January 15, 2011 7:44 PM Subscribe
How can I overcome my anxiety over Facebook and other highly interactive social media?
posted by bad grammar to computers & internet (13 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I have a Facebook page and a LinkedIn page; they are presently static. I have raised my privacy settings and I ignore friending requests. I was alarmed when I started receiving friend requests from people I didn't know; that was when I raised my privacy settings to the maximum.
I am made uneasy by the promiscuous way that information spreads on Facebook (to paraphrase Neal Stephenson on the Internet in his alternate world in Anathem).
I'm 40 years old, so this may be partly generational. I recently graduated from a master's in library science program that emphasized digital resources and new media, and most of the students, about a decade or more younger than myself, were Facebook addicts to an extent that I didn't care for. For example, some students were doing Facebook on laptops during classes.
I also work in a workplace that requires confidentiality; Facebook and other social media sites are blocked on the workplace computers, and we employees have had to sign agreements to not reveal any personal information about our workplace or our clients. In any case I want to focus on my job, as even if I was able to access Facebook at work, I would not be able to do my job if I had to look at Facebook every 15 minutes.
However, I am on the job market and I'm worried that I am missing out on connections. What can I do to overcome this anxiety and to control Facebook interactions, and also to keep Facebook use down to say 15-30 min. a day after work, as I do not have the time to be on it constantly?
As for LinkedIn, I am on the market for a library job where posting purely professional content (information about resources, committees, and initiatives) would probably be acceptable.
I'm aware that it's ironic to be posting this sort of question on AskMe and that I am not afraid of Metafilter despite the fact that I can't control what the commenters say. It's the anonymity. I'm aware that on Facebook, too, that genuine personality and contact may be an illusion, that many people "brand" themselves, but I'm not sure that I could keep that up aside from the purely professional librarian role.