Why is flirting hard to read and easy to mistake?
April 29, 2010 10:00 PM Subscribe
Trying to decipher whether or not to embarrass myself by attempting to flirt with a guy in one of my classes. Should I even bother? Am I reading WAY too much into a comment? I was always bad at this.
posted by ChucksNPaintbrushes to human relations (51 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Ok for those of you who weren't involved in my last question, I am in a relationship with a guy who I'm seriously considering leaving. He's bipolar type II, OCD, paranoid (possibly with schitzophrenia but so far, undiagnosed), ADHD, and suffers from heart problems; all at 24. I'm reaching my limit on patience and I feel like I'm finding little things I don't like about him because I'm generally unhappy with him and have been for most of the last 5 months. For more details, look at my other post.
Now, I'm taking German II this semester. Part of the classwork is that we have to give 3 group presentations, 2 of which are 100% in German. For the first 2 we could pick our own groups (she picked the last set due to lazy people half-assing their work). This guy, "M", had missed class the day we picked and didn't have one. He ended up being joining me and this other girl. He was really easy to work with and did good work. Blah blah blah all of that. He's never been a huge talker but then again, when you're constantly in new groups of people every 4 months, you don't have much time to get to know anyone. After we started working on the first project, he'd smile at me when I'd walk into class. This within itself doesn't say much as he's a fairly polite person and probably does this with everyone. Pretty much every conversation we had was classwork related.
Now, the last day of class for this semester is Friday. On Wednesday (this class is a MWF class), on the way out of the building, he stopped me specifically to ask if I was going to be in class Friday. It didn't seem like he was just making conversation because he hadn't said a word to me the entire time.
Is this guy just being nice or is he maybe trying to flirt a bit. Keep in mind he's seems to be shy or at least really quiet. Most of our conversations, although classwork related, have been slightly awkward with lots of eye contact and smiling.