Is something wrong with me? Or is this normal?

July 26, 2010 3:16 PM

How does sexual attraction work? I don't seem to get beaners often in real life, though I do hear of others getting tons a day. At 19 is this something to worry about. I do know that sexual attraction is mental and leads to arousal. Maybe I'm just not getting aroused or maybe just not noticing it? By the way I have been sexually attracted to guys in real life, but I don't get boners all the time that I'm sexually attracted though I have on some occasions. Is this normal or do I have a low sex drive or something similar? When I look at certain material I do get aroused and getting myself off to sex fantasies works out though maybe not as strongly as when I was 15-16. Is everything ok with me or should I get something checked up? (by the way, my fantasies are to guys) By the way, one of the reasons why I am asking this is that I'm mostly indoors during my summer break and not in a college environment and whenever I do go out somewhere on occasion, my attractions don't seem to be as strong as when I'm in college every day or so. Thanks for reading!
posted by antgly to Human Relations (10 answers total)

Please, please seek therapy. This is not healthy.
posted by desjardins at 3:18 PM on July 26, 2010 [1 favorite]

I dunno but are the same guy as who posted two asks below as anonymous? Kinda think you might want to have this deleted if so.
posted by otherwordlyglow at 3:19 PM on July 26, 2010

antgly, I know that the last several times you've asked this or similar questions, you've told us that you have difficulty accessing professional mental health resources in your current living situation. However, AskMe can't help you here. Please look at some of the resources that we previously recommended to you.
posted by decathecting at 3:20 PM on July 26, 2010 [1 favorite]

You're asking the same kinds of questions every week, and I think you have issues that can't be solved by a few sentences from strangers on the internet. I hope you get help soon.
posted by StrikeTheViol at 3:22 PM on July 26, 2010

Did you just post this question too?
posted by MaryDellamorte at 3:22 PM on July 26, 2010

Go to your student health center and ask to see a counselor there.
posted by Carol Anne at 3:24 PM on July 26, 2010 [1 favorite]

Dude, you need help. This is what everybody has been telling you every time you ask roughly the same question wrapped in different words. What is preventing you from doing this?

You next question should be: I need therapy to deal with some unresolved sexual issues. Obstacles that make this difficult are X, Y and Z. How can I overcome these obstacles in order to get therapy?

Seriously, figure out what X, Y, and Z are, wait a week and ask the question I suggested above.
posted by chillmost at 3:25 PM on July 26, 2010 [4 favorites]

I guess this answers my question. And seriously, you need professional help and I completely agree with chillmost's suggestion about the next question you should ask.
posted by MaryDellamorte at 3:29 PM on July 26, 2010

Antgly, this is 4 questions in 6 weeks on the same subject, and for 6 weeks people have been telling you to seek help, therapy or otherwise. Please listen to them all.
posted by ellieBOA at 3:33 PM on July 26, 2010

This should answer some questions, too -- Angtly, please get professional help; there is none here which can suffice, and if asking the same questions, over and over and over, aren't getting you a worthy answer, you need to look elsewhere.
posted by AzraelBrown at 3:34 PM on July 26, 2010