I've noticed that a lot of the stress in my life stems from my inability to accept that some things will never change, and my feelings of injustice around that, especially when people in positions of power agree that I'm correct and changes would be warranted, but cannot change.
For example: I work in an office where I was hired, in part, to identify opportunities for improvement in function and process. I've done a lot of this, and done a lot of good, but I can't help feeling really down about things that are objectively damaging or wrong to the organization but cannot be changed due to things out of my control - or out of my bosses' control, or even out of the organization's control altogether. It's so frustrating to be able to identify exactly what's wrong, know what it would take to change it, only to learn after all that work that it's not something that can be changed.
I'm not looking for work-related answers here, though. What I'm really looking for is how you, yourself
got to the point of accepting that some things just never change. (Aside from listening to Bruce Hornsby
all day, which I suppose is an option, albeit not a great one.) Everyday tactics, wisdom you picked up along the way that changed your outlook, etc.
For background, I spent a lot of my youth as a rabble-rouser activist, done my share of protests, letter writing, righteous indignation, witnessed police brutality, etc. About what you'd expect a young empowered person with a strong opinion about social issues in the 90's and early 00's to do or be. In contrast to that, I've somehow been able to accept and enjoy that I'm pretty much a yuppie now, and enjoy my lifestyle in general. I just can't shake this main component of stress from my life, and am looking for MeFi advice on how to cope and be a better-functioning person.