Can I exchange my cats?
December 28, 2010 5:50 AM Subscribe
I don't love my cats. Can I humanely surrender them and find a better match?
posted by Jay Levitt to pets & animals (44 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I always had cats growing up. When I was a young adult, I adopted two 8-week-old kittens (brothers) and I cherished our 12-13 years together until they died of cancer. We were close, and they were never apart - they'd sleep together, groom each other, etc.
After the second brother died, I grieved a few weeks and then adopted two new 8-week-old kittens. I wanted brothers again, but came home with a brother/sister pair. Or so I thought. At neutering time, turned out I had two sisters!
They're 20 months old now, and though they get along, and occasionally play together, they aren't close to either each other or me, and the (er) "older" sister gets aggressive if I have female visitors. They sleep at the foot of my bed; that's about as close as we get to cuddling. The "younger" sister is friendly, but she wants only play time, not affection.
In short, we're not bonding. I'm unhappy, but I'm also feeling guilty about not giving them an energetic, loving home. Yet I fear that if I surrender them for adoption, even at a no-kill shelter, I'll be placed on a do-not-adopt list; I can't just trade them in like an old car. And they're past their "prime" adoptive age, so they might end up living in cages for months. I'd rather take them back than cause them trauma, but I'd prefer even more that they find a loving home and I find a better match.
Is there an ethical, responsible, and humane way for me to find them a better home? Or is giving them up as adult cats inherently inhumane?