and so on ad infinitum.
I figure I have three options: ignore them until after the wedding, which seems odd since I'll see these people before then; tell the sender that we got "something" from them, i.e., play dumb (seems disingenuous); or go ahead and send proper thank-you cards-- the same ones we'd send to people bringing a gift to the event itself.
Yeah, I'm thinking way too hard about this. We're just so bowled over that we want to express our gratitude as soon as is proper to do so, rather than being coy for the sake of outdated etiquette.
(Plus, tracking numbers and two-day shipping sort of make all that anachronistic anyway.)